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Father’s Day Gift Ides

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If you are having a hard time finding your dad a gift this video will be helpful for you! So many times we forget about our fathers and they don’t ask for much! We can we do to show our love? Watch!

Ps. Yes, I know it’s Wednesday and you are getting a video! I had to make a special exception for Father’s Day! Share it with your friends!

How to Get Over a Break-up – Ask Chauntel

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Dealing with a break-up or know someone who is? Chauntel has some great tips on dealing with and overcoming your break-up. You don’t have to go through this alone, there are people around you who care about you and want to help! These basic tips will get you out of your depression and on track to moving on and growing within yourself! Watch!

Videos Mentioned at End:

How to Deal with Depression
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How to Set a Goal and Plan for Success

First Kiss Kissing Tips

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13-year-old Cody writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I think my girlfriend is going to kiss me, so how should I do it?

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Hi Cody,

Kissing should happen in a fluid motion. It shouldn’t be rushed, and it very well shouldn’t make either of you feel pressured.

So, here are the basics:

1. Your hands should go around her waist, but not below the belt. Remember to always be respectful!

2. Her hands will naturally go above your shoulders around your neck.

3. Make eye contact. and see if she is on the same page and ready to go in for the kiss. If and when you see that she is, you can slowly go in for it. This will give you enough time to assess if she will meet you in the middle, or turn away instead.

Then you simply go in and naturally find her lips. After you lips meet, close your eyes.  Otherwise it is a little weird.

And that is it! Great job you have had your first kiss!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

Advice to Kim Kardashian & Kayne West on How to Survive Year 1 of Marriage

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Hello My Jewels,

So, I am sure that you have heard of the “royal” wedding that united Kim Kardashian and Kayne West in holy matrimony over the weekend. And my ohhhh my did she look stunning to say the least! This dress was a much better option compared to the former dress she wore when she was wedded with Chris Humphries. It fits her shape like a glove, more on than the latter…In this post I will be sharing my advice to Kim and Kayne and other newly-wedded couples!

It is commonly shared that the first year of marriage is the most difficult. You may wonder why? Well there are many things to consider when starting your marriage off.

So here is my advice to Kim and Kanye as well as anyone else who is newly married or will be:

Keep you private conversations private. It is good to have a good friend/or family member as a relief system to talk to outside of your spouse, but don’t share incriminating information because it may cause resentment, unless you are being abused of course.

In lieu of the fact that you have busy schedules, be sure that you are spending quality time together. You may have busy schedules, but the last thing that you want is to be lacking in time spent together. It is just as important as the other things that you wish to do with your time.

Take time to show your appreciation to each-other by doing small little thoughtful things for each-other as a reminder that you care.

During the first year of marriage you learn each-other’s habits and expectations. Some of these are good and some bad.  You may or may not agree with many of them, but you must communicate and establish a common ground. Here is where you learn to compromise.

To have a successful first year of marriage you must pay close attention to detail. What is it that your husband/wife wants and needs. You must identify that. Many times we speak with our eyes. So learn to read their non-verbal cues.

Screen Shot 2014-05-27 at 10.31.53 AMAlso, don’t let the small hick-ups go unresolved. Communicate through every bump in the rode. If you allow bad feelings to grow you will eventually grow resentment towards your spouse. It is essential  that you share your feelings often. Also, be sure that you spend quality time together. Time with your spouse needs to be included in your schedule just like everything else. Relationships take work and they occupy your time.

Be sure to praise your spouse for the things that they are doing well. If you only focus on what they are doing wrong you will find it difficult to make them feel good. They will also feel as though they are not making you happy which will in turn cause them to feel self-conscious. Even though you may not realize it, you two have expectations of each-other. These expectations are usually based off of what you have witnessed as a child as you watched your parents or  “parent-like” figures interact. Be sure to communicate what you expect from each-other in the beginning.

Spend time doing things that you enjoy together, but also sacrifice and do things that each of you separately enjoy even if you personally don’t like those things. You do this because you love each-other.

Spend time with both of your families and friends. Keep it fair!

Share your  life with your spouse. You want to make them feel like they are the center of your world.

I Hope This Helps!

Email Questions to askchauntel@gmail.com, and comment below with your advice!

-Chauntel

How to Communicate with your Romantic Partner When You are Upset

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Hello Jewels!

Today I am inspired to share with you the proper way to communicate when you are upset with your romantic partner(boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife). Communication alone is difficult for most of us, but no one said that sustaining a healthy relationship would be easy. However, just like anything else if you want it to be good it takes time and effort.

When we are upset with our partners, there are usually two responses we may give. Our first instinct may be to give them the cold shoulder. Some may begin yelling uncontrollably. However, we well know that neither of these reactions will solve the problem.

If you choose to give them the cold shoulder, which in turn is choosing not communicate, you may find yourself at odds for a painstaking long time. This extended amount of time at odds just forces the situation to become more uncomfortable. Coincidently,  what you were upset about at the beginning becomes distorted develops even more problems.

On the other hand, if you choose to begin yelling at them, not only do both of you raise your blood-pressure, watching  the veins pop out of your necks, but you may also find yourself in a daze of anger. So, what is the best way to deal with this?

You have to talk calmly to one another, and it has to be in the right setting. Meaning the conversation should be held privately. Don’t have these types of conversations in front of children or friends. Sometimes, these conversations make you feel vulnerable, and they can become heated debates. You do not want your children to see this. Friends and family should also not witness this conversation. It can become very personal and it is best to be held privately. Many times, the way you handle this will determine the strength of your relationship.

Watch your words because you don’t want to end up saying something ugly simply because you were caught up in the moment. If you find yourself getting upset take a moment and count to 10. This will give you a moment to gather you thoughts, so that you can proceed forward with the conversation.

Be sure that when you are having the conversation you are honest about your feelings and be sure not to say things simply out of anger, or the desire to make your spouse/bf/gf hurt more. Also, don’t hold your feelings in. You cannot rectify the problem if you do not share with your partner what is wrong.  Your goal here should be to identify the problem and find a solution. Do not ignore it and sweep it under the rug. It will only get worse. This must be a collaborative effort. Both of you have to put time into this, and work to make it better.

Lastly, after the issue has been resolved. Show some physical sign of remorse. Apologize, and figure out how the situation will be handled in the future.

I Hope This Helps!

Have a questions? Click here, tweet me, or email me at askchauntel@gmail.com!

Chauntel

 

Why am I not getting hired?

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This is quite a loaded question.There are a number of reasons for why you may not be getting hired, and this explanation is not meant to be exhaustive.

Here are a few examples as to why you might not be getting hired:

  1. It may simply be that you are opting into a very competitive field.
  2. You might not be taking the right steps to gain the proper experience for jobs that you are applying to.
  3. You might possibly be applying to jobs that you are over or under qualified for or not interviewing well.
  4. Your networking efforts may not be up to par.
  5. It may also be that your Resume and/or Cover-letter do not properly highlight or represent your Knowledge, Skills, Abilities, and Other Attributes(KSAOs), that make you a competitive candidate for positions. Let Chauntel help you with this!
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Click here if you would like information on Chauntel’s Resume and Cover-letter Review Services.

Click here for a Professional Coaching session. 

 

Why Do Women Date Older Men? – Ask Chauntel – Dating Advice

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When it comes to age and dating, it seems that many times younger women are attracted to older men. Why is that? What causes this fascination? Watch and comment below!

Happy New Year

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ImageHello Beautiful People!

I am so blessed and grateful to you for your support! There are millions of people blogging out there, but you chose to support me, and I want to thank you for it.

2014 is here, and we have an opportunity to make positive choices in  our professional, romantic, and spiritual lives.

Don’t make empty resolutions. Choose to make realistic changes in your life that will make a difference. Feel free to email me with your questions and refer me to your friends!

Be Blessed!

Chauntel

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My Girlfriend Cheated on Me How Do I Get Her Back? – Ask Chauntel

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20-year-old Chedda from Nairobi, Kenya writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I just found out that my girlfriend was cheating on me, and I decided to break up with her…but i really love her. How do I get her to come back and say sorry?

ImageHi Chedda,

If your girlfriend cheated on you, then it is probably best that you broke up with her. The only time that I think you should consider going back into this relationship is if she has regained your trust and is obviously ready to make a positive change for the future of your relationship.

Otherwise, she will not respect you and will most likely continue to be unfaithful. So, my friend it is best that you let her do the apologizing. You have nothing to apologize for. She should be the one trying to make things work with you. If she isn’t then that probably means that she is just not that into you, and is not interested in continuing a relationship with you.

So, I would like to see you continuing to stand up for yourself, and wait to see how she handles the situation. If she is not apologetic, and is not pursuing you anymore, it’s best that you let this one go, ok? You deserve to be with someone who loves you and appreciates you for who you are.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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