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How do you tell your parents that you are dating someone?

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Dalia writes:

How do you tell your parents that you are dating someone?

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Hi Dalia,

Whenever you chose to express important information to someone that  you love you have to choose the appropriate time to do so. That means, you should not share this type of information when your parents are occupied with other things.

You should choose a time that you and your parents have together without any distractions. Choosing to do so in the middle of their favorite television show or while they are on the phone is not a good idea.

The best time to have a serious conversation with your parents is when they are relaxing and don’t already have a lot on their mind. For example, if you know that they had a bad day at work, or they are stressed about something going on that day, it’s probably not a good time to give them this type of news.

It is important to remember not to choose a time that is great for you, but terrible for them. This is a selfish choice, and you will probably not get the type of support that you are looking for.

However, choosing the appropriate time to share this type of information is only half of the battle. You have to prepare yourself for their reaction. You have to keep in mind that they may or may not support your decision. You are their baby, and they still see you as such. They may not be ready for you to be in a relationship. It is important for you to be respectful of their wishes.

Choosing the appropriate time, will afford you the opportunity for them to have the best reaction possible. Sharing this information is important, and doing so is good and very mature of you. Also, don’t give this information when you have guests with you. This should be done at a time when you are alone with your parents. You should choose to share this information when you all have leisure time, this will make the process less stressful. Always, remember your parents love you, and they want the best for you. Therefore, it is important to share and be honest with them.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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How to Tell if a Guy Likes You

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15-year-old Apple writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I am in high school and I think a guy likes me but in not sure. My friends asked him before if he likes anyone and he said no but then his sister Asked him and he said he didn’t know. Does that mean he’s still trying to figure it out? Or does it mean he Doesn’t. Also me and my friend both like the same guy and I think he knows that. He mentioned something about going on a date with me, in front of me but idk if he was joking or not. I love your videos and I hope u reply!

Hi Jessica,

Hi Apple,
If he mentioned going out on a date with you infront of you then that means that he is interested in you. If he says that he doesn’t know, then it means just that. He probably doesn’t know you well enough to know if he likes you yet. The best thing to do is get to know him better by building a friendship with him. Flirt with him and see if he asks you to go out.
Here are a few videos that I think you might find helpful.
How to Date a Quiet Boy
 
Does He Like You

First Kiss Kissing Tips – Dating Advice -Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel gives advice on where your hands should go during your first kiss. Where should his/hers go? What do you do afterwards! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com

Interracial Dating Help Please!

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19-year-old CJ writes:

Hi there Chauntel!

I just wanted to ask you about my situation. Well here’s the situation. This girl that works at the same place I work at (Walmart) is whom I really like. Shes black. Now I’m Filipino and shes Jamaican. Just saying lol

Someone in my department had told her that I like her and I heard that she smiled about it. So what does that mean? Is that a sign that she likes me as well? Or just so that shes flattered and plus she’s 22 and I’m 19 turning 20.

Hi CJ,

Well, a smile is universal for happy. Beyond that, there is not much else we can know for sure.
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What I recommend is you approach her, and ask her out for ice cream. See if she is interested. Schedule the time a little after lunch, but before dinner. If Ice cream goes well you can take a walk in the park right after, or schedule time to meet up again. The next meet up time will be for a more formal date like dinner, and an activity like: bowling, miniature golf, hiking, or something else that is interactive and will give you all the opportunity to talk. Save the movie for the second or third date, you cannot talk much at a movie.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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How To Attract a Guy When You are an Athlete

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15-year-old Brooklyn from Canada writes:

Hey Chauntel,

I play numerous sports, get good grades, and am outgoing! But yet I still can’t attract a guy, my bestfriend has guys all over her and yet I can’t even interest one. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, help!

Hi Brook!

I am so glad that you are in sports! That is awesome both for your health and for your future. It is helpful for your health because you are getting great exercise! It is helpful for your future because if you keep working hard you may eventually get a scholarship. Also, it is good to involve yourself with an extracurricular activity as it keeps you busy and away from trouble.

As far as the guys go, they love athletic girls, but that should not be your reason for being an athlete. You should be an athlete because you love it, not because you hope to attract a guy. However, being an athelete will put you in the “cool” category in school most of the time, and it will make you more appealing to guys.

 Here is one thing that I want you to keep in mind, you should not be comparing yourself to your bestfriend. Sure it is easy to do that because she is your age, and you are around her all the time. But…you have to consider that fact that you are your own person. The fact that you are bestfriends must mean that you compliment eachother and are probably different in many ways. With that said, you should not worry about the guys that she is attracting. If you want a guy, they you have to create the opportunities for you to meet and be around them.

Now, granted being an athelete is attractive, but it is also time consuming. The time that you might be spending hanging out at the mall, or movies, or other places will be spent in practice. This limits the time that you have for boys. The fact that you play an all girls sport limits the amount of time that you are going to have for guys. I am not saying that you cannot have both sports and boys, but what I am saying is give yourself a break your time is limited. You are a busy girl between school and sports. Relationships take time to initiate and to grow.

Most of the time, the best relationships come when you least expect it. So….if you want a guy, you are probably going to have to meet him at lunch, or in class. I wouldn’t rush this. You have plenty of time for guys. Stop driving yourself crazy. Be patient, when you have the time you will attract the guy.

I Hope This Helps!

 Chauntel

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How do I Focus on One Woman- Dating Advice- Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel gives advice on how to focus your attention to one lady! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com. This is part 1…… Part 2 Here is your response Korsa it is on my blog! http://askchauntel.blogspot.com/2012

Should I Tell My Crush I Like Him on Facebook?

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Brooke writes: 

Hello Chauntel,

 I’m a sophmore in high school and I like this boy who’s a senior. I always see him when he comes from his fourth period class to go to his fifth period class and we walk right past each other to get to our fifth period class. I recently added him on facebook and I was going to send him a msg letting him know that I like him but I rather do it in person.. How should I go up to him and let him know that im interested? I’m just hoping that he’s interested and single too.

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Hi Brooke,

Do not send this to him on Facebook. If he doesn’t like you he could later use this against you. Case in point, let’s just say this guy isn’t the nicest and he decides to show your heartfelt message to his friends, that would be hurtful right?

Good for you that you had the courage to add him on Facebook. Sure, you can send him a message saying hello and beginning a conversation, but not about you liking him. Wouldn’t that be weird? The two of you don’t even know each other yet.  

If anything you should talk to him in person. Maybe set up a time to study with him for the class that the two of you have together. Maybe invite him out with friends. If he says no, no skin off your back, and if he says yes, well good for you gal!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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Why am I still single?

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Chauntel explains 7 reasons why you have not found your mate. What are you doing wrong? Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com

5 Steps to Getting Whiter Teeth

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Clarissa writes:

Hi Chauntel,

How do you get white teeth?

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Hello Clarissa,

Here are a few easy steps to making your teeth whiter:

1. Brush three times a day

2. Use Hydrogen Peroxide with your tooth paste in the morning

3. Use a Whitening toothpaste (I use Arm and Hammer)

4. Use Baking Soda instead of toothpaste on some days

5. Use over-the-counter whitening stripes

After you have taken all of these steps at home you can go into your dentist and have them give you a tooth whitening. Have fun aiding to your pearly whites (:

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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How to Talk to Beautiful Women When You are Nervous or Shy – Dating Advice – Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel explains why guys that fear talking to women struggle to connect with a girl. What must you do to get her attention? Where are you going wrong? There is an answer! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com. How to To Talk to Women- Conversation Topics http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGXDUe