In this video I share what happens when you have no kissing chemistry. I also share five first kissing mistakes!
So about a week ago, I heard myself utter these words to a friend, “Oh being a mom of two is not as hard as I thought.” Boy did I eat the words today.
Now, its true we all have our good days and bad, but sometimes you just feel stuck in a rut. The truth is nothing particularly bad happened today. It is just everything seems a bit harder when you add not one but two kids to the equation.
Honestly it’s amazing that I even have a second for reflection. Thanks to a husband a couple of nappers, I had a chance to share these thoughts.
When you are a new mom it can be overwhelming to figure it all out.
Then you realize, you don’t. You just take it day by day, and as a Christian woman, I pray my way through it.
Getting out of the house seems to be an undertaking. I know ya’ll mamas out there feel me on this. I saw my mom struggle through it, and I thought “no it won’t be that hard for me.” Boy was I wrong. I now know exactly how my mom felt.
Babies are more than a blessing, they are a miracle, and I thank God for mine, but boy having a newborn and a toddler is some work! Shout out to all my mamas out there!
Can anyone relate? What do you do to get through those rough days?
By the way, as I finish this post, nap time is over. LOL. Hubby just called me and told me they are both awake and ready for mommy.
So, time to get back at it again. If you are experiencing a day like today, just know you are not alone.
Confessions of a Mommy Blogger,
In this video I give Christian Relationship Advice on what you should do as a woman to make a man want you. I respond to a viewer comment from a video that I posted a few weeks ago on how to make a man miss you! It is so important to remember to be yourself in a relationship! You don’t have to change who you are to be loved or wanted!
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Whether you are crushing on a guy that you just met or looking to “reel-in” a guy that just caught your eye there is a recipe to attraction.
Although, us women can be pretty complicated when it comes to relationships, guys are pretty simple when it comes to what they want or don’t want.
The key here is to set things up where you are pursued.
Music by My Hubby Davd Beats to add to your experience reading this post 🙂
Now, this doesn’t mean that you don’t have any real control over what is happening. You just put things into place so that he can take the leading role.
Why? Well, the way that God designed the roles, men are to be the ones leading, and we follow our men. So wait for him girl; let him approach you!
So here is the recipe that we have all been waiting for:
Catch his Attention
Remember, first impressions are very important when it comes to relationships. So make sure that you are at your best. This means physically and every other way. So, look good and smell good around him, and be the best version of yourself in general.
Don’t hide who you are, let your light shine bright girl! Be you, because if you present a false version of yourself he won’t be liking you. Instead, he will like a skeleton of you.
However, with this said, use your table manners and be a lady. If that’s not you, you might need to work on that!
Lay the foundation
Don’t get friend-zoned and position yourself as one of the guys. Flirt with him! Make sure that he sees you as a beautiful feminine women who he can imagine himself in a relationship with.
Be pleasant and somewhat mysterious in your dress and conversation. “Let your hair down” and be feminine so that he can be masculine. Don’t show off all of your goods! Being modest in apparel will help him to respect you! You can be classy and sexy, no need to be trashy! A little mystery goes a long way, he doesn’t need your whole life story from jump. Give him something to look forward to learning about you.
So, with that being said, don’t always be available, have somethings going on in your life. It keeps you interesting.
Establish Your Role
The key to getting a guy to like you is not only to attract him but you also have to have that “it” factor to keep him so that he will want to commit to you. If you do this right, you won’t have to ask or wonder what your role is.
You want him to feel like you are apart of his world, and without you his world isn’t complete. So how do you do this?
When you are in his world, be interested, be attentive, add to it. Don’t overstep boundaries or make him feel hovered. Don’t rush anything or scare him away.
If he wants you in his world he will put you in it. If he never does, then you know that this one just isn’t the right relationship for you.
You should never have to force position. If you force it now, just imagine how you will feel later.
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Amaryah from California writes,
I have a serious question about my partner. He’s a great person. Protective. A leader. Hard working and all the important stuff. We have been together 4 years and are getting married in 3 months. Since we have gotten engaged, his family has taken a turn for the worst!
-My partner and I were in escrow for a house. His mom called me over alone to pick up some necessary documents. She used the opportunity of us being alone to tell me off and disrespect me. She insulted me as a woman and adult. My fiancé told her she can’t talk to me like that but her behavior never really changed.
– The next time I was alone with his mom, she told me it is my duty as a woman to have sex with her son and wear lingerie for him. My sex life is none of her business, and he and I are not married yet. I know she doesn’t talk to her daughters that way. My boundaries of respect were violated.
-His father constantly insults (or back handed compliments) my family. He once told me I’m beautiful and it’s a shame my sisters are ugly. He also told me he hopes I don’t end up rude like mother. And once he said I look pregnant! (I am very fit and he knows I’m working hard for a wedding dress body. It was a calculated insult).
– My in-laws constantly would ask be about children before the wedding date was even set. This is an insult to me because I was raised to wait until marriage to have children and they know that. They raised their family in that way too. I don’t see them asking their daughters those kind of questions
-My partner’s oldest sister invited me to a night out to get to know me better and invited a girl she tried to set my man up with! It was hazing before he proposed a month later
– His family is drama. That same sister accused him of prioritizing me over his family. Like yes the Bible says he’s supposed to leave his family of origin to start a new life with me.
– I tried winning them over/impressing them by offering to cook Mother’s Day lunch. His mom constantly questioned my home making skills (in my culture, that is an insult to my womanhood). He and I both assured her it would be my pleasure to cook. She still cooked anyway and his sisters made it a point to taunt me that she cooked.
This is just some examples. There are so many instances of disrespect towards me as a future daughter in law. His family completely changed once he put a ring on it. I used to be cool with them and it all changed once we were engaged and bought a home. And I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to take him away from his family but I also cannot put up with this behavior until death do us part. I’m beginning to have second thoughts even about children. If they are over bearing and possessive of him now, imagine how they will behave when I have children?
I want a successful relationship with my man. But I don’t know what to do. He’s tried talking to them on my behalf. I stand up for self when they make comments about me. But they just don’t stop. My only idea is to no longer visit them or see them. But I know that will be hard on my partner. I can’t just grin and bear it. Their behavior has literally given me panic attacks (I panic in private)
How do I let go of my resentment towards his family in order to have a successful relationship with my future husband? Do you think our relationship stands any chance? How do I get his family to stop disrespecting me? I feel really hopeless. People divorce over in laws after all.
I should also note: He’s protective of them. When I had panic attacks, he thought I was being dramatic and overly critical of his family. I don’t want him to chose sides but I feel for the past 4 years, he has taken their side over mine in every instance. The recent Mother’s Day event, when his mother was insulting my cooking abilities (they all ended up loving the food by the way!!), he even asked, well why did u offer????
He’s getting a little better at standing up for me but I just don’t know what to. I feel really lost and down about it and hopeless about my relationship. The worst part is, I think this is what the want in the end. To break us up and have him all to themselves again. How can I forgive people who refuse to admit to what they do or even apologize?
He also supported them financially until he bought a house with me….
This is a very difficult situation that you are in, and I am so glad that you asked the question. Many women deal with difficult in laws, and I believe they can also learn from your situation. Just know that you are not alone in this.
First of all congrats on your wedding and finding a suitable groom to marry.
Here is the bottom line when it comes to his family, he has to be the one to fix it. He has to understand your perspective and defend your position with them. You cannot do this successfully for a number of reasons.
If you try to stand up against his family, in the way that he should stand up for you, you run a chance of him being upset with you. You may also say or do something that will sever your relationship with them for good. What we hope for is a possible positive future between you and your in laws. I believe that with some positive communication and time this is still possible.
It appears that your mother-in-law is pinning her family against you, and doing her best to get rid of you. I think you should hang in there as long as he is willing to stand up for you.
If he does not become understanding and sympathetic towards your position, then I think you will find it difficult to be in a marriage with him.
And yes, you are very wise, when children are added to the picture it will be even more difficult this is why he has to nip it in the bud now.
So, the only person who can fix this is him, and if he doesn’t do it now, you might have to consider if you want to go into a life long marriage with this type of animosity between you and your in-laws.
It is normal to have some resistance in these relationships, but not to the point where you are having panic attacks and dealing with all of this verbal abuse.
To your question of if you can just stay away from them, no, it seems that they are close and you don’t want to unlink him from his family completely that will make him unhappy and possibly give him resentment towards you.
As you mentioned, yes, the Bible does say, for the man to leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife in Matthew 19:5. That simply expresses that he has to be the one to get this situation under control.
If he is a man of God, and you are in a Christian Relationship then he should do this without a problem. If he is not, then you are about to face a more challenges.
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Proverbs 21:19 It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.
Ok so I started dating this girl right after she broke up with ger BF of two years, we’ve been going together for a month and I fell in love with her, I dont want to get hurt, what to do…
Coming into a new relationship with someone when they have just come out of one can be difficult.
It takes a lot of patience on your part because you have to be understanding of what she is feeling. Beyond that you must also be aware that she may or may not be in the best emotional state to be receiving a relationship.
With all that in mind how can you ensure that you don’t get hurt and don’t end up a rebound? You cannot. However, you can take these precautions.
If you feel that the person that you are in the relationship is not ready for commitment, don’t try to pressure them into it. Guard your heart as much as you can while you wait it out. It will be easy for them to throw themselves into their new relationship and ignore what they are feeling from their past relationship. It is up to you to be aware of that, and take things slow.
Don’t rush into anything serious until you are confident that they have left their last relationship in the past. If you build a friendship with your lover slowly you will be in tune with what they are feeling. When you feel that you are both on the same level of thinking and feeling then the two of you can slowly start moving into a more committed relationship, but not before.
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Me: AwwwHim: I’m mainly doing this cause nothing’s going on in my life. When something happens I’ll slowly stop telling you things. And because we were never official and this is a long distance thing we can just be friends. But I still like you! It’s just something grabbed my attention more than you’re doing now. So just be happy that we’re talking there’s no rush.Me: Okay, so I was just the latest toy on the shelf. You have new ones that you like better but don’t want to throw me away due to sentimental value, however you’re going to leave me on here to rot?This is how I perceive everything. He’s an amazing guy, the best I’ve ever encountered but he doesn’t even reply back in the same day, sometimes 2 days. He says I’m being obsessive which I can be and was being lately do to the fact I feel like he’s ignoring me. He says he’s not, that he’s just busy.
I don’t know what to do. I feel like we’re in a relationship without being in a relationship. I want to end it but then I don’t because he is so amazing. I just feel like if your life was so busy and you knew how I felt/was (I was very straight forward in the beginning) why would you even continue to speak to me. I know he has a life, I don’t want all his time. I just want to know his life because there is still so much we don’t know about each other. Also I don’t want to just give up when things don’t work, life isn’t about taking the easy route. But I’m considering moving on, without telling him. Like keeping my options open, talking to other guys, finding myself. Just having fun, cause he’s obviously too busy with his life. What should I do?
Well….The guy is busy and that is a good thing. That means he has a passion about something. Give him time. Don’t pressure him too much. The point is that he is including you and that matters.
It may not be all you want, but as long as he is giving you time and making you feel appreciated that is all you can ask for.
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22-year-old Jethro from New Jersey writes:
I have this young Lady in my church who I am interested in. She has been going to my church since 2009. I remember telling her I liked her in that same year and her not knowing how to respond because she barely knew me. This was all of course four years ago. I am interested in I like her for more than her beauty. I genuinely feel and see a radiant beauty from her I like her and what to be more than friends what do you think I should do.
It looks like it is time for you to act on your emotions. If you don’t she might get scooped up by someone else. Since you go to the same church, I am sure that you have interacted a bit. The next step is to approach her, and let her know that you are interested in getting to know her a little better. Go for it dude! What are you waiting for? However, be prepared that if she is not interested in you, you have to accept that and take it as an opportunity to move on.
Here are a couple of videos that I have made on similar topics below!
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Dating Tips for Shy/Quite Boys
How to Approach a Girl