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What to Do If She is Still Interested in Her Ex

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17-year-old Ian from Denmark writes:

I have some problems with my ex girlfriend. We broke up a week ago, but yesterday she suddenly ignore me. cuz i came to her place i tried to talk to her but she is ignoring me she dont want me there she dont even want me to sit anywhere in her room. i always asked her if i still have a chance to have her back she always say maybe maybe not like why dont she just tell me cuz i know that she know but the problem is she dont tell me anything. she compared me over her ex boyfriend which is cause of some of our break up. we broke up severel times. but im here still holding on. i dont know what should i do now she completely ignoring me again. and i think she have feelings with her ex cuz she said im no good to her but her ex always understand her those stuff. please help me. and if i just need to move on please help me how.

Hello Ian,

It sounds like she is distancing herself from you. Therefore, you need to give her the space that she is requesting. If she is interested in her ex boyfriend the two of you don’t stand a chance.

In your situation I would let this one go.

Take it one day at a time. This video should also help:

I HopeThis Helps!

Chauntel

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I’m Scared to Tell Him That I Like Him

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7th Grade Allie from Kansas writes:

Dear Chauntel,

The teacher calls us love birds in gym class. We have a friendship, but now should I do? I am scared to ask him out. What should I do?

Hi Allie,

Nothing good comes easy. Love is worth the risk so, you have to get past the fear and let him know that you are interested.

Tell him that you appreciate his friendship, but that you are interested in getting to know him better. See if he is also interested in getting to know you better. If he says yes, then great go get yo’ man. If he says no, then it’s ok you can still be friends.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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New Video: Church Pick-up Lines- Chauntel Fun Fridays

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Has a guy ever walked up to you after church and approached you with a cheesy pick-up line? Watch! Chauntel, Destiny, and Olivia act a few out for you! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com

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Ask Chauntel Radio Today at 3pm PCT – Teen Bullying

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radio micAsk Chauntel Radio today at 3pm! Call in with questions! Today’s Topic: Teen Bullying

Here is the number to call in: (646) 929-1389

Here is the link to the show:http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askchauntel/2013/08/22/dating-and-relationship-advice-from-ask-chauntel

We are all searching for someone to love. Love is the one thing that we are all in pursuit of. Embrace it, let’s talk about it. Do you have a question? Feel free to call in during the live broadcast or submt to askchauntel@gmail.com. Check out our website http://www.askchauntel.com

How to Set-up a Blog

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Michael writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I saw ur YouTube video about shy guys approaching women….as someone living with I will give u first hand analysis in how bad this situation really is..also I’d like to kno how to set up a blog page from u.

Hi Michael,

Setting up a blog page is simple. You will need to first set-up an email address! If you already have one you can utilize the one you have.

Then, you will have to choose a blogging platform that suits your needs. There are tons of blogging platforms out there. Depending on what your area of interest is, you will choose the platform that suits your needs best.

Instagram is great if you enjoy taking pictures and want to focus your blog on photos and having followers. It is quick blogging. People who use this app normally follow you if you make it personal.

Pintrest is another great bloggin platform for photos. It is also an awesome networking tool because it allows you to connect with people who have similar interests.

Twitter could be considered really fast blogging concerns news, moods, and thoughts.

Blogger is owned by Google and it is very easy to add ads to your post and onto you blog. It is also very user-friendly. However, some consider it for amateurs. I like it though. I have a blog there that I update about once a week if not more. http://www.askchauntel.blogspot.com. It connects directly to your Google Plus accounts. I like that they give you an opportunity to customize your design and template of your blog pretty holistically at no extra charge. It is also helpful because your page is  likely to come up in google search results as this platform is owned by google. You can personalize your navigation and side panels. It also provides you with stats and gives information on where readers where referred from. However, it is more difficult for blogger collaboration.

Tumblr is another blogging platform that is utilized a lot. I haven’t used this one, but I hear it is great for posting photos, and I people can also ask questions right on you page from what my sister tells me.

WordPress is the blogging platform that you are reading from right now. It is used by most professional bloggers. They do not allow you to put google ads on your blog for advertisement, but they do have a lot of options for designs and templates. However, if you want to personalize the design of your page, fonts, and colors you sometimes have to pay a bit extra. For the most part it is free, easy to manage and looks professional. They also keep your stats for you, and let you know how readers were referred to your blog. You are given the opportunity to link your WordPress blog to you Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, and Linkedin. It is not as user friendly as Blogger, but if you stick with it you will learn how it works. There are discussion boards on WordPress as well as a Reader. These tools make it much easier to find new blogs and collaborate with them. This is a good blogging platform to get your feet wet.

All of these blogs that I have mentioned are free. However, if you would like to personalize your domain name you will have to pay for it. It makes it more professional. For example instead of my website url being http://www.askchauntel.wordpress.com, for $18, I made it http://www.askchauntel.com.

I would also like to mention BlogLovin’ to you. It is a platform that allows people to follow blogs that are hosted on different sites. Good luck on your selection process. Share it when you have one! I would love to see it!

Best!

Chauntel

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What to Do When He Owes Child Support – Relationship Advice – Ask Chauntel

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What actions should you take when your Ex stops paying child or spousal support? Can you take legal action against him? Watch! http://www.askchauntel.com, askchauntel@gmail.com

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If she Has a Boyfriend…Should I Tell Her I Like Her?

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21-year-old J from Flordia writes:

 Dear Ask Chauntel,
 My name is Jermaine and I have an interest in my coworker at work. She and I have been friends for over two years and I enjoy her company very much. Yet she is very quiet and reserve most of the time, but she loves when I come over and talk to her. I have been liking her for a very long time, but I haven’t told her yet because I wasn’t sure if she was the right girl for me. She asked me at work did I have a girlfriend and I told her not right now. I asked her the same question and she said she didn’t either, but that she was talking to someone right now. I even walked her to her car when it was time for her leave work. Chauntel I want to know:should I pursue a relationship with her even if she is talking to someone else? Just by her asking me the question: do I have girlfriend?, is that a sign she likes me right now? Look forward to your reply thanks!!!
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Hello J!
If she is not in a committed relationship she is fair gain. If you don’t tell her how you feel while there is still time, you will regret this. So, here is my advice.
Put your reservations aside and let her know how you feel. Her asking you if you have a girlfriend is a good sign, but it is not a tale-tale sign that she likes you. She may have just been curious and wanted to learn more about you.
She isn’t married, so you better let her know while you still can. When the wedding bells start ringing guess what? Times up. So go for it! Don’t rest on your laurels. If you don’t tell her how you feel, you will always wonder. You dig?
Once, you let her know how you feel it’s up to her. Respect her relationship if she is in one. Meaning don’t try to kiss her or anything just have a conversation, and let her know how you feel. If she doesn’t reciprocate, or isn’t ready to let go of her current situation, just continue to be her friend. If it is meant to be the opportunity will present itself again.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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13 and in Love With a Married Woman

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13-year-old Antoine writes:

Hey Chauntel,

Theres this women i like. I’m only 13, and she is like 21 and married. Would it matter if i tell her or should i just keep it balled up inside and never tell anybody?

Hi Antoine,

It’s perfectly normal for you to have a crush, but telling her how you feel would be inappropriate. Sometimes we have to control our inner thoughts. It is during these times that we keep our thoughts to ourselves.

The first issue that we have here is age. She is much too old for you. In fact, she could legally go to jail if she had any dealings with you. Second she is married, and you should never pursue a married woman. It is not honorable.

There will be plenty of wonderful women in your life. So, you are going to have to let this one go. Instead of thinking of it as keeping it bottled up inside, think of it as letting go of your impossible desires.

This is one you are going to have to walk away from. If you really feel like you need to share it. Talk to a close friend who you can trust, or find an artistic expression. You could write a poem or paint something. You can even write  a song. Just don’t attach her name to any of it.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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How To Make a Friend a Boyfriend

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7th grader Allie from Kansas writes:

Hi Chauntel,

Ok well I have a good friendship with this guy, and I am 2 afraid 2 ask him out.  Everyone says that he likes me, but i am so afraid that he will say no. What should i do? Please help me!!!!!!

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Hi Allie,

Well, you have already followed my advice and took the first step which is building a friendship with him. I am so proud of you!

Now what you have to do is gather the courage within yourself to ask him out.

I know this is a scary thing to do, but love is worth the risk. If he says no, it will be ok. It will hurt a little, but after you get through the pain you will be glad you did it because it will give you piece of mind to know one way or the other.

But you also have to consider the benefits of him saying yes, you will finally have a chance at love with your crush.

When you start off the conversation just let him know how you are glad that you all have become friends. You can then explain why if you like, but you don’t have to. Then let him know that you are interested in getting to know him as more than friends, and you were wondering if he felt the same way. Wait for his response. (This is the hard part.)

Then, if he says he’d rather stay friends, take it like a champ. Smile and say ok, and let him know that you understand and that you are glad you can still be friends.

If he says yes, then go girl! Good for you.

By the way. I have a video on this topic that you might find helpful:

 

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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5 Simple Ways to Make Your Husband Smile….at YOU! – Marriage Mondays

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Hey Ladies,

If you’d rather keep him smiling instead of frowning and fightin’, you might want to consider these tips.

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1. Take Time to Listen: As women, we sometimes get so caught up in ourselves that we sometimes forget to take a moment to listen to what our mate is saying. He may not repeat it a million times like we do, but if he said it then he must have meant it. So consider his feelings and make sure that he understands that they matter.

2. Make Him Feel Loved: Amidst the hustle and bustle of the day, we can forget the little things that he sometimes requests. Try to find 3 of those things that you can add to your week. Trust me he will notice. 

3. Be Attentive: When he talks about his hobbies that you don’t care too much about actually pay attention, and give a comment that isn’t snarky. Take the time to enjoy the conversation and even add to it. He mostly just wants to share with you, but he would love it if you actually cared about it.

4. Encourage Him: Men always want a woman who can add light to their life. If he mentions a new idea, or even an old one. Smile and if it’s not something that’s going to harm him in anyway encourage him and support his decisions.

5. Cook For Him: Ahhhh, you knew this was coming. Whether or not a man can cook, he always loves it when his lady does it for him. If you don’t know how learn.

If you do this right you will keep him around for a long time. ‘Cause guess what? It’s nice to be nice. 🙂 

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