I’m Scared to Tell Him That I Like Him

7th Grade Allie from Kansas writes:

Dear Chauntel,

The teacher calls us love birds in gym class. We have a friendship, but now should I do? I am scared to ask him out. What should I do?

Hi Allie,

Nothing good comes easy. Love is worth the risk so, you have to get past the fear and let him know that you are interested.

Tell him that you appreciate his friendship, but that you are interested in getting to know him better. See if he is also interested in getting to know you better. If he says yes, then great go get yo’ man. If he says no, then it’s ok you can still be friends.

I Hope This Helps!


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How to Set-up a Blog

Michael writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I saw ur YouTube video about shy guys approaching women….as someone living with I will give u first hand analysis in how bad this situation really is..also I’d like to kno how to set up a blog page from u.

Hi Michael,

Setting up a blog page is simple. You will need to first set-up an email address! If you already have one you can utilize the one you have.

Then, you will have to choose a blogging platform that suits your needs. There are tons of blogging platforms out there. Depending on what your area of interest is, you will choose the platform that suits your needs best.

Instagram is great if you enjoy taking pictures and want to focus your blog on photos and having followers. It is quick blogging. People who use this app normally follow you if you make it personal.

Pintrest is another great bloggin platform for photos. It is also an awesome networking tool because it allows you to connect with people who have similar interests.

Twitter could be considered really fast blogging concerns news, moods, and thoughts.

Blogger is owned by Google and it is very easy to add ads to your post and onto you blog. It is also very user-friendly. However, some consider it for amateurs. I like it though. I have a blog there that I update about once a week if not more. http://www.askchauntel.blogspot.com. It connects directly to your Google Plus accounts. I like that they give you an opportunity to customize your design and template of your blog pretty holistically at no extra charge. It is also helpful because your page is  likely to come up in google search results as this platform is owned by google. You can personalize your navigation and side panels. It also provides you with stats and gives information on where readers where referred from. However, it is more difficult for blogger collaboration.

Tumblr is another blogging platform that is utilized a lot. I haven’t used this one, but I hear it is great for posting photos, and I people can also ask questions right on you page from what my sister tells me.

WordPress is the blogging platform that you are reading from right now. It is used by most professional bloggers. They do not allow you to put google ads on your blog for advertisement, but they do have a lot of options for designs and templates. However, if you want to personalize the design of your page, fonts, and colors you sometimes have to pay a bit extra. For the most part it is free, easy to manage and looks professional. They also keep your stats for you, and let you know how readers were referred to your blog. You are given the opportunity to link your WordPress blog to you Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, and Linkedin. It is not as user friendly as Blogger, but if you stick with it you will learn how it works. There are discussion boards on WordPress as well as a Reader. These tools make it much easier to find new blogs and collaborate with them. This is a good blogging platform to get your feet wet.

All of these blogs that I have mentioned are free. However, if you would like to personalize your domain name you will have to pay for it. It makes it more professional. For example instead of my website url being http://www.askchauntel.wordpress.com, for $18, I made it http://www.askchauntel.com.

I would also like to mention BlogLovin’ to you. It is a platform that allows people to follow blogs that are hosted on different sites. Good luck on your selection process. Share it when you have one! I would love to see it!





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5 Simple Ways to Make Your Husband Smile….at YOU! – Marriage Mondays

Hey Ladies,

If you’d rather keep him smiling instead of frowning and fightin’, you might want to consider these tips.

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1. Take Time to Listen: As women, we sometimes get so caught up in ourselves that we sometimes forget to take a moment to listen to what our mate is saying. He may not repeat it a million times like we do, but if he said it then he must have meant it. So consider his feelings and make sure that he understands that they matter.

2. Make Him Feel Loved: Amidst the hustle and bustle of the day, we can forget the little things that he sometimes requests. Try to find 3 of those things that you can add to your week. Trust me he will notice. 

3. Be Attentive: When he talks about his hobbies that you don’t care too much about actually pay attention, and give a comment that isn’t snarky. Take the time to enjoy the conversation and even add to it. He mostly just wants to share with you, but he would love it if you actually cared about it.

4. Encourage Him: Men always want a woman who can add light to their life. If he mentions a new idea, or even an old one. Smile and if it’s not something that’s going to harm him in anyway encourage him and support his decisions.

5. Cook For Him: Ahhhh, you knew this was coming. Whether or not a man can cook, he always loves it when his lady does it for him. If you don’t know how learn.

If you do this right you will keep him around for a long time. ‘Cause guess what? It’s nice to be nice. 🙂 

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Domestic Violence and I have 2 Kids

32-year-old Lesley writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I have 2 children their father passed away. I started dating 2 years ago a year back he started telling what to do, where to go where i can not go. And when i did not listen to his commands, he started beating and i kept quiet and he will tell me the next day that he did not mean to hurt me.

But now it is happening each and every week that i cannot attend church services coz im seeing other men.

Please help what do I do? I cant sleep at night  i wish that i could be around people all the time. My self esteem is so down. I feel useless.

by ambro domestic violenceDear Lesley,

It is difficult when you loose someone you love. Sometimes relationships like the one that you are in come into your life and become unbearable. I understand that you are in love with this man by the simple fact that you are still with him.

If not for your own life, you have been blessed with the gift of children, and for this reason you have to get out of this situation. This man does not mean any good to you. And it’s horrible to put your children through this. They do not need to see their mother being abused. It will tear them up inside.

I understand that you are in a controlling, abusive, and extremely dangerous situation. If he is controlling you to the point where you cannot even go to church you are going to have to get out soon. Make an excuse to leave the house and take the kids with you. Even if it is just the grocery store. Don’t take anything. That is not important. Take what is absolutely necessary and get out. There are women’s shelters that you can go to that will provide you with everything you need to start over.

This is a very unfortunate situation, and I will be praying for you. You need to seek help and support. Don’t try to do this alone. You may even consider reporting this to the police as soon as possible.

If you don’t get out of this situation your children will suffer. I am not sure of local agencies where you are, but if you visit http://www.domesticviolence.org they should be able to direct you to the services that you need.

Be Blessed and thanks for writing.


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