Category: Faith & Wellness

I Don’t Feel Pretty at All

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Mia The Lost Girl writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I’m in a phase where I don’t think I’m pretty at all, like I’m crap even though how much I wash my face and groom myself, buy fancy clothes etc. If people ask me they said I’m fine. I don’t know why, please help. Thanks.

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Hello Mia The Lost Girl,

Well one thing that you must know is the clothes don’t make the girl. It is the girl who makes the clothes. So, with that being said, no amount of make up or shopping  can replace a genuine love that you have to find within yourself.

All of the material things aside. I want you to take a moment of appreciation for life. Remember, tomorrow is not promised. You have to live each day as if it was your last. Embrace every fabric of your being and know that you were placed on this earth for a reason. God has a true purpose for your life. If it was not so, you would not be here.

Now, once you have accepted that for what it is you can begin to move forward. Stop trying to use things to make you feel better. Now they don’t say a diamond is a girls best friend for nothing. When we have pretty things we automatically feel pretty, but if that’s all you have it’s for not.

So here is what I want you to do. Strip away all of these things that you think you need to feel pretty. Stand infront of the mirror, and select something about yourself that you are proud of. Focus on that and appreciate. Then, I want you to focus on reversing this negative self talk that you have.

Stop telling yourself how much you don’like you and begin telling yourself over and over that you love you. Everyday, I want you to write down at least 2 things that make you special and unique. If you have to repeat one day that’s ok. More will come. After a months time, I want you to look in the mirror again and see how many beautiful things you like about yourself.

Continue to do this as long as you need to. You my friend are beautiful, and it doesn’t matter how much I or anyone else says it. If you don’t accept it, you will never hear it. So, it is time for you to start making changes. Make your life great. If you don’t then who will?

You are the only one who can change your destiny. Nobody ever said it was easy to be beautiful right? You can do it. I would love to hear how you are doing too!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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How to Choose A College Major

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16-year-old Rawan writes:

Hello Chauntel!

I am struggling really bad with choosing a college major & there is nobody to help me. My family cares about prestige & heres why I got influenced by them to choose a major thats prestigious! 😦 I got into Law school & then I switched to another university to study Economics. I am so confused I dont know what I want. There are no advisors in my country.

Hello Rawan,

Choosing a college major can be difficult. It is a lot of responsibility to make a decision like this at such a young age when you are still learning who you are as a person.

However, the best way to go about this is select according to what you love to do. Think about what you want to do on a day-to-day basis. Then find out jobs that incorporate your interests. The reality is, it is not about the title. It is about what you are actually doing everyday. Some people have the same title, but work in different industries and therefore have different experiences at work.

Start with what you like to do. Then begin thinking about what you are passionate about. The major will find you.

Let me also advise you. Although, it is important that you are respectful of your family, you are going to be the one going to work everyday. Therefore, you do not want to choose a major for them. You need to choose to do something that you love. Do you know why?

BECAUSE you are going to be the one going to school and suffering through the classes. You are also going to be the one working everyday. You don’t want to walk into a job you hate. If you do you wil hate your life.

You Dig?

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Ps. Check out this video if you haven’t already:

What Do My Dreams Mean?

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Deidra writes:

Hey Chauntel,

I’m new to your video’s on youtube and well i could use some advice…..i’ve had this dream not to long ago and i don’t get what the song means the only thing that i remember is that it goes ” someone is waiting for me, somewhere over the sea.” and idk what it means can u help thanks and i love ur advice!!!

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Hi Deidra,

Dreams represent your subconscious.

Sometimes dreams are given from God to foretell  the future. There are various texts in the Bible about prophecy through dreams. One example is when God gave Joseph a dream of what would happen between he and his brothers. The story went that his brothers would sell him as a slave. It happened not too long after. You an read about it, in Genesis 37:1-36

BUT….most of the time, dreams are just random thoughts that intertwine with people or things in your life. Maybe you have been thinking about love. Maybe you have been dreaming about traveling. One cool thing to do is, when you have a dream write it down. Then come back to it and see if you are having patterns in your dreams. You may find an interesting phenomena.

Take this opportunity to go out on a vacation with your family, and give yourself the opportunity to meet more new and interesting people.

It sounds like your subconscious is trying to tell you that you are in need of some love and adventure. The way this works is sometimes we get so busy in life, or we just don’t pay attention to what we are in need of because we are caught up in other things. Take time to reflect and enjoy every second of life! There may be thoughts going through your mind that you are not paying much attention to that could reveal amazing adventures that you are destined to embark upon. If nothing else, write them down. It’s a great way to be creative and write a song, poem, or even a short story!

Keep Dreaming!

Chauntel

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My Bestfriend and I Like the Same Guy…I Think???

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Confused writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I have a crush on a guy but i think the guy likes my best friend. I was too shy to talk to him and I\’m afraid that if I just randomly come up to him and start talking he will just feel really awkward and try to walk away. I\’m the type of girl who is fun to be around if i know someone really well but if i don\’t know someone, i just start to panic and become really quiet. My crush and my best friend are in the same class and somehow they always get paired up with each other. My crush keeps trying to talk with my best friend. Even though my best friend is not interested in him I somehow feel that she is afraid to tell me that she likes him. My best friend sometimes tries to avoid him and at other times tries to be friends with him. Although i didnt see the both of them talking but i know that they talk. I have heard it from several of my other friends and also my best friend who keep complaining to me (sometimes) about how annoying my crush is.I told everyone that i\’m not i nterested in that guy and i\’m trying to move on but it sometimes hurts me to see … Am I doing the right thing? Plz answer as fast as you can and tell me where i can find your answer. Thanks a lot for taking the time to read this and sorry for the grammatical mistakes.

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Hi Confused,

I encourage you to be honest with your best-friend. Don’t pretend not to like the guy. Why lie about it?

However, if she does like him then the two of you should leave this guy alone because this could really effect your friendship. Don’t be afraid to talk to him. How else can you get to know him better?

Start with a smile and hello. It doesn’t have to be a long conversation.

 The main thing here is you do not want this guy to end up affecting the relationship that you have with your bestfriend. Bestfriends don’t come along often, and when they do you should cherish them!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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How can you tell if someone cares?

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Richard writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I wanted to ask you for advice in finding out if a girl really cares about you? Please notice, I didn’t ask if she likes or loves you, because anyone can claim with their words that they like or love you, but its more challenging to find out if they really care about you with actions or other concrete ways.

Thanks for answering my question.

Hello Richard,

People show that they care through their actions. Just giving you lip service (talking about it) does not mean much.

You have to examine your interactions with them.

Answer these five questions:
1. Does she treat you well?
2. Does she make time for you?
3. Does she include you in her plans?
4. Does she make you feel good when you are around her?
5. Is she willing to compromise on reasonable things to make you happy?

If she doesn’t treat you well, doesn’t make time for you, doesn’t include you in her plans, makes you feel insecure, and is not willing to compromise sometimes to make you happy, then she really doesn’t care too much about you.

One thing that I want you to take note of is people show that they care through different methods. Why? Well it is simple, everyone is different. Some people show that they care buy cooking, some by purchasing a special gift, some by making extra time in their day, some by expressing themselves through music or poetry, and some by physical touch.

There is a book that I would like to recommend to you. It is the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and it’s less than $10 bucks. You can pretty much find it anywhere. Don’t get freaked out, I know that you said you didn’t want to use the L word, but face it if you care about someone you usually do love them, not to say that you have to be in love with them.

The 5 Love Languages
The 5 Love Languages

I hope you find what you are looking for.

Be Blessed,

Chauntel

How to become more positive. – Life Advice – Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel explains why it is important to cut negative people out of your life and believe in yourself. Watch it’s very inspirational! You need some encouragement! Who doesn’t? Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com

Mother’s Day is Tomorrow!

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Mother’s Day is just around the counter! What have bought for your mom??? Huh? Did you forget? (:

Well spending time with her, and making breakfast is a great addition to any present that you purchased. No matter how old you get a hand written I love you never gets old!

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Don’t forget to show your mom some love tomorrow!

Cheers!

Chauntel

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Video: NSSI – I Cut Myself – Ask Chauntel (CLICK TEXT)

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Chauntel explains Non Suicidal Self Injury and expresses what a girl should do if she continues having the urge to hurt herself physically because of her feelings! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com

Video: How to Build a Better Relationship with My Dad

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How do I Build a Better Relationship With My Father – Relationship Advice – Ask Chauntel

Chauntel explains the steps that she needs to take to build a better relationship with her dad.