My Boyfriend is a Drug Addict

Alek writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I saw your video on youtube about “letting go of ex”,so I would like you to give me advice about a problem I have.

I Iove one guy which goes with me on same college,we are friends,more then friends,he was my first.
The problem is that I really do love him,am not only in love,it’s more than that.
Am always there for him,I care,I wanna help him,I met his father and sister,I was in his house etc…but the problem is that he is ex drug addict,and his kinda strange…he talks about 3D dimensions,and this kind of stuff,like after death…and his mind is all the time in it.I do and try to understand him,cuz am open minded person usually…but he started it again – using drugs…(marihuana,mushrooms..) and he druged me once without me accepting it.
After I knew it,I became very angry and hurt,and I yelled…and then he said like “you know that I care,I love you”,come on,what is this please ??? how can you love someone and try to destroy them to be like you are ?! He says to me you deserve better person that I am…he doesn’t have friends,at least not real ones,he runs away from emotions,he is negative…but again there is other side of him,and this confuses me.
Lately we didn’t talk or met, 2 weeks or more,and I don’t wanna send messages or anything because am hurted deeply but again I miss him,and I don’t know what to do anymore.My friends keep telling me that he is jerk,that he doesn’t know what he has in front of him,and that he doesn’t deserve me…I know that they care,and to them this is easy to say…but why do I feel guilty then,and I don’t even know for what.
What should I do dear Chauntel ? cuz everything is mixed up and complicated.Sometimes I think that it is the best if I let go of him and everything…and just leave him.
Hello Alek,
Yes, considering that he is a druggy and has forced drugs on you, I would say it is time to walk away. You are right in each of your assumptions.
If he really “loved” you he wouldn’t involve you in this. This is pretty simple, this guy is bad news.
You may have serious feelings for him, but you have to love yourself more than you love him and let this one go.
Be encouraged, everything will be ok. You are making the right decision in walking away.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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I’m 14…& In a Long Distance Relationship

14-year-old Kyle from Great Britain writes:

Hey Chauntel,

I’ve been watching your videos since 2010 and I felt you were the right person to ask. My girlfriend now lives in America, and I haven’t seen her for about 8 months, and I am going to see her in a few days. I am worried as to how it’ll turn out and I would like to ask how should I act and what should I do once I see her? Thanks a bunch, Kyle. 🙂

Hi Kyle!

I answered your question in my radio broadcast yesterday. You will find your story around timecode 18:20

I Stammer When I Talk to Girls

14-year-old Shrey from Kenya writes:

Hi Chauntel,

Well, I’m a very shy guy when it comes to talking to girls face to face and sometimes stammer when talking to girls who I like. Can u please help me and tell me what should I do?

Hi Shrey:

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19-year-old Jordan from Illinios writes,

Hi Chauntel,

I’m not ashamed of it or anything, but I’ve never been kissed. I’ve dated, but we kissed(it wasn’t meaningful, if you know what I mean) so I don’t consider it a kiss, they were more like pecks. I have everything going for me right now. I just finished my 1st year of college a couple of months ago, my grades are really god, and I have an abundance of people who care/love me (boys and girls) I’ve dated two guys, but I’ve never been in a serious relationship. I do believe that good things come to those who wait, and that God knows what’s best for me as well. I always used to get the guys who would crush on me, but would tell me right before we would graduate, and I probably will never see them again. Sometimes, I wonder if it’s me/is it guys. I’m a pretty outgoing person, and I/others believe that I’m a beautiful young woman. I’m not saying that I want to be in a relationship right now, but do you think that it’s a guy think as to why guys don’t ask me out/is it me?

Hi Jordan,

I answered your question at the beginning of my radio show yesterday:

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What to Do If She is Still Interested in Her Ex

17-year-old Ian from Denmark writes:

I have some problems with my ex girlfriend. We broke up a week ago, but yesterday she suddenly ignore me. cuz i came to her place i tried to talk to her but she is ignoring me she dont want me there she dont even want me to sit anywhere in her room. i always asked her if i still have a chance to have her back she always say maybe maybe not like why dont she just tell me cuz i know that she know but the problem is she dont tell me anything. she compared me over her ex boyfriend which is cause of some of our break up. we broke up severel times. but im here still holding on. i dont know what should i do now she completely ignoring me again. and i think she have feelings with her ex cuz she said im no good to her but her ex always understand her those stuff. please help me. and if i just need to move on please help me how.

Hello Ian,

It sounds like she is distancing herself from you. Therefore, you need to give her the space that she is requesting. If she is interested in her ex boyfriend the two of you don’t stand a chance.

In your situation I would let this one go.

Take it one day at a time. This video should also help:

I HopeThis Helps!

Chauntel

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I’m Scared to Tell Him That I Like Him

7th Grade Allie from Kansas writes:

Dear Chauntel,

The teacher calls us love birds in gym class. We have a friendship, but now should I do? I am scared to ask him out. What should I do?

Hi Allie,

Nothing good comes easy. Love is worth the risk so, you have to get past the fear and let him know that you are interested.

Tell him that you appreciate his friendship, but that you are interested in getting to know him better. See if he is also interested in getting to know you better. If he says yes, then great go get yo’ man. If he says no, then it’s ok you can still be friends.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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