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How to Stop Cutting Myself? – Life Advice for Girls – Ask Chauntel – NSSI

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Leslie writes about NSSI, Non Suicidal Self Injury:

Hi Chauntel,

I hear you can help girls like me like to stop cutting. Well, my problem is that I am cutting cuz my friend raped me.

Hi Leslie,

Wow, I am so very, very sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine how you feel. I do however, want you to share this with someone that you know and trust, so that you can receive the help and support that you need.


Sometimes, we hurt ourselves to try to ease the pain that others have caused us. What you will learn is that hurting yourself will not ease the pain that you feel from that terrible experience.


I want you to know that God loves you more than you can imagine, and what happened to you is not your fault. You need to report whoever did this to you, for you and for anyone else who might be hurt by this person in the future.

I also, want you to seek some professional help to deal with overcoming the pain that this experience is causing in your life.

To get you started, I want to tell you that turning to self injury is not the answer. It will not take back what happened to you.

What I want you to do is take the power back in your life. Replace this negative behavior with a positive one. This way, you overcome this situation instead of beating yourself up about it.

You need to find out what is triggering you; what is causing you to want to harm yourself. It probably has a lot to deal with not dealing with your feelings.

Turn away from cutting yourself and turn your action into loving yourself and finding that love for yourself again. Do not let this person lead your life. Allow God to lead it for God is love.

You are the only one who can make the change in your life. You cannot erase what happened to you, but you have the power to choose how you will overcome it. I believe in you, and I know that you are greater than this situation. Thank you for being the voice of so many other girls like you. You have great courage, but you were not meant to overcome this alone.

Please, get support and prayer for what you are going through. My community is praying with and for you. I will provide some resources below.

May God bless you, and please know that you are not alone. There are unfortunately others who have been raped and abused, and they have overcome it. You can too. Here is a story of a girl you may relate to. Her story is different, but her coping of cutting herself is the same:

Thanks so much for writing me, it means the world to me.

Let Me Know if this helps!

Chauntel

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How to Stop Procrastinating – Ask Chauntel

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In this video I share the importance of being disciplined in order to avoid procrastination. When we procrastinate we become overwhelmed and create bad habits for ourselves. Here I share how I have avoided the pitfalls of procrastination lately, and how you can do the same!

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Mommy Monday – Confessions of a Mommy Blogger – 20 Something Year Olds – Early Life Crisis

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I have been making some very scary decisions lately. The kind of decisions that are life changing. These are the decisions that lead you to self discovery in your twenties. All of us “20 somethings” are faced with important decision after decision. And one does effect the other. So the pressure is on, and it seems non-stop.

What are these decisions I speak of:

  1. Where will I go to college?
  2. When will I go to college?
  3. Where will I work after college?
  4. Should I travel?
  5. Should I study abroad?
  6. Who will I marry?
  7. How will I find the right one?
  8. Do I want to have kids?
  9. How many kids do I want to have?
  10. When should I start having kids?
  11. What do I want to be when I grow up?
  12. How will I become that professional?
  13. Have I made my parents proud?
  14. When should I have the next kid?
  15. When can I buy a house?
  16. Where will I live?
  17. What job should I apply for?
  18. What job should I take?
  19. Who should I be friends with?
  20. Who am I?
  21. What makes me happy?
  22. Do I like my church?
  23. Where can I find a church?
  24. Do I like myself?
  25. When should I work out? And how much?

As I began writing tonight I realized that apparently, I have a lot to say.

I think about these things all the time, and you would have thought that I would have thought to blog about it right?

Well, I didn’t think of this. Which is very ironic because, I have had this blog for about 8 years. Very rarely have I blogged about myself, occasionally maybe. I purposely left myself out. So maybe it is time for a big scary change. Well scary for me anyway.

Now, to be honest, the fear comes from the unknown, the vulnerability of speaking from my heart. However, you know that is were all the good stuff is anyway right? At least that is what I would like to think.

There is no way that all I have to say can go into one entry. So here is what we are doing. We are making this into a new series on the blog. This series will be entitled as you see above: Confessions of a Mommy Blogger. I will be posting every Monday. Sometimes, it will be this series and others I will just blog about my daily life.

Haha, now I know that I am being very evasive, but work with me here. I am dealing with a lot of abstract thoughts. And yes, I have been told countless times, that I am so “deep”. Let’s begin with what inspired this whole idea anyway.

So, I work as a Substitute Teacher, and I subbed at my old high school this week. I ran right into one of my old coaches. Who is apparently not just a tennis coach, but a life coach too.  🙂 To my surprise, when she saw me she very boldly and quickly asked me what I was still doing here subbing.

That lead to a conversation about finding myself. She told me since I want to blog, then it was time that I began blogging about it. She told me that I am not the only one going through this, and I should share it!

Needless to say, I was enlightened and encouraged so Coach Gagnon thank you! We are off to a great start I can feel it!

Until next week Darlings!

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Chauntel

 

 

Benefits of Asparagus – Ask Chauntel Fruit for Thought Friday

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1It’s time for your weekly Fruit for Thought! A weekly bit of inspiration where I share both natural and spiritual food along with an #inspirationalquote#acfruitforthought

2So I will be mixing up#naturalfruits and #veggiesfor my weekly #acfruitforthought! This weeks food of choice is the asparagus! In a natural sense #asparagus are good for you as aids in digestion, maintains bone strength, reduces the risk of heart disease, fights cancer, natural aphrodisiac, and amateur all laxative.
Now for your spiritual fruit! I think this verse is important to keep in mind when interacting with other people! I believe it is something that these police who have been involved in murdering innocent men should keep in mind. I also think it is something that we all have to keep in mind because killing police is also not the answer! For God says that vengeance is mine! “Do to others as you would like them to do to you.” -Luke 6:31

3With all the recent murders of black men by the police, I must take a moment to remind the world life matters! God did not give it to us to take other’s away! #blacklivesmatter #stopthehate also killing police is not the answer!#dallaspoliceshooting Lets be slow to anger and show love #inspirationalquote#acfruitforthought

About Ask Chauntel – Channel Trailer

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In this video I introduce everyone to my channel. I will be making videos in three main categories: mommy life, modest style, and advice. I hope that you choose to become a part of my community and subscribe!

Finding Your Purpose – How to Define God’s Purpose for Your Life

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In this video I am speaking to my church family at a young adult service explaining how to live the life that God has planned for you! We all have a purpose and to live a purpose driven life you must seek him. I explain how this work and share scripture with you! I hope you find it helpful! Please rate, comment and subscribe!

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How to be Happy – Ask Chauntel – Become the Best You

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I have been wanting to do this video for quite some time now! Here are some tips on how to be happy! I hope you enjoy!

15 Tips on How to Become Popular on Youtube

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Kayla writes:

Hi Chauntel,

How do you become popular on YouTube.

Hi Kayla!

Here are some tips on becoming popular on YouTube:

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1. Be Consistent

2. Create Good/Interesting Content

3. Make Videos on Topics You are Passionate About

4. Be Yourself

5. Cover Topics People are Searching For/Your Subscribers Want

6. Have Your Own Voice

7. Make Good Thumbnails

8. Have Good Lighting

9. Make a Nice Background

10. Keep Your Personality Bright and Inviting

11. Share Your Videos/Tell People What You Do

12. Use Social Media to Advertise

13. Make Videos that You Would Want to Watch

14. Be Confident

15. Utilize Music that Matches Your Video/Your Voice/Your Style

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

How to Prevent Suicidal Thoughts

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Hello Jewels and Gems,

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A harsh reality is that many people around us are hurting. At times they cannot see a way to overcome their pain and circumstances. It is during these times that we have to be there to show our love and support.

This post is inspired by a viewer who sent me a question recently about wanting to prevent themselves from committing suicide.

To the Person Having Suicidal Thoughts:

You are Loved

It is important for you to know that you are loved. It may seem like everyone and everything around you is going downhill and out of your control, but even during the times that you feel alone just know that you are loved. Even if the people around you do not show you love, God loves you.

You Matter

Remind yourself that you matter. At times we feel unwanted and unneeded because people in our lives have made us feel like we are not important. Don’t let those horrible people define you. If you were not here, someone would miss you. In most cases many will miss you.

You Have a Purpose Exclusive to You

If you didn’t know it, you have a purpose. There are specific gifts and talents that have been given to you that no one can take away. Even if you have been told that you are not good enough, strong enough, smart enough, you have to believe that you are.

Sometimes it takes time to define your purpose in life. However, it is important for you to know that no one can live  your purpose for you. You were made by God for a specific reason. Only you can find that, and if you take it upon yourself to take your life you are robbing the world of your gifts and talents.

Life is Worth Living

Even during the hard times, you must remember that your life is truly worth living. There is nothing so bad in life that you should take your on life. There is always another option. You have other choices. There is a way to make your situation and your circumstance better, but you have to allow time and effort to make those changes happen.

Gather Support

Many times when a person is having suicidal thoughts its because they spend too much time alone. Sometimes we rob ourselves of time with others for one reason or another, but we all need someone. You cannot live life alone. You were not born alone, you didn’t live alone(within reason there is always someone near you even if they are a house away), and if you can help it you shouldn’t die alone.

Get Professional Help

If you have someone around you that you can trust talk to that individual, and let them know what is going on with you, this way they can be there to support you. They can also assist you in  finding the help that you need and deserve.

It is important for you to find professional help. Therefore, seek out a therapist or psychologist who can support you. They will help you to talk it out and identify the root of your problem so that you can continue moving forward.

Crisis Help Resources

I have some resources available for you here on my website. There are prayer hotlines as well as suicide hotlines that you can utilize if you are in a crisis listed on that page.

To Friends Providing Support

An individual who is having suicidal thoughts really needs your support. They probably won’t want help, but guide them to the help that they need. Make sure that the key players in their lives are aware of what is going on. Check in with them often and make sure that they are okay. Make sure that they know that they are loved and have a place in your life.

Whatever you do, do not turn a blind eye to this situation, and be sure that they are receiving help and talking it through. They may not want to be around people, but insure that they are. Too much time alone can result in more time for them to get deeper into their depression. Realize that this is a real thing, that they can overcome.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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How to Overcome Molestation – Ask Chauntel

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If you have every been through a difficult time in your life where you experienced molestation this video should provide you with some help and comfort. Share it with others who you think will find it helpful!