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Why Won’t He Call Me His Girlfriend?

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So the guy you have been dating is a little skeptical about “titles”.

You feel like you are in a relationship with him, yet he doesn’t quite call you his girlfriend. This reality leaves you dazed, confused, and sometimes a little frustrated. So What do you do?

You get upset about it, but he always seems to find a way to make you forget about it when you are around him. He knows just what to say, and when to say it. However, when you’re alone all you can do is dissect the situation and try to understand it.

Why won’t he call you his girlfriend? It’s simple. He doesn’t want to commit to you.

Then you ask, well how can that be and why not? When you begin asking these two questions your frustration will build. Why?

Well, if I give you the honest answer you won’t feel any better about the situation than you did before you asked, but since you want to know I guess I will share.

When it comes to a committed relationship, guys can sometimes be scared off by the idea of being “stuck” with one girl. In many cases they would just rather leave their options open.

So, if you are dating “that guy”, what should you do? Well you can chose to take one of two options. One you can accept him for who he is and not pressure the situation, while also keeping your options open and dating other guys. If you choose this option be sure to add value to his life, you don’t just want to be “another girl”. However, keep in mind this can only go on so long because eventually you will move on, if you do this right. Reason being, you should be dating other guys who are a viable option for you. If this guy really likes you he will shape up in time, right before you move on.

Your second option is friend-zone him, and find a guy who is actually in the mental space to want a committed relationship. They are out there waiting on you.

BUT..whatever you do, don’t just get into a relationship, just to be in one. Settling is so not cute!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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He Says He Doesn’t Want to Be in a Relationship

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24-year-old Ebony writes:

I recently ran into an old friend from High School, we exchanged numbers and I text him like a week later. He expressed to me how he always like me but I was only into school, that I was his high school sweetheart. I had no idea he felt this way about me and it sent me into shock.

He asked me out the next day and my response was “um.” Honestly I was still taking in everything he expressed to me the day before and how much love he had. He asked me if it was too soon and indecisively I responded “yeeeeea.”

a few days later after I processed his feelings and I processed my own, I expressed to him how I wish I would of said yes the first time, that I wanted to be with him and I knew he’d be good for me.

this is the exact text he responded with:
“truth is ‘im not ready for a relationship and can be friends. my job takes so much time and plus i’m gonna start school ebony and its not that i’m trying to avoid you its that I get no time for me AND its frustrating!! so i’m sorry ok”

my heart broke and I couldn’t understand what was happening and what I should do. He’s everything I’ve ever wanted , if I go down the list he’s the PERFECT guy for me (yes I said perfect)

I don’t want to loose him … what do I do now?

Hi Ebony!

Look at this as a blessing in disguise. He obviously doesn’t know what he wants, and you my friend can do nothing with a guy who doesn’t know what he wants. You dig?

So, don’t sweat it. If he doesn’t want a relationship then he doesn’t. At least he is being honest with you. He could have gotten with you, then cheated on you.

Cut your losses, there is a guy out there for you. He is wishy washy it seems. Don’t get your heart wrapped up in this. If and when he is ready, he will let you know. Until then, don’t fret just be cool, and see what happens. Stop putting so much pressure on this and just try to have fun. Ok?

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Vote on The Poll: Is There a Double Standard Between Men and Women in the Workplace?

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When men and women are going for the same position, it seems that men are getting ahead or making more then women. Is this a myth or is it reality?

Is She Pretending to Love You?

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Curious Dude writes:

Hi Chauntel!

How do you know woman ain’t pretending to love you?

Hello Curious Dude,

The simple fact that you ask the question makes me skeptical about the girls honest and true feelings for you.

Love goes beyond the feeling. Love is an action. The way you tell the difference between pretend and the real thing, is by her actions.

What does she do to show you that she cares? Is she showing you, or is it all lip service? If you are not getting what you need out of your relationship, then you need to express it. If it doesn’t get any better after that, you are just spinning your wheels.

Love has to be shown. You dig?

Chauntel

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Is Interracial Dating Accepted in Today’s Society?

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3 Signs that a Guy Likes You

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Allie writes:

Hi Chauntel,

How do u tell if a guy likes you, and How would you tell him you like him?

Hi Allie,

Here are three simple ways to tell if a guy likes you:

1. He shows interest and wants to spend time around you.

2. He flirts with and teases you.

3. He tries to stay in close proximity to you and finds ways to make physical contact with you.

It’s better to show him that you like him than to tell him by flirting with him. Build a friendship with him, then let him know that you are interested in getting to know him better.

Here is my video on this topic:

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Gay and Suicidal – Relationship Advice Ask Chauntel

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A viewer who has experienced molestation and is struggling with his self perception writes Chauntel asking about what he can do to encourage his friends and family to accept him for who he is. Chauntel gives him advice on the steps he should take to get his life on track and deal with his spirit of lust, homosexuality, and suicide! Watch!

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3 Ways To Avoid Online Dating CatFish

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The world of Online Dating is growing and growing with over 40 million men and women looking for love. It provides an opportunity for many individuals to meet who would not otherwise have had the opportunity to interact with one another.

Catfish are individuals who create a false identity by pretending to be someone that they are not online, many times they do this to pursue online romances.

Here are 3 ways to Avoid a Catfish

1. Find Their Facebook: If they do not have any social media or if their social media does not have photos of them you should be sceptical. Take a look at their photos and their friends. If they have photos with other individuals who are not tagged in the photos that should raise a red flag. Also, if the individual has fewer than 100 friends you should also be cautious.

2. Use the Phone: Have a voice conversation on the phone with the individual that you met online. Communicating through email and text messages alone is not enough.

3. Use the Webcam: The best way avoid dating a catfish is get them to show their face. With new FREE technologies like Skype and Google Hangouts there is no reason why your online lover wouldn’t be able to show their face. If they don’t have a webcam they can buy one for less than $40.

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