We all struggle with loving ourselves for who we are. How do we approach these situations? How do we deal with the struggle? Is it because of how we look physically or it our mental state that defines us?
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My Boyfriend is a Drug Addict
Alek writes:
Hi Chauntel,
I saw your video on youtube about “letting go of ex”,so I would like you to give me advice about a problem I have.
I Iove one guy which goes with me on same college,we are friends,more then friends,he was my first.
The problem is that I really do love him,am not only in love,it’s more than that.
Am always there for him,I care,I wanna help him,I met his father and sister,I was in his house etc…but the problem is that he is ex drug addict,and his kinda strange…he talks about 3D dimensions,and this kind of stuff,like after death…and his mind is all the time in it.I do and try to understand him,cuz am open minded person usually…but he started it again – using drugs…(marihuana,mushrooms..) and he druged me once without me accepting it.
After I knew it,I became very angry and hurt,and I yelled…and then he said like “you know that I care,I love you”,come on,what is this please ??? how can you love someone and try to destroy them to be like you are ?! He says to me you deserve better person that I am…he doesn’t have friends,at least not real ones,he runs away from emotions,he is negative…but again there is other side of him,and this confuses me.
Lately we didn’t talk or met, 2 weeks or more,and I don’t wanna send messages or anything because am hurted deeply but again I miss him,and I don’t know what to do anymore.My friends keep telling me that he is jerk,that he doesn’t know what he has in front of him,and that he doesn’t deserve me…I know that they care,and to them this is easy to say…but why do I feel guilty then,and I don’t even know for what.
What should I do dear Chauntel ? cuz everything is mixed up and complicated.Sometimes I think that it is the best if I let go of him and everything…and just leave him.
Hello Alek,
Yes, considering that he is a druggy and has forced drugs on you, I would say it is time to walk away. You are right in each of your assumptions.
If he really “loved” you he wouldn’t involve you in this. This is pretty simple, this guy is bad news.
You may have serious feelings for him, but you have to love yourself more than you love him and let this one go.
Be encouraged, everything will be ok. You are making the right decision in walking away.
I Hope This Helps!
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I’m a Big Dude…How Do I Attract a Good Woman?
25-year-old Donald from Mississippi writes:
Hi Chauntel,
I’m a big dude, and I wanted to know how to attract a good woman? I’m so tired of being alone I’m ready 4 a family. I want to be a provider.
Hi Donald,
If you are ready for a family then, it is time for you to begin to take hold of your life. Pursuing a relationship in your frame of mind is unhealthy.
Before, you begin courting a woman and looking to build a family with her, you are going to have to find confidence in yourself.
So, you need to be confident in who you are before I would recommend that you begin pursuing a relationship.
What does this mean?
Your weight is not the problem, it’s your criticalness of yourself that is going to hold you back. If you don’t like the size that you are, and it is effecting your ability to be confident in who you are, then you need to begin making wiser decisions when it comes to eating right and exercising. This doesn’t mean starve yourself, or be at the gym non-stop.
In fact, in means just the opposite. You need to make a plan for your physical health. For your life, and the life of your future family. Get with a nutritionist who can help map this out for you.
When you begin feeling comfortable with yourself, then we can begin to think about what you need to pursue a long lasting relationship, but it seems to me that you aren’t quite ready.
Going into a long term committed relationship when you are so down on yourself will not be a healthy situation for you or your future spouse. I am glad that you want to begin making positive changes in your life, that is great, but we need to prepare you for those changes.
Be encouraged, it is not all about how you look. The woman is going to eventually look past that once she begins to see who you are. But in this case, you don’t feel comfortable with yourself, and I am not ready to advise you into a relationship until that changes.
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When we get you mentally ready for a relationship after first establishing a love for yourself then we address the second part of your question. You dig?
Be Blessed
Chauntel
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I’m 14…& In a Long Distance Relationship
14-year-old Kyle from Great Britain writes:
Hey Chauntel,
I’ve been watching your videos since 2010 and I felt you were the right person to ask. My girlfriend now lives in America, and I haven’t seen her for about 8 months, and I am going to see her in a few days. I am worried as to how it’ll turn out and I would like to ask how should I act and what should I do once I see her? Thanks a bunch, Kyle. 🙂
Hi Kyle!
I answered your question in my radio broadcast yesterday. You will find your story around timecode 18:20
I Stammer When I Talk to Girls
14-year-old Shrey from Kenya writes:
Hi Chauntel,
Well, I’m a very shy guy when it comes to talking to girls face to face and sometimes stammer when talking to girls who I like. Can u please help me and tell me what should I do?
Hi Shrey:
I answered your question around 9:55 in this weeks radio show:
I answered your question in my radio broadcast yesterday around 9:55 on the timecode:
Do Intelligent Girls Finish Last: Ask Chauntel Radio
19-year-old Jordan from Illinios writes,
Hi Chauntel,
I’m not ashamed of it or anything, but I’ve never been kissed. I’ve dated, but we kissed(it wasn’t meaningful, if you know what I mean) so I don’t consider it a kiss, they were more like pecks. I have everything going for me right now. I just finished my 1st year of college a couple of months ago, my grades are really god, and I have an abundance of people who care/love me (boys and girls) I’ve dated two guys, but I’ve never been in a serious relationship. I do believe that good things come to those who wait, and that God knows what’s best for me as well. I always used to get the guys who would crush on me, but would tell me right before we would graduate, and I probably will never see them again. Sometimes, I wonder if it’s me/is it guys. I’m a pretty outgoing person, and I/others believe that I’m a beautiful young woman. I’m not saying that I want to be in a relationship right now, but do you think that it’s a guy think as to why guys don’t ask me out/is it me?
Hi Jordan,
I answered your question at the beginning of my radio show yesterday:
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