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What to Do If She is Still Interested in Her Ex

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17-year-old Ian from Denmark writes:

I have some problems with my ex girlfriend. We broke up a week ago, but yesterday she suddenly ignore me. cuz i came to her place i tried to talk to her but she is ignoring me she dont want me there she dont even want me to sit anywhere in her room. i always asked her if i still have a chance to have her back she always say maybe maybe not like why dont she just tell me cuz i know that she know but the problem is she dont tell me anything. she compared me over her ex boyfriend which is cause of some of our break up. we broke up severel times. but im here still holding on. i dont know what should i do now she completely ignoring me again. and i think she have feelings with her ex cuz she said im no good to her but her ex always understand her those stuff. please help me. and if i just need to move on please help me how.

Hello Ian,

It sounds like she is distancing herself from you. Therefore, you need to give her the space that she is requesting. If she is interested in her ex boyfriend the two of you don’t stand a chance.

In your situation I would let this one go.

Take it one day at a time. This video should also help:

I HopeThis Helps!

Chauntel

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New Video: What Attracts a Guy to a Girl – Ask Chauntel Radio

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My Military Parents Don’t Support My Career Decisions

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Grace writes:

Hello Chauntel,

Recently we moved as my family’s in the military. I will be a senior in high school next year and my parents have a certain college in mind for me. The problem is that i don’t want to go there. I know what i want to do for my career but they don’t want to send me to any schools that offer pre-vet classes. I found some decent colleges and prices but they still want me to stay in the state. i have tried several times to show them other options but if i don’t go to a college in this state they will hear none of it. Do you have any advice? Thank you in advance.
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Hi Grace,
It is very important to continue to show respect your parents, but when you begin making decisions that are not inline with their plan for you it can become difficult.
However, you have to express how you feel to them. In reality, you are the one who is going to be going to class and doing the work, and once school is over you will be working the job.
It is unfair for your parents to try to force you into a career that you don’t want to do, but trust me you are not the only one who is dealing with this. Our parents invest a lot in our lives, and into our education. Sometimes they do not know where to draw the line.
It is up to you to bring it to their attention, and you must be gentle in your approach. Make sure that they understand that you respect their wishes, but that you have to be the one to make this decision as it is going to affect your life directly. Ask them to respect your wishes. They may not, and if they don’t it is ok. In time they will come around.
What I don’t want you to do, is go to a college or pursue a degree that you don’t want. This would be a waste of your time and money.
What  I want you to do is respectfully decline your parents recommendation, and find a college program that is inline with your career goals and apply there.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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9 Things a Girl Should Never Say to Her Boyfriend!

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10 is laugh at him! Chauntel gives women advice on 9 things they should never say to their boyfriend. Funny! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com http://www.askchauntel.com

Am I His Bootycall?

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21-year-old Alia writes:

Hi Chauntel!

I have been a fan of your YouTube channel for quite a while now 🙂 Please Chauntel, I need your help.

A few weeks ago, me and a few of my friends went out clubbing. We were all just having a fun night out. That night, I bumped into one of my school mates from High School. We had a little chat and he asked me to dance with him, so I did. After dancing for quite some time, we chilled had a few drinks and he flirted and he tried to kiss me but I pushed him away. But we still hung around each other later on. Much later he accompanied me to send my friend back home.
Meanwhile, my friend was drunk and passed out in the car. So, I called for backup from my other friends. While they were on their way, me and him talked for quite a while and while we were talking he held me and wrapped his arms around me. He also mentioned that I looked “sexy” and that I’m “wild” compared to when I was in High School. The flirting was nice, I enjoyed it to be honest.
After helping my drunk friend, he sent me back home. He gave a kiss on the cheek but somehow I felt like we should kiss. So, I gave him the signal and we did.
The next day, he texted me asking me whether or not I’m busy later to get “busy” with him. But I just ignored it. And so we kept on talking for the next 3 days. During those 3 days, he insist on having sex with me and asked me for a “picture” of myself. In which, I did give him to be honest. But I wasn’t naked, I still had my underwear on. I don’t know, maybe at that time I just wanted to tease him. See what he does. However on the last day, we decided to meet up for coffee. We talked and he told me he’s leaving for a weekend vacation and mentioned that he wants a piece of me when he gets back.
While he’s on vacation, we never contacted each other. I also didn’t try to do anything cause I didn’t want to seem desperate or needy and give him space. But when he did get back, he never tried to get in touch with me. So, I wondered why. The next few days, I texted him to see how he was doing. He replied. Had a little chat. Then we hardly spoke for the next few weeks. I didn’t call or text nor did he.
However, 2 weeks ago, I thought I got into contact with him. I asked him what he’s doing. He said “Nothing, just chilling at home”. I asked “I’ll be having drinks with my friends at some bar if you wanna join”. He said he’ll think about it. But he also mentioned that he’s going on a trip the next morning with his friends, so I said “Its okay”. And we didn’t talk for the next few days.
Last week Thursday, he texted me seeing what am I up to. I said I was chilling with my girlfriends and he said he just got back from the trip. And we spoke a little, he said goodnight as did I. I didn’t hear from him on Friday and on Saturday. Nor did I try to do anything about it. So, on sunday, I texted him “Hey” and he hasn’t replied since.
HELP ME CHAUNTEL! Please. I don’t know what to do plus I’m also confused at times. Your advice is much appreciated. Thanks 🙂
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Hi Alia,
This guy is not interested in you. He is just using you for sexual favors.
I feel that you are looking for a relationship, and he is not. He is looking for someone to sleep with. It’s best for you to let this guy go and find someone who is on the same level as him of looking for a sexmate. That is not you.
You must be patient to find a guy who is also interested in a relationship. This guy will only end up hurting and disappointing you. You dig?
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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Summer Wedding Ideas

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Summer is the time for weddings! It’s nice outside. The family is on vacation. The sun is shinning.

You don’t have to worry about the rain destroying your beautiful day. You can choose a dress that is more fun and playful.

Yes, this is why many choose to get married in the summer, but what is going to make your summer wedding sparkle!? What is going to make it different than the rest? You must personalize your wedding to fit the needs of you and you groom.

Lucky for you Bridal Shows are happening almost every weekend during the summer. Here are some cute summer wedding ideas for those of you planning.

Have Great Legs? Where a Shorter Dress to Show Them Off

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Olia Zavozina Bridal
Choose this option appropriately. It’s a good idea for an outside wedding in a garden or at the beach.

Wear a Flower in Your Hair Instead of a Long Veil

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Etsy: KrumpetsDesigns

Be a Roman goddess and skip the train.

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David’s Bridal Style VW351000
Be a Roman goddess and skip the train. Wear more drapey  fabrics with columns as your arch.

Plan a Destination Wedding

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Plan a Destination Wedding on The Beach!

Vote: When a Guy Cheats and Says That He Is In Love Is It True?

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Am I in An Abusive Relationship

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Heather writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I need to know if im in a abusive relationship can u help me?
when me nd my partner first met he bought me fowers chocolate nd put money into my bank account all the time, but since he has moved house with his friend he has changed, when we argue he grabbes me by my throught nd puts me on the floor nd drags me, he has never punched me or anything like that, he says he does it because he feel threatened when we argue he feels like im going to hit him when im not it has happened on 4 diffrent occasions, but last we we had an argument nd he threw me on the floor and opened the car door which hit me in the head then dragged me nd pushed me for about 20 mins then put me on the floor again then put me on the floor again after that nd screaming at me whilst im shoved in the corner nd his friend grabbed me by the throught but when he put me to the floor he grabbed me by the throught everytime, he done this because i asked for my car back that i lent him nd now he is refusing to giv it back because he had to replace the clutch,, i dont know weather to leave him or not, but now i finch at him and im scared to speak my opinion incase he gets angry but when he doesnt do this sort of thing hes really nice too me,, i really dont know what to do,, please help,,, thankyou
 

Interracial Dating Help Please!

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19-year-old CJ writes:

Hi there Chauntel!

I just wanted to ask you about my situation. Well here’s the situation. This girl that works at the same place I work at (Walmart) is whom I really like. Shes black. Now I’m Filipino and shes Jamaican. Just saying lol

Someone in my department had told her that I like her and I heard that she smiled about it. So what does that mean? Is that a sign that she likes me as well? Or just so that shes flattered and plus she’s 22 and I’m 19 turning 20.

Hi CJ,

Well, a smile is universal for happy. Beyond that, there is not much else we can know for sure.
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What I recommend is you approach her, and ask her out for ice cream. See if she is interested. Schedule the time a little after lunch, but before dinner. If Ice cream goes well you can take a walk in the park right after, or schedule time to meet up again. The next meet up time will be for a more formal date like dinner, and an activity like: bowling, miniature golf, hiking, or something else that is interactive and will give you all the opportunity to talk. Save the movie for the second or third date, you cannot talk much at a movie.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Should I Tell My Crush I Like Him on Facebook?

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Brooke writes: 

Hello Chauntel,

 I’m a sophmore in high school and I like this boy who’s a senior. I always see him when he comes from his fourth period class to go to his fifth period class and we walk right past each other to get to our fifth period class. I recently added him on facebook and I was going to send him a msg letting him know that I like him but I rather do it in person.. How should I go up to him and let him know that im interested? I’m just hoping that he’s interested and single too.

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Hi Brooke,

Do not send this to him on Facebook. If he doesn’t like you he could later use this against you. Case in point, let’s just say this guy isn’t the nicest and he decides to show your heartfelt message to his friends, that would be hurtful right?

Good for you that you had the courage to add him on Facebook. Sure, you can send him a message saying hello and beginning a conversation, but not about you liking him. Wouldn’t that be weird? The two of you don’t even know each other yet.  

If anything you should talk to him in person. Maybe set up a time to study with him for the class that the two of you have together. Maybe invite him out with friends. If he says no, no skin off your back, and if he says yes, well good for you gal!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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