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14-year-old Nick writes:
Hey Chauntel, I just watched your video on how to approach a girl and stuff like that…. But my situation is a little bit tougher.. I’m 14, I just started high school this year and I noticed this girl kind of right off the bat as soon as I saw her she immediately drew my attention but I cannot get enough courage to talk to her everytime I try I get all nervous start to blush I get butterflies my mind goes all crazy so I back out and just not talk to her. I’ve never talked to this girl before bc of that reason and it’s almost the end of the school year and I’ve never said a word to her. What’s your advice on how to approach her for the first time without making me look like a fool and I can give her a good first impression on how I am?? And I guess I’m kind of pessimistic about this situation bc I doubt my chances of ever being able to date her when the time presents itself and I always think I’m not good enough and my looks aren’t good enough and I don’t wanna wait too long bc she could get swept up by another guy and I don’t want that /: so please if you could answer back with some advice on this situation ASAP it would help me soooo much (: hope to hear back soon!
Hi Nick,
Have you heard of the Law of Attraction? The gist of it is, if you think negatively you will attract negativity. So, if you keep thinking that you have a small chance to attract her, guess what you do.
So what I need you to do is stop thinking of yourself as never getting a chance with her, but start believing that she would be happy to have you.
If you step to a girl without confidence she is not going to take you seriously, and she will not be attracted to you. Also, this is not about putting on a show. All you have to do is be yourself.
As far as your looks go, although I am not sure how you look I want you to know in most cases it really doesn’t matter. I mean face it. Haven’t you seen plenty of beautiful girls with not so hot guys. Do you know why? It is because those girls are attracted to those guys based on that guys confidence. This is not to say that you are not attractive ok.
So moving on. What you need is a game plan. I don’t mean that you need to memorize how the conversation is going to go word for word. If you do that and it doesn’t go the way you planned you will choke.
Here is how you approach her: Walk up to her and say hello. Introduce yourself. Let her introduce herself. Then, give her a compliment. Then have small talk. It could be about anything.
Then create a sense of urgency. Make up an excuse as to why you have to go, or simply tell her that you have enjoyed talking to her, and you would like to get to know her better. This is the time that you ask her for her number. Then you tell her you will talk to her later, and off you go. Whatever you do, stop this negative self talk and believe in yourself. You will be glad you did.
Now, once you have done that you have approached her, and you have left a good thought in her mind of you. Need some help with the next conversation? I have a video for that:
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
Carmen writes,
Dear Chauntel,
Is there a guy that you are into, and you want to get his attention? Are you wondering what to do to get him to like you? Chauntel responds to Bubzbeauty’s video on How to Get a Guy to Like You! Watch! http://www.askchauntel.com askchauntel@gmail.com
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13-year-old Claire writes:
Hi Chauntel,
There is this boy i have liked since second grade and i can not even explain how much i want to just hug him. i have asked him many times if he would ever go out with me and my friends have asked him also, but he always says no……. I cry every time 😦 i just want to know how to get him to go out with me and there is a big dance next year and my only dream is to go with him to the dance.. but i am trying to gain self confidence but i think i am still ugly… i am the kinda girl who plays softball and volleyball and where my hair up almost everyday… i kinda think he likes me but would be embarrassed to go out with me because of his friends but he also texts me and talks to me on the phone and we tell each other almost everything so please help me………… you can just answer by emailing me back…. p.s. i am the one in the white shirt…
Hi Claire,
You cannot force this guy to like you. In fact, if he was honest and let you know that he was not interested you should have let it go. I know it is not an easy thing to do, but if you don’t you will just be annoying him and making yourself more upset. So, just let this one go. You will find another crush who will like you back!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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Ana from New York writes:
Hey Chauntel,
I really like this guy, but, I’m very nervous to talk to him. Even on facebook. lol. In person it’s easier, but Facebook, forget it. lol.
Hi Ana,Mia The Lost Girl writes:
Dear Chauntel,
I’m in a phase where I don’t think I’m pretty at all, like I’m crap even though how much I wash my face and groom myself, buy fancy clothes etc. If people ask me they said I’m fine. I don’t know why, please help. Thanks.
Hello Mia The Lost Girl,
Well one thing that you must know is the clothes don’t make the girl. It is the girl who makes the clothes. So, with that being said, no amount of make up or shopping can replace a genuine love that you have to find within yourself.
All of the material things aside. I want you to take a moment of appreciation for life. Remember, tomorrow is not promised. You have to live each day as if it was your last. Embrace every fabric of your being and know that you were placed on this earth for a reason. God has a true purpose for your life. If it was not so, you would not be here.
Now, once you have accepted that for what it is you can begin to move forward. Stop trying to use things to make you feel better. Now they don’t say a diamond is a girls best friend for nothing. When we have pretty things we automatically feel pretty, but if that’s all you have it’s for not.
So here is what I want you to do. Strip away all of these things that you think you need to feel pretty. Stand infront of the mirror, and select something about yourself that you are proud of. Focus on that and appreciate. Then, I want you to focus on reversing this negative self talk that you have.
Stop telling yourself how much you don’like you and begin telling yourself over and over that you love you. Everyday, I want you to write down at least 2 things that make you special and unique. If you have to repeat one day that’s ok. More will come. After a months time, I want you to look in the mirror again and see how many beautiful things you like about yourself.
Continue to do this as long as you need to. You my friend are beautiful, and it doesn’t matter how much I or anyone else says it. If you don’t accept it, you will never hear it. So, it is time for you to start making changes. Make your life great. If you don’t then who will?
You are the only one who can change your destiny. Nobody ever said it was easy to be beautiful right? You can do it. I would love to hear how you are doing too!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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16-year-old Rawan writes:
Hello Chauntel!
I am struggling really bad with choosing a college major & there is nobody to help me. My family cares about prestige & heres why I got influenced by them to choose a major thats prestigious! 😦 I got into Law school & then I switched to another university to study Economics. I am so confused I dont know what I want. There are no advisors in my country.
Hello Rawan,
Choosing a college major can be difficult. It is a lot of responsibility to make a decision like this at such a young age when you are still learning who you are as a person.
However, the best way to go about this is select according to what you love to do. Think about what you want to do on a day-to-day basis. Then find out jobs that incorporate your interests. The reality is, it is not about the title. It is about what you are actually doing everyday. Some people have the same title, but work in different industries and therefore have different experiences at work.
Start with what you like to do. Then begin thinking about what you are passionate about. The major will find you.
Let me also advise you. Although, it is important that you are respectful of your family, you are going to be the one going to work everyday. Therefore, you do not want to choose a major for them. You need to choose to do something that you love. Do you know why?
BECAUSE you are going to be the one going to school and suffering through the classes. You are also going to be the one working everyday. You don’t want to walk into a job you hate. If you do you wil hate your life.
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I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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