I have a huge problem and I decided to ask you for help. So I went out with my crush and everything was great he told me that he likes me, I told him that I like him too. Then he was begging me to kiss him so I kissed him. We talked and he told me that he wants us to go slow I said ok. He told me that he had a wonderful time with me. I saw him 5 days after out date, he was with his friends and he didn’t even say hi to me! Then I texted him, and he didn’t answer. What should I do??? please help!

Hi Carmen,

Lets not jump to conclusions. It is possible that he did not see you. If you texted him while he was out with his friends he might have overlooked it.

Now, if a few days go by and you still get no communication from him, he is not into you. It is possible that he is not ready to introduce you to his friends. That could mean many different things.

1. He may not know you well enough yet.

2. He is embarrassed of you for some reason or another.

Here is what I would do in your situation. I would wait it out a couple of days. Don’t call him, text him, facebook him, nothing. If he hasn’t hit you up in a few days text him:

“Hey, how are you?”

See if he replies. If he does follow-up with:

“I really enjoyed hangin’ out the other day.”

If he replies, follow up with:

“I was out (wherever it was) the other day, and I saw you out with your friends. I was (explain what you were doing)”

Then see what he responds with. He may play it off like he didn’t see you. Or he may be honest and tell you that he did see you and explain himself. You don’t even have to ask, but I would  NOT accuse him of ignoring you. It is too soon for all of that.

Then, invite him out to do something. See if he is into it. That should give you and idea of where his head is. If he is responsive, then great don’t worry about that little drama. However, if you are still concerned about it just keep an eye on him.

If he takes too long to introduce you to his friends, then something is up. However, it is too soon for you to be concerned. Cool?

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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