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What to Do If She is Still Interested in Her Ex

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17-year-old Ian from Denmark writes:

I have some problems with my ex girlfriend. We broke up a week ago, but yesterday she suddenly ignore me. cuz i came to her place i tried to talk to her but she is ignoring me she dont want me there she dont even want me to sit anywhere in her room. i always asked her if i still have a chance to have her back she always say maybe maybe not like why dont she just tell me cuz i know that she know but the problem is she dont tell me anything. she compared me over her ex boyfriend which is cause of some of our break up. we broke up severel times. but im here still holding on. i dont know what should i do now she completely ignoring me again. and i think she have feelings with her ex cuz she said im no good to her but her ex always understand her those stuff. please help me. and if i just need to move on please help me how.

Hello Ian,

It sounds like she is distancing herself from you. Therefore, you need to give her the space that she is requesting. If she is interested in her ex boyfriend the two of you don’t stand a chance.

In your situation I would let this one go.

Take it one day at a time. This video should also help:

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Chauntel

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Things Your Girlfriend Thinks But Doesn’t Say – Chauntel Fun Fridays!

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Girls are complicated. They always say one thing that really translate to mean something entirely different. Watch Chauntel give a few reasonable translations.

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13 and in Love With a Married Woman

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13-year-old Antoine writes:

Hey Chauntel,

Theres this women i like. I’m only 13, and she is like 21 and married. Would it matter if i tell her or should i just keep it balled up inside and never tell anybody?

Hi Antoine,

It’s perfectly normal for you to have a crush, but telling her how you feel would be inappropriate. Sometimes we have to control our inner thoughts. It is during these times that we keep our thoughts to ourselves.

The first issue that we have here is age. She is much too old for you. In fact, she could legally go to jail if she had any dealings with you. Second she is married, and you should never pursue a married woman. It is not honorable.

There will be plenty of wonderful women in your life. So, you are going to have to let this one go. Instead of thinking of it as keeping it bottled up inside, think of it as letting go of your impossible desires.

This is one you are going to have to walk away from. If you really feel like you need to share it. Talk to a close friend who you can trust, or find an artistic expression. You could write a poem or paint something. You can even write  a song. Just don’t attach her name to any of it.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Teen Suicide Prevention – Dating Advice- Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel addresses how to prevent relationships that drive you to want to commit suicide. She answers the question of a 15 year old girl who is considering killing herself and what she needs to do to fix it! askchauntel@gmail.com

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5 Simple Ways to Make Your Husband Smile….at YOU! – Marriage Mondays

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Hey Ladies,

If you’d rather keep him smiling instead of frowning and fightin’, you might want to consider these tips.

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1. Take Time to Listen: As women, we sometimes get so caught up in ourselves that we sometimes forget to take a moment to listen to what our mate is saying. He may not repeat it a million times like we do, but if he said it then he must have meant it. So consider his feelings and make sure that he understands that they matter.

2. Make Him Feel Loved: Amidst the hustle and bustle of the day, we can forget the little things that he sometimes requests. Try to find 3 of those things that you can add to your week. Trust me he will notice. 

3. Be Attentive: When he talks about his hobbies that you don’t care too much about actually pay attention, and give a comment that isn’t snarky. Take the time to enjoy the conversation and even add to it. He mostly just wants to share with you, but he would love it if you actually cared about it.

4. Encourage Him: Men always want a woman who can add light to their life. If he mentions a new idea, or even an old one. Smile and if it’s not something that’s going to harm him in anyway encourage him and support his decisions.

5. Cook For Him: Ahhhh, you knew this was coming. Whether or not a man can cook, he always loves it when his lady does it for him. If you don’t know how learn.

If you do this right you will keep him around for a long time. ‘Cause guess what? It’s nice to be nice. 🙂 

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Domestic Violence and I have 2 Kids

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32-year-old Lesley writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I have 2 children their father passed away. I started dating 2 years ago a year back he started telling what to do, where to go where i can not go. And when i did not listen to his commands, he started beating and i kept quiet and he will tell me the next day that he did not mean to hurt me.

But now it is happening each and every week that i cannot attend church services coz im seeing other men.

Please help what do I do? I cant sleep at night  i wish that i could be around people all the time. My self esteem is so down. I feel useless.

by ambro domestic violenceDear Lesley,

It is difficult when you loose someone you love. Sometimes relationships like the one that you are in come into your life and become unbearable. I understand that you are in love with this man by the simple fact that you are still with him.

If not for your own life, you have been blessed with the gift of children, and for this reason you have to get out of this situation. This man does not mean any good to you. And it’s horrible to put your children through this. They do not need to see their mother being abused. It will tear them up inside.

I understand that you are in a controlling, abusive, and extremely dangerous situation. If he is controlling you to the point where you cannot even go to church you are going to have to get out soon. Make an excuse to leave the house and take the kids with you. Even if it is just the grocery store. Don’t take anything. That is not important. Take what is absolutely necessary and get out. There are women’s shelters that you can go to that will provide you with everything you need to start over.

This is a very unfortunate situation, and I will be praying for you. You need to seek help and support. Don’t try to do this alone. You may even consider reporting this to the police as soon as possible.

If you don’t get out of this situation your children will suffer. I am not sure of local agencies where you are, but if you visit http://www.domesticviolence.org they should be able to direct you to the services that you need.

Be Blessed and thanks for writing.

Chauntel

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New Video: What Attracts a Guy to a Girl – Ask Chauntel Radio

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My Military Parents Don’t Support My Career Decisions

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Grace writes:

Hello Chauntel,

Recently we moved as my family’s in the military. I will be a senior in high school next year and my parents have a certain college in mind for me. The problem is that i don’t want to go there. I know what i want to do for my career but they don’t want to send me to any schools that offer pre-vet classes. I found some decent colleges and prices but they still want me to stay in the state. i have tried several times to show them other options but if i don’t go to a college in this state they will hear none of it. Do you have any advice? Thank you in advance.
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Hi Grace,
It is very important to continue to show respect your parents, but when you begin making decisions that are not inline with their plan for you it can become difficult.
However, you have to express how you feel to them. In reality, you are the one who is going to be going to class and doing the work, and once school is over you will be working the job.
It is unfair for your parents to try to force you into a career that you don’t want to do, but trust me you are not the only one who is dealing with this. Our parents invest a lot in our lives, and into our education. Sometimes they do not know where to draw the line.
It is up to you to bring it to their attention, and you must be gentle in your approach. Make sure that they understand that you respect their wishes, but that you have to be the one to make this decision as it is going to affect your life directly. Ask them to respect your wishes. They may not, and if they don’t it is ok. In time they will come around.
What I don’t want you to do, is go to a college or pursue a degree that you don’t want. This would be a waste of your time and money.
What  I want you to do is respectfully decline your parents recommendation, and find a college program that is inline with your career goals and apply there.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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34 and Tired of Online Dating

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34-year-old Farzan from Sweden writes:

Hello Chauntel! I have a question and this is easier to ask a woman than a man.

When it comes to internet dating I know what to do, and I have meet many women different ages without problem. But im soo tired of internet and im seeing soo many women looking at me when im outside, at the bus stop, in a caffe and so on. My question is what to DO when a woman stares at u time to time. Im not blind, i know the look, im only shy 🙂 If u can give me few tip i can take it from there. I see sooooo many women look at me and i cant respond and i want to bang my head to a wall of being this shy.

 

computer Hi Farzan,

Women who continue to make eye contact with you are trying to signal to you that they are interested and waiting for you to approach them. I know this can seem odd, or even awkard for most men because guys don’t usually read body language as well as women.

It is just in our nature to send you a signal and wait for you to send one back. The problem with this is that signals can get mixed up and confused at times. So, if you see a women looking your way on a constant basis who slips you a smile, it might be safe to say that she is interested and trying to get your attention. It’s just a subtle way of flirting. So…how do you respond to this, right? I know that is what you were thinking.

You smile back making eye contact then you approach her. Say hello, introduce yourself, and start up a conversation. From there follow up with asking for her number because you enjoyed the conversation. If she is interested, she will comply and slip you her digits. If not, well she might have just been being friendly when she slipped you that smile, but it is definitely worth a try. It beats waiting at your computer glaring at your online dating profile.

Not to say that they don’t work for some, but it is not for everyone. If you don’t like it then don’t do it. Just get out more. Get around people, meet your friends friends. Go where women are, then you will have more to choose from. It is time to get out of your routine. Move away from your bubble so that you can begin meeting more women.

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Chauntel

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Should I Date My Friend? – Ask Chauntel

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Ginny writes:

Hey Chauntel,

I asked u a question a few months ago and you gave me a great answer.  I was wondering if you could give me advice on another issue?

I use to have a crush on one of my friends ( haha but all the girls did at the time). We really got close this year and I really opened up to him. He really help me sort things out with my life and he’s always there ready to help with what ever. I started to except that we would just be best friends cause he never gave any indication to wanting more. While we were texting yesterday I asked who he liked and he said “guess”. I didn’t want to guess me cause I was afraid of rejection. so I kinda acted like I didn’t know what he was talking about. He said “the friend ” he liked that he thought God was pointing him to her and he thought that God made them get so close so he could see the similarities.

Me and him are soo similar. I’ve never had that kind of connection with ANYONE. Im just so confused bc we’ve been so close and I don’t want to try and lose my best friend but at the same time I’ve never been so compatible with anyone like I have with him. In a way I think of think its the right thing to do and I feel like god made our paths cross for a reason.  Can you give me any advice?  I’d really appreciate it. I don’t know what to do.

Hi Ginny,

God truly has a way of working in our lives. I truly believe the scripture that says, “All things work together for them that love the Lord,” found in Romans 8:28. If you continue to let God guide you he will take you exactly where you want to go in life. So continue to live in his will.

As for the guy, I think it is great that the two of you have built a friendship. In order for your relationship to grow you need a solid foundation in friendship. Since you have that you are already at a great start.

Here is my two sense. If you like him and he likes you, love is worth the risk. Please keep in mind that if you date your friend the dynamics of your relationship will change. The good news is, if it doesn’t work out  you two will still have a good chance at being friends because you have built a solid foundation in your friendship!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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