In this relationship advice column video for women, I answer the question of a wife who says that her husband cheated on her, but she stayed. How should she handle this infidelity?
Leslie writes about NSSI, Non Suicidal Self Injury:
Hi Chauntel,
I hear you can help girls like me like to stop cutting. Well, my problem is that I am cutting cuz my friend raped me.
Hi Leslie,
Wow, I am so very, very sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine how you feel. I do however, want you to share this with someone that you know and trust, so that you can receive the help and support that you need.
Sometimes, we hurt ourselves to try to ease the pain that others have caused us. What you will learn is that hurting yourself will not ease the pain that you feel from that terrible experience.
I want you to know that God loves you more than you can imagine, and what happened to you is not your fault. You need to report whoever did this to you, for you and for anyone else who might be hurt by this person in the future.
I also, want you to seek some professional help to deal with overcoming the pain that this experience is causing in your life.
To get you started, I want to tell you that turning to self injury is not the answer. It will not take back what happened to you.
What I want you to do is take the power back in your life. Replace this negative behavior with a positive one. This way, you overcome this situation instead of beating yourself up about it.
You need to find out what is triggering you; what is causing you to want to harm yourself. It probably has a lot to deal with not dealing with your feelings.
Turn away from cutting yourself and turn your action into loving yourself and finding that love for yourself again. Do not let this person lead your life. Allow God to lead it for God is love.
You are the only one who can make the change in your life. You cannot erase what happened to you, but you have the power to choose how you will overcome it. I believe in you, and I know that you are greater than this situation. Thank you for being the voice of so many other girls like you. You have great courage, but you were not meant to overcome this alone.
Please, get support and prayer for what you are going through. My community is praying with and for you. I will provide some resources below.
May God bless you, and please know that you are not alone. There are unfortunately others who have been raped and abused, and they have overcome it. You can too. Here is a story of a girl you may relate to. Her story is different, but her coping of cutting herself is the same:
Thanks so much for writing me, it means the world to me.
In this relationship advice q&a I answer the question should she block her boyfriend on Facebook after she pretended to cheat on him. Hi, I am Chauntel a Relationship Coach and Advice Columnist. Welcome to the advice column! Give your advice and ask a question.
In this relationship advice q&a I answer the question should she block her boyfriend on Facebook after she pretended to cheat on him. Hi, I am Chauntel a Relationship Coach and Advice Columnist. Welcome to the advice column! Give your advice and ask a question.
In this video I share my tips on starting a youtube channel for business for all of you who want to make money with your channel. If you want to grow your business with YouTube, and monetize your videos there are some tips and tricks that have nothing to do with ads that you might consider to grow your channel! I help mom and women entrepreneurs get their lifestyle channels off the ground by putting their passions to work! So let’s get started!
✍️ GIVE YOUR ADVICE: Click into the field under “Leave a Reply” to give your advice or perspective! (Don’t have a WordPress login? Take 60 seconds to sign- up here. )
💰GIVE MONETARILY: DONATE $5 -$10 ONCE/MONTHLY THROUGH PAYPAL
😄 (You all keep the posts coming! )
💎 BECOME A JEWEL!
Get free advice and support! Join Savvy Social Jewels, my Christian woman and mompreneur community and receive weekly advice, information, and support from Chauntel and other Jewels! You will also get the bi-monthly newsletter.
In this video, I share my experience and advice on being a young traditional Christian wife! If you want to be a Godly wife then you should apply these 11 Christian Marriage help tips to your marriage.
✍️ GIVE YOUR ADVICE: Click into the field under “Leave a Reply” to give your advice or perspective! (Don’t have a WordPress login? Take 60 seconds to sign- up here. )
💰GIVE MONETARILY: DONATE $5 -$10 ONCE/MONTHLY THROUGH PAYPAL
😄 (You all keep the posts coming! )
💎 BECOME A JEWEL!
Get free advice and support! Join Savvy Social Jewels, my Christian woman and mompreneur community and receive weekly advice, information, and support from Chauntel and other Jewels! You will also get the bi-monthly newsletter.
Hey there mommy blogger if you are ready to start a mommy YouTube channel then watch my video and learn how to build a successful YouTube channel. If you want to start having fun with the rest of us, become a mommy vlogger. Producing content is so much fun and although growing a youtube channel is a lot of work, there are so many opportunities to gain as a mom influencer. We have a chance to share bits of our life and help others while documenting the love for our children! I share some tips and tricks on getting starting on the platform for beginners so that you can grow your challenge and your following.
▶️ SUGGESTED VIDEO POST: coming soon
🌺. When you are done reading this post let’s connect!
✍️ GIVE YOUR ADVICE: Click into the field under “Leave a Reply” to give your advice or perspective! (Don’t have a WordPress login? Take 60 seconds to sign- up here. )
💰GIVE MONETARILY: DONATE $5 -$10 ONCE/MONTHLY THROUGH PAYPAL
😄 (You all keep the posts coming! )
💎 BECOME A JEWEL!
Get free advice and support! Join Savvy Social Jewels, my Christian woman and mompreneur community and receive weekly advice, information, and support from Chauntel and other Jewels! You will also get the bi-monthly newsletter.
✍️ GIVE YOUR ADVICE: Click into the field under “Leave a Reply” to give your advice or perspective! (Don’t have a WordPress login? Take 60 seconds to sign- up here. )
💰GIVE MONETARILY: DONATE $5 -$10 ONCE/MONTHLY THROUGH PAYPAL
😄 (You all keep the posts coming! )
💎 BECOME A JEWEL!
Get free advice and support! Join Savvy Social Jewels, my Christian woman and mompreneur community and receive weekly advice, information, and support from Chauntel and other Jewels! You will also get the bi-monthly newsletter.
I wanted to share my response to Ask E. Jean Caroll’s advice column from Elle magazine. Here is the question:
Dear E. Jean: I’m a 25-year-old marine biologist researching dolphins in Southern California. This past year, I met a man and have fallen very deeply in love. (I didn’t think I was capable of it!) He’s extremely kind, generous, considerate, passionate, thoughtful, attractive, outdoorsy, and adventurous. But he is soon moving to Colorado to pursue his career in the Rocky Mountains. I’m happy that he will be doing what he loves, Miss Eeee, but I’m so sad to lose him! He feels the same about me. I’m not interested in a long-distance relationship—it seems irrational to commit to someone when we have no future plans to live in the same area. I’m so frustrated by it all! He wants to be in the mountains, and my life is by the sea. What are we to do? —Sidetracked in SoCal
Ask Chauntel Response:
Dear Sidetrack in SoCal,
What an exciting career that you have! Now, let me tell you love will make you do crazy things 🙂
If you are ready to be serious with him forget about your long distance limit, and try dating him while he is in the mountains. It will give you both time to see if you are ready for the next step, marriage. Once he is gone for a bit, you will know if you cannot see life without him. That way you will be confident in your decision on if he is the right one to make this huge change for and leave with no regrets. If you rush it before you are absolutely sure, then you might build resentment overtime.
So test out the process, brainstorm alternative careers in the mountains, visit him there and imagine if you can see yourself on the mountain peak away from sea. Then you will know if it is right. Love is worth a chance!
If you will be heartbroken from being separated from the thing you love most, then it would mean he is not the one. At least, you will know that love is possible for you!
If you think you can leave the sea for the mountain peak then my sister I tell you can find other creative ways to use your scientific knowledge out there, and hey if you are in SoCal the beach isn’t too far from the mountains so maybe you buy a home in both places and visit between together! What a fun life you will have!
There are ways to make love and career work together splendidly, the question is, is he the one worth the trouble? If the answer is yes then be flexible, and run away with the prince to find life as a forester fun and exciting. Who knows what adventures await!
✍️ GIVE YOUR ADVICE: Click into the field under “Leave a Reply” to give your advice or perspective! (Don’t have a WordPress login? Take 60 seconds to sign- up here. )
💰GIVE MONETARILY: DONATE $5 -$10 ONCE/MONTHLY THROUGH PAYPAL
😄 (You all keep the posts coming! )
💎 BECOME A JEWEL!
Get free advice and support! Join Savvy Social Jewels, my Christian woman and mompreneur community and receive weekly advice, information, and support from Chauntel and other Jewels! You will also get the bi-monthly newsletter.
