Tag: Life

I’m Scared to Tell Him That I Like Him

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7th Grade Allie from Kansas writes:

Dear Chauntel,

The teacher calls us love birds in gym class. We have a friendship, but now should I do? I am scared to ask him out. What should I do?

Hi Allie,

Nothing good comes easy. Love is worth the risk so, you have to get past the fear and let him know that you are interested.

Tell him that you appreciate his friendship, but that you are interested in getting to know him better. See if he is also interested in getting to know you better. If he says yes, then great go get yo’ man. If he says no, then it’s ok you can still be friends.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Ask Chauntel Radio Today at 3pm PCT – Teen Bullying

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radio micAsk Chauntel Radio today at 3pm! Call in with questions! Today’s Topic: Teen Bullying

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We are all searching for someone to love. Love is the one thing that we are all in pursuit of. Embrace it, let’s talk about it. Do you have a question? Feel free to call in during the live broadcast or submt to askchauntel@gmail.com. Check out our website http://www.askchauntel.com

What to Do When He Owes Child Support – Relationship Advice – Ask Chauntel

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What actions should you take when your Ex stops paying child or spousal support? Can you take legal action against him? Watch! http://www.askchauntel.com, askchauntel@gmail.com

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13 and in Love With a Married Woman

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13-year-old Antoine writes:

Hey Chauntel,

Theres this women i like. I’m only 13, and she is like 21 and married. Would it matter if i tell her or should i just keep it balled up inside and never tell anybody?

Hi Antoine,

It’s perfectly normal for you to have a crush, but telling her how you feel would be inappropriate. Sometimes we have to control our inner thoughts. It is during these times that we keep our thoughts to ourselves.

The first issue that we have here is age. She is much too old for you. In fact, she could legally go to jail if she had any dealings with you. Second she is married, and you should never pursue a married woman. It is not honorable.

There will be plenty of wonderful women in your life. So, you are going to have to let this one go. Instead of thinking of it as keeping it bottled up inside, think of it as letting go of your impossible desires.

This is one you are going to have to walk away from. If you really feel like you need to share it. Talk to a close friend who you can trust, or find an artistic expression. You could write a poem or paint something. You can even write  a song. Just don’t attach her name to any of it.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Being Bullied and Insecure About Myself

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14-year-old Nancy writes:

Hi Chauntel!

So I’m watching your videos right now and I thought it is a good idea to write an email to you.
It’s not going to be an email about boys or something like that. It’s about me and my self-esteem.
When I look at the mirror I don’t see anything bad. But people in my school are bully me because
of my large and bulging (REALLY bulging) eyes. I’m only 14 and I can’t deal with it. What should I do?
Hi Nancy,
It’s funny that it’s your eyes that you point out because I have just the opposite problem. My eyes are so small. When I smile they almost completely go away. In fact when I was a baby my family asked my mom if she was sure that she had taken home the right baby because they thought I looked Chinese.
The reality is, we all have something about ourselves that Make us stand out. However, God made us just the way we are for a specific purpose. Lucky for me I was able to see your picture when you wrote in. What the kids at school don’t know or quite understand is that your beauty is in your eyes.
After reading your question I took a look at your photo, and let me tell you those eyes of yours could take you far in modeling. I am not sure how tall you are, but if you are at leastt 5’9″ you should really consider high fashion modeling. Here is an excellent resource that I found: http:http://www.exploremodeling.com/ If you are not that tall, not to worry they’re are other areas of modeling. However, don’t go into that unless you develop thick skin. I just wanted to mention this to you as an option because I think you’re beautiful and you should give it a try.
Now to address your question specifically, what do you do? You take what they say with a grain of salt. Kids at school are always gonna find something mean to say about each other. It was like that for me, and it is going to be like that for you. If you embrace your beautiful eyes they will eventually leave you alone about it. The only reason they continue to tease you is they know that they are getting to you. If you truly begin to love your eyes, and let what they say role off your sleeve they will notice your confidence and hopefully buzz off.
I was never good with coming up with ways to talk back to people so I would just ignore them or walk away. I know it really hurts. but this is only for a season. It gets better, and once your modeling they will make fun of you because of their jealousy.
So what’s the moral of the story here? People talk, ignore them. You choose your destiny not them. You have the power to wake up every morning and love what you see in the mirror.
By the way here are some successful models with eyes like yours (:
Google both of them. You will see how much of a splash they have made in history, past and present.

My Girlfriend Has Too Many Guyfriends

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21-year-old Ryan from Massachusetts writes:

Hi Chauntel!,

How are you? I had a few relationship questions.

1. I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 2 months and everything is great. She is on the field hockey team at school and hangs out with a lot of kids on other sports teams. She says she’d never cheat, and alot of the baseball kids are her best friends…..is there a way I can handle this because honestly i’ve never dated a girl with so many good guy friends.

2. She isn’t very romantic and I am, is there a way to coax her into being more romantic or do I give her space and let her come to me?

3. Since this is all new and my last relationship was of 3 years, what advice to you have to keeping relationships fun, healthy and happy.

Hi Ryan,

I love your questions, and I will address them one at a time just as you have asked them.

1. If your girlfriend is in an environment with a lot of guys, that is ok. You have to have confidence within yourself and your relationship. The two of you just need to sit down and develop boundaries on what is appropriate within your relationship when comes to hangouts with the opposite sex. Once you two have agreed on what is appropriate you have to trust her. I know it is a hard thing to do, but you have to do it for the sake of your relationship. When and if those boundaries are crossed then that is when you actually have a problem, but for the time being don’t make it an issue. It is not.

2. In most relationships one person is usually more romantic than the other. That is ok. It works out better that way because one person balances the other out. Now, the problem is when she is not willing to be romantic with you, but if she is in the moment with you and enjoying it, stop complaining. It is ok that you are the initiator. In fact, that is even better because you are the guy. But again, this is not a problem so don’t make it one.

3. Wow, you’re third question is a loaded one. I could probably write a book on it, but we will do what we can here. To keep a relationship fun, healthy and fresh you have to include excitement in what you do. Celebrate the little things. Compliment each other often. Always be in tune to what the other person is feeling. Don’t just listen to what they say, but watch their body language. Stay in tune with their emotions. Never, get into such a routine that you never do anything spontaneous. Think out of the box and find little ways to surprise each other. Communication is the key ingredient to this. If you have good communication and stay in tune with your mates emotions you will have the best chance at a healthy, fun, and happy relationship.

I also have an article that I wrote entitled: 10 Ways To Build a New Successful Relationship

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VIDEO: First Date Tips

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What should girls do to get a guy to ask them out. Chauntel sits down with her cousin Avrum and talks about his first date. What should guys do to show a girl a good time? Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com

How do I Focus on One Woman- Dating Advice- Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel gives advice on how to focus your attention to one lady! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com. This is part 1…… Part 2 Here is your response Korsa it is on my blog! http://askchauntel.blogspot.com/2012

How to Talk to Beautiful Women When You are Nervous or Shy – Dating Advice – Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel explains why guys that fear talking to women struggle to connect with a girl. What must you do to get her attention? Where are you going wrong? There is an answer! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com. How to To Talk to Women- Conversation Topics http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGXDUe

How to Not be a Rebound – Ask Chauntel

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Terrance writes:

Dear Chauntel,

Ok so I started dating this girl right after she broke up with ger BF of two years, we’ve been going together for a month and I fell in love with her, I dont want to get hurt, what to do…

Hi Terrance,

Coming into a new relationship with someone when they have just come out of one can be difficult.

It takes a lot of patience on your part because you have to be understanding of what she is feeling. Beyond that you must also be aware that she may or may not be in the best emotional state to be receiving a relationship.

With all that in mind how can you ensure that you don’t get hurt and don’t end up a rebound? You cannot. However, you can take these precautions.

If you feel that the person that you are in the relationship is not ready for commitment, don’t try to pressure them into it. Guard your heart as much as you can while you wait it out. It will be easy for them to throw themselves into their new relationship and ignore what they are feeling from their past relationship. It is up to you to be aware of that, and take things slow.

Don’t rush into anything serious until you are confident that they have left their last relationship in the past. If you build a friendship with your lover slowly you will be in tune with what they are feeling. When you feel that youchauntelavatar are both on the same level of thinking and feeling then the two of you can slowly start moving into a more committed relationship, but not before.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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