Tag: Advice Column

How to Stop Cutting Myself? – Life Advice for Girls – Ask Chauntel – NSSI

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

Leslie writes about NSSI, Non Suicidal Self Injury:

Hi Chauntel,

I hear you can help girls like me like to stop cutting. Well, my problem is that I am cutting cuz my friend raped me.

Hi Leslie,

Wow, I am so very, very sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine how you feel. I do however, want you to share this with someone that you know and trust, so that you can receive the help and support that you need.


Sometimes, we hurt ourselves to try to ease the pain that others have caused us. What you will learn is that hurting yourself will not ease the pain that you feel from that terrible experience.


I want you to know that God loves you more than you can imagine, and what happened to you is not your fault. You need to report whoever did this to you, for you and for anyone else who might be hurt by this person in the future.

I also, want you to seek some professional help to deal with overcoming the pain that this experience is causing in your life.

To get you started, I want to tell you that turning to self injury is not the answer. It will not take back what happened to you.

What I want you to do is take the power back in your life. Replace this negative behavior with a positive one. This way, you overcome this situation instead of beating yourself up about it.

You need to find out what is triggering you; what is causing you to want to harm yourself. It probably has a lot to deal with not dealing with your feelings.

Turn away from cutting yourself and turn your action into loving yourself and finding that love for yourself again. Do not let this person lead your life. Allow God to lead it for God is love.

You are the only one who can make the change in your life. You cannot erase what happened to you, but you have the power to choose how you will overcome it. I believe in you, and I know that you are greater than this situation. Thank you for being the voice of so many other girls like you. You have great courage, but you were not meant to overcome this alone.

Please, get support and prayer for what you are going through. My community is praying with and for you. I will provide some resources below.

May God bless you, and please know that you are not alone. There are unfortunately others who have been raped and abused, and they have overcome it. You can too. Here is a story of a girl you may relate to. Her story is different, but her coping of cutting herself is the same:

Thanks so much for writing me, it means the world to me.

Let Me Know if this helps!

Chauntel

Email questions to askchauntel@gmail.com

Call to leave a VM: (641) 715-3900 Ext. 10988#

My ancient video on this topic 🙂

FREE Guides:

💘 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Make A Good Man Want You https://mailchi.mp/eeaf73bb960a/manwant

▶️ SUGGESTED VIDEO: Provers 31:10: What Does it Mean to be a Virtuous Woman? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iXCDtXbWtA0 ON THE BLOG: https://askchauntel.com/2020/03/08/do-you-regret-saving-yourself-for-marriage-christian-dating/

VERSES TO LIVE BY: Uniquely and Wonderfully Made – Proverbs 139:14

Love Yourself More – Proverbs 3:15

BONUS MATERIAL: FREE GUIDES & TRAINING FROM CHAUNTEL:

Free Guide: 8 Steps to Make A Good Man Want You https://mailchi.mp/eeaf73bb960a/manwant

👜 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Being a Great Christian Wife https://mailchi.mp/b103582b69a3/christianwife

☮ Listen to Free Audio Devotional – How to Find the Peace Within https://mailchi.mp/631a41c86b7c/peacewithin

ON THE BLOG: https://askchauntel.com/2020/03/08/do-you-regret-saving-yourself-for-marriage-christian-dating/

Self Love Bullet Points: https://askchauntel.com/2020/01/24/love-yourself-more-w-theses-8-habits-i-learned-from-college-girl-to-working-mom-mom-advice-blog/ Spiritual Gifts for Your kids shared in this post: https://www.allthingswithpurpose.com/…

Donate to the Advice Column: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?token=xYk-w-FD8hLPydfHM1iPEsKWYVVoSIrbxm-AIesDwRxOx_eAOZMb7J8GVXOsWMMty7a22G&country.x=US&locale.x=US GET ADVICE:

Learn About Jewel Food Audio Life and Relationship Coaching: http://www.askchauntel.com/jewelfood

Ask A Question for the Advice Column:https://askchauntel.com/askaquestion/

PRIVATE COACHING:

Life & Relationship Coaching Information: https://askchauntel.com/getadvice/

WATCH MORE: Christian Relationship Advice Column Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list…

Christian Dating Advice Column Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list…

My Life Advice Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tU852…

http://www.askchauntel.com

LET’S CONNECT:

http://www.askchauntel.com

http://www.instagram.com/askchauntel
http://www.facebook.com/ask.chauntel
http://www.twitter.com/askchauntel.com

DATING RELATIONSHIPS AND SOCIAL DISTANCING ADVICE FOR WOMEN – MARRIAGE CORONA & Your Mother in Law

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

In this relationship advice q&a I answer the question should she block her boyfriend on Facebook after she pretended to cheat on him. Hi, I am Chauntel a Relationship Coach and Advice Columnist. Welcome to the advice column! Give your advice and ask a question.

Email questions: askchauntel@gmail.com

Call to leave a VM: (641) 715-3900 Ext. 10988#

Question from Oprah.com: https://www.oprahmag.com/life/a31932288/social-distance-fights/

FREE Guides:

💘 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Make A Good Man Want You https://mailchi.mp/eeaf73bb960a/manwant

▶️ SUGGESTED VIDEO: Provers 31:10: What Does it Mean to be a Virtuous Woman? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iXCDtXbWtA0

ON THE BLOG: https://askchauntel.com/2020/03/08/do-you-regret-saving-yourself-for-marriage-christian-dating/

VERSES TO LIVE BY: Uniquely and Wonderfully Made – Proverbs 139:14

Love Yourself More – Proverbs 3:15

BONUS MATERIAL: FREE GUIDES & TRAINING FROM CHAUNTEL:

Free Guide: 8 Steps to Make A Good Man Want You https://mailchi.mp/eeaf73bb960a/manwant

👜 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Being a Great Christian Wife https://mailchi.mp/b103582b69a3/christianwife

☮ Listen to Free Audio Devotional – How to Find the Peace Within https://mailchi.mp/631a41c86b7c/peacewithin

ON THE BLOG: https://askchauntel.com/2020/03/08/do-you-regret-saving-yourself-for-marriage-christian-dating/

Self Love Bullet Points: https://askchauntel.com/2020/01/24/love-yourself-more-w-theses-8-habits-i-learned-from-college-girl-to-working-mom-mom-advice-blog/ Spiritual Gifts for Your kids shared in this post: https://www.allthingswithpurpose.com/…

Donate to the Advice Column: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?token=xYk-w-FD8hLPydfHM1iPEsKWYVVoSIrbxm-AIesDwRxOx_eAOZMb7J8GVXOsWMMty7a22G&country.x=US&locale.x=US GET ADVICE:

Learn About Jewel Food Audio Life and Relationship Coaching: http://www.askchauntel.com/jewelfood

Ask A Question for the Advice Column:https://askchauntel.com/askaquestion/

PRIVATE COACHING:

Life & Relationship Coaching Information: https://askchauntel.com/getadvice/

WATCH MORE: Christian Relationship Advice Column Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list…

Christian Dating Advice Column Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list…

My Life Advice Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tU852…

MY VIDEO & FILMING GEAR + LINKABLES:

Shutter Button: https://amzn.to/2AvRzG4

Ring Light (Neewer): https://amzn.to/2SAsI9Y

Tripod (Acuvar): https://amzn.to/2VvVPgK

Umbrella Light Kit (Limo Studio): https://amzn.to/2VuzvnC

Microphone (Boya): https://amzn.to/2tH7D3E

YouTube Master Class (Build a YouTube Brand That Matters): https://chaunteldelgado.com/youtubema…

LET’S CONNECT:

http://www.askchauntel.com

http://www.instagram.com/askchauntel

http://www.facebook.com/ask.chauntel

http://www.twitter.com/askchauntel.com

Relationship Advice Q&A – I Pretended to Cheat on my Boyfriend – Advice Columnist – Ask Chauntel

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

In this relationship advice q&a I answer the question should she block her boyfriend on Facebook after she pretended to cheat on him. Hi, I am Chauntel a Relationship Coach and Advice Columnist. Welcome to the advice column! Give your advice and ask a question.

Email questions: askchauntel@gmail.com

Call to leave a VM: (641) 715-3900 Ext. 10988#

FREE Guides:

💘 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Make A Good Man Want You https://mailchi.mp/eeaf73bb960a/manwant

▶️ SUGGESTED VIDEO: Provers 31:10: What Does it Mean to be a Virtuous Woman? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iXCDtXbWtA0 ON THE BLOG: https://askchauntel.com/2020/03/08/do-you-regret-saving-yourself-for-marriage-christian-dating/

VERSES TO LIVE BY: Uniquely and Wonderfully Made – Proverbs 139:14

Love Yourself More – Proverbs 3:15

BONUS MATERIAL: FREE GUIDES & TRAINING FROM CHAUNTEL:

Free Guide: 8 Steps to Make A Good Man Want You https://mailchi.mp/eeaf73bb960a/manwant

👜 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Being a Great Christian Wife https://mailchi.mp/b103582b69a3/christianwife

☮ Listen to Free Audio Devotional – How to Find the Peace Within https://mailchi.mp/631a41c86b7c/peacewithin

ON THE BLOG: https://askchauntel.com/2020/03/08/do-you-regret-saving-yourself-for-marriage-christian-dating/

Self Love Bullet Points: https://askchauntel.com/2020/01/24/love-yourself-more-w-theses-8-habits-i-learned-from-college-girl-to-working-mom-mom-advice-blog/ Spiritual Gifts for Your kids shared in this post: https://www.allthingswithpurpose.com/…

Donate to the Advice Column: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?token=xYk-w-FD8hLPydfHM1iPEsKWYVVoSIrbxm-AIesDwRxOx_eAOZMb7J8GVXOsWMMty7a22G&country.x=US&locale.x=US GET ADVICE:

Learn About Jewel Food Audio Life and Relationship Coaching: http://www.askchauntel.com/jewelfood

Ask A Question for the Advice Column:https://askchauntel.com/askaquestion/

PRIVATE COACHING:

Life & Relationship Coaching Information: https://askchauntel.com/getadvice/

WATCH MORE: Christian Relationship Advice Column Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list…

Christian Dating Advice Column Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list…

My Life Advice Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tU852…

MY VIDEO & FILMING GEAR + LINKABLES:

Shutter Button: https://amzn.to/2AvRzG4

Ring Light (Neewer): https://amzn.to/2SAsI9Y

Tripod (Acuvar): https://amzn.to/2VvVPgK

Umbrella Light Kit (Limo Studio): https://amzn.to/2VuzvnC

Microphone (Boya): https://amzn.to/2tH7D3E

YouTube Master Class (Build a YouTube Brand That Matters): https://chaunteldelgado.com/youtubema…

LET’S CONNECT:

http://www.askchauntel.com

http://www.instagram.com/askchauntel

http://www.facebook.com/ask.chauntel

http://www.twitter.com/askchauntel.com

Mental Health Habits & Wellness Tips During Coronavirus – Ask Chauntel (Hope)

Published on by Chauntel Delgado2 Comments

In this video, I share at home mental health habits and wellness tips to overcome the fear, anxiety, and depression from the coronavirus (Covid-19) pandemic and quarantine. If you are looking for hope and healing prayers then join us for prayer at the end and in the comments! We got this, and we will overcome depression, panic, and anxiety. We are stronger together even with social distancing; so say connected!

ON THE BLOG: 🌺. When you are done watching this video check the links, resources, and freebies mentioned in the video plus more below.

FREE Training

➢First Blog Post Guide https://mailchi.mp/de913f483e23/firstblogpostguide

➢Top 5 Mistakes New YouTubers Make https://askchauntel.com/businessfreebies/

➢Brand Identity Chart https://askchauntel.com/businessfreebies/

LINKABLES (Links & Resources Mentioned in Video)

https://askchauntel.com/linkables/

▶️ SUGGESTED PLAYLIST: LIFE AND LOVE ADVICE FOR WOMEN (More Videos Like the one above, Just Skip the Most Current)

VERSES TO LIVE BY:

God has Not Given Us the Spirit of Fear: 2 Timothy 1:7

7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Seek My Face and Heal the Land: 2 Chronicles 7:14

14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

BONUS MATERIAL: FREE GUIDES & TRAINING FROM CHAUNTEL:

💘 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Make A Good Man Want You https://askchauntel.com/personalfreebies/

👜 Free Guide: 8 Steps to Being a Great Christian Wife https://askchauntel.com/personalfreebies/

☮ Listen to Free Audio Devotional – How to Find the Peace Within https://askchauntel.com/personalfreebies/

FREE Training ➢First Blog Post Guide https://mailchi.mp/de913f483e23/firstblogpostguide

➢Top 5 Mistakes New YouTubers Make https://askchauntel.com/businessfreebies/

➢Brand Identity Chart https://askchauntel.com/businessfreebies/

MY VIDEO & FILMING GEAR + LINKABLES: Shutter Button: https://amzn.to/2AvRzG4

Ring Light (Neewer): https://amzn.to/2SAsI9Y
Tripod (Acuvar): https://amzn.to/2VvVPgK

Umbrella Light Kit (Limo Studio): https://amzn.to/2VuzvnC

Microphone (Boya): https://amzn.to/2tH7D3E

YouTube Master Class (Build a YouTube Brand That Matters): https://chaunteldelgado.com/youtubema…

LET’S CONNECT: 

http://www.instagram.com/askchauntel

http://www.facebook.com/ask.chauntel

http://www.twitter.com/askchauntel.com

Christian Dating – Should I Date My Best friend?

Published on by Chauntel Delgado5 Comments

20-year-old Morgan from PA writes in for some Christian dating advice from the advice column, and she writes:

Hi Chauntel!

So I have recently started dating a guy I put in the friend zone several times throughout the years of our great friendship. We truly were and still are each others best friends and have always confided in one another. We have been dating for almost 5 months now and we have been doing this long distance because of his commitment to the Military.

Before our relationship started I let my values, beliefs and morals known. Because I have been his “dream girl” for many, many years he said I will be okay with that because I just want to have you. During this beginning stage of interviewing, I asked Jesus into my heart and devoted my life to him. Since doing so I have felt a growing need for my S.O to be on a similar page as me.

I know that God has it covered when it comes to my boyfriend asking Jesus into his heart and believing in the beautiful sacrifice he made for everyone good and bad in the world. I am just beginning to feel insecure about just waiting for that to happen. I’m feeling most secure now because he deploys in a month for 6 months and I feel like I need to know where he is and what he understands about the Christian faith before he deploys to see if it is worth it to continue courting one another.

I am worried of letting myself go through the emotional turmoil of a deployment and it not being worth it. I am also insecure that my boyfriend fell in love with my looks before my character so I’m worried that he sees me as his future wife for the wrong reasons. I’m just a mess clearly. Please send help lol.

Hi Morgan,

I think it is wonderful that you let your values and beliefs known at the beginning of the relationship. I also believe that it is great that you are his “dream girl”, and he accepts you for who you are. However, that alone isn’t going to be enough for the plan that God has for your life.

And yes… I totally agree with the fact that you want to figure this out before he deploys. It wouldn’t make since to make a commitment to a long distance relationship unless you know that it is something that you want to pursue or truly want to invest into.

So, see where he is with his Christian faith. Then, encourage him to build a relationship with God. Just ensure that he is doing it for him, not just to be in a relationship with you. If he does so, then his motivation will not last.

It could be that you help sow the seed for him to build a deeper relationship with God, or you may find out that his heart isn’t in it. At this point, we don’t know. What we do know is, at this point, you two are unequally yoked, and that will cause many challenges in the future.

The Bible tells us to be equally yoked so that our light can shine brighter. The Bible verse is below!

I hope it helps!  Hey Jewels feel free to leave your advice in the comment section below. 

Chauntel xoxo

2 Corinthians 6:14 King James Version (KJV)

14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

 

Fall Date Ideas – Outdoor Date Ideas

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

If you are looking for some fall date ideas then check out these fun adventurous outdoor date ideas that you can try with your husband or boyfriend. They are also baby friendly so if you have kids they can come along!

If you have questions email me at askchauntel@gmail.com

Video Mentioned at End: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k30uB0mDdHQ&t=115s

If you are looking for life coaching, relationship or marriage help, I offer private coaching by email or even one-on-one coaching sessions. Here is more info:

Jump In!.jpg

Let’s Connect!
http://www.askchauntel.com
http://www.instagram.com/askchauntel
http://www.facebook.com/ask.chauntel
http://www.twitter.com/askchauntel.com

How to Deal with Depressed Husband – How to Be There for a Depressed Husband

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

In this video I share how to deal with a depressed husband. If your husband is depressed, and you want to know how to be there for him then watch!

If you have questions email me at askchauntel@gmail.com

More info for you on http://www.askchauntel.com

Free Audio Training: https://askchauntel.com/newsletter/
Video Mentioned at End: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcJ_VzNtOko

If you are looking for life coaching, relationship or marriage help, I offer private coaching by email or even one-on-one coaching sessions. Here is more info:

Jump In!.jpg

Let’s Connect!
http://www.askchauntel.com
http://www.instagram.com/askchauntel
http://www.facebook.com/ask.chauntel
http://www.twitter.com/askchauntel.com

Money in a Marriage – Advice for Newlyweds

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

In this video we talk about money in a marriage. I share my advice to newlyweds getting married in this millennial age as it can have its challenges.

If you are looking for life coaching, relationship or marriage help, I offer private coaching by email or even one-on-one coaching sessions. Here is more info:

Jump In!.jpg

What to do if You Think your Husband is Cheating

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

In this video I give some Christian Marriage Advice on what to do if you think your husband is cheating. It is so important to lean on God during this difficult time. I give five positive marriage tips to help get your marriage back on track!

Email me questions to: askchauntel@gmail.com

If you are looking for life coaching, relationship or marriage help, I offer private coaching by email or even one-on-one coaching sessions. Here is more info:

Jump In!.jpg

Avoid Instagram Drama – Avoid Social Media Drama – Relationship Advice for Women

Published on by Chauntel DelgadoLeave a comment

In this video I give relationship advice to women on avoid Instagram drama. Sometimes social media drama can cause a strain on our relationships. Let’s talk about how to avoid social media drama in relationships!

Let’s Connect: http://www.askchauntel.com
@askchauntel
Let’s Connect: http://www.askchauntel.com
Email me questions: askchauntel@gmail.com

Video Mentioned at end: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubuWkbdpIjI

If you are looking for life coaching, relationship or marriage help, I offer private coaching by email or even one-on-one coaching sessions. Here is more info:

Jump In!.jpg