Why Won’t He Call Me His Girlfriend?

by marin

So the guy you have been dating is a little skeptical about “titles”.

You feel like you are in a relationship with him, yet he doesn’t quite call you his girlfriend. This reality leaves you dazed, confused, and sometimes a little frustrated. So What do you do?

You get upset about it, but he always seems to find a way to make you forget about it when you are around him. He knows just what to say, and when to say it. However, when you’re alone all you can do is dissect the situation and try to understand it.

Why won’t he call you his girlfriend? It’s simple. He doesn’t want to commit to you.

Then you ask, well how can that be and why not? When you begin asking these two questions your frustration will build. Why?

Well, if I give you the honest answer you won’t feel any better about the situation than you did before you asked, but since you want to know I guess I will share.

When it comes to a committed relationship, guys can sometimes be scared off by the idea of being “stuck” with one girl. In many cases they would just rather leave their options open.

So, if you are dating “that guy”, what should you do? Well you can chose to take one of two options. One you can accept him for who he is and not pressure the situation, while also keeping your options open and dating other guys. If you choose this option be sure to add value to his life, you don’t just want to be “another girl”. However, keep in mind this can only go on so long because eventually you will move on, if you do this right. Reason being, you should be dating other guys who are a viable option for you. If this guy really likes you he will shape up in time, right before you move on.

Your second option is friend-zone him, and find a guy who is actually in the mental space to want a committed relationship. They are out there waiting on you.

BUT..whatever you do, don’t just get into a relationship, just to be in one. Settling is so not cute!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

email questions to askchauntel@gmail.com

Advertisements

I’m a Big Dude…How Do I Attract a Good Woman?

25-year-old Donald from Mississippi writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I’m a big dude, and I wanted to know how to attract a good woman? I’m so tired of being alone I’m ready 4 a family. I want to be a provider.

Hi Donald,

If you are ready for a family then, it is time for you to begin to take hold of your life. Pursuing a relationship in your frame of mind is unhealthy.

Before, you begin courting a woman and looking to build a family with her, you are going to have to find confidence in yourself.

So, you need to be confident in who you are before I would recommend that you begin pursuing a relationship.

What does this mean?

Your weight is not the problem, it’s your criticalness of yourself that is going to hold you back. If you don’t like the size that you are, and it is effecting your ability to be confident in who you are, then you need to begin making wiser decisions when it comes to eating right and exercising. This doesn’t mean starve yourself, or be at the gym non-stop.

In fact, in means just the opposite. You need to make a plan for your physical health. For your life, and the life of your future family. Get with a nutritionist who can help map this out for you.

When you begin feeling comfortable with yourself, then we can begin to think about what you need to pursue a long lasting relationship, but it seems to me that you aren’t quite ready.

Going into a long term committed relationship when you are so down on yourself will not be a healthy situation for you or your future spouse. I am glad that you want to begin making positive changes in your life, that is great, but we need to prepare you for those changes.

Be encouraged, it is not all about how you look. The woman is going to eventually look past that once she begins to see who you are. But in this case, you don’t feel comfortable with yourself, and I am not ready to advise you into a relationship until that changes.

Feel free to take advantage of my free 15-minute-coaching session by using the coaching coupon. 

When we get you mentally ready for a relationship after first establishing a love for yourself then we address the second part of your question. You dig?

Be Blessed

Chauntel

email questions to askchauntel@gmail.com

http://www.askchauntel.com

Things Your Girlfriend Thinks But Doesn’t Say – Chauntel Fun Fridays!

Girls are complicated. They always say one thing that really translate to mean something entirely different. Watch Chauntel give a few reasonable translations.

http://www.askchauntel.com
@askchauntel

Ask Chauntel Voicemail: (641) 715-3900 ext. 10988

Ask Chauntel Radio: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askchauntel

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Ask-Chauntel/107899835937155

Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/askchauntel