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18 Week Pregnancy Bump Update
Here is my 18 week pregnancy update! I know it’s been a while since I have updated you guys, but being pregnant causes you to be extremely tired most of the time! I am glad to continue sharing this exciting journey.
Size of baby: Sweet Potato, 5.6 to 6.7 inches long, weighing about 6.7 ounces
How far along? 18 weeks!
Total weight gain/measurements: about 12 pounds
Maternity clothes: Yes, but I can mix and match my maternity bottoms with tops that I already have! I have also invested in a few maxi dresses both maternity and non maternity! However, I totally reccommend visiting the maternity store sooner than later. A lot of people shy away from it because they don’t think its necessary, but I think it is worth it! You don’t have to go crazy, but give yourself options!
Nursery: We are still unpacking, no nursery yet.
Stretch marks: Thankfully no, but I know my tummy is stretching because I can feel it itch from time to time!
Sleep: It has been a struggle to get comfortable, but I found that using a pillow beneath my tummy helps a lot. Also, running to the bathroom in the middle of the night has become a regular occurrence. I am hoping to get a pregnancy pillow very soon!
Best moment this week: Finally, my husband, David, felt the baby move. I began feeling small movements at about 13 weeks which was amazing. However, over the last few weeks I have begun to feel the baby moving more and more! This week it has been moving a whole lot! For the first time he was able to feel it moving last night! We both just laughed it was beautiful!
Miss anything? Not having back pain and sleeping through the night.
Movement: Yes, especially this week. It began as feeling like a flutter at about 14 weeks. It kind of felt like a few feathers floating in a petal moving around. Now it feels like actual punching, twisting, and moving.
Food cravings: Been craving Mexican food since the first month. Then shy-ed away from it month 2 and 3.
Anything making you queasy or sick? Looking at raw red meat before it is cooked grosses me out, and the thought of shrimp also grosses me out!
Gender: Don’t know yet, I’m leaning towards girl.
Labour signs: Nope, not yet.
Symptoms: I am very tired all the time, and sore most of the time as well. My back aches a lot, all the way down to my tailbone ): I am a lot happier these days. I hadn’t been able to cook up until about last week, 17 weeks. I am enjoying food more. I have been having cramping at night for the last week, and an itchy tummy sometimes. Also, I have been having a sore navel for the past month in general. The normal running to the restroom often. I get hungry very quickly, and try to eat small frequent meals throughout the day. I have breakfast every morning now. My bump is also getting bigger making it to where I cannot fit any of my pre-pregnancy bottoms.
Belly button in or out? It’s out! Been out for a few weeks now!
Wedding rings on or off? On, but I did gain a little wait in my fingers, because one of my rings that couldn’t fit my ring finger on my right hand now fits!
Happy or moody most of the time: Mostly happy, haven’t been moody lately!
Looking forward to: My pregnancy pillow!
Stay tuned for a new video coming soon!
Throw Back Thursday – How to Become More Popular
I thought I would mix it up and post an old video! I received this question today, so it’s obviously needed!
Enjoy!
First French Kiss Advice
Anna writes:
Hi Chauntel,
I have a boyfriend, and we have already kissed. But now i think we will French Kiss. I really want to but don’t know how. I am really nervous and scared.
Please write me back if you can.
Big fan of yours. Love Anna
Hi Anna,
Thanks so much for your question. You made a very important statement, that you really want to. I want to make sure that, that is absolutely true because you should not be forced or encouraged into doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Now, I am not a kissing expert, haha. However, what I can tell you is that this is something that you learn in the moment. Just follow his lead, go with the flow. You will quickly learn.Most importantly take it slow. There is nothing attractive about a forceful tongue, when force is not wanted or needed. So, don’t rush it just let it happen slowly. You will get the hang of it.
Remember, to protect yourself. His hands should stay around your waist, not above or below. If he tries any funny business. Politely move his hands back to where they should be. He will get the message. If not, there is something wrong with that picture.
Thanks for your support!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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11 Week Pregnancy Bump Update
Here is my 11 week pregnancy update! I wanted to go ahead and get these going! I will update you weekly! Enjoy!
Size of baby: Lime, 1.6 inches long, with a 1:1 Body to Head Ratio, weighing about .25 ounces
How far along? 11 weeks!
Total weight gain/measurements: about 5 pounds
Maternity clothes: Not in this video, but I did make a purchase of my first maternity outfit last week.
Nursery: We are moving this week, no nursery yet.
Stretch marks: No, but I did notice the dark line this week going down the center of my tummy, starting at my navel. It is called the Linea Nigra.
Sleep: It has been a struggle to get comfortable, but I found that using a pillow beneath my tummy helps a lot. Also, running to the bathroom in the middle of the night has become a regular occurrence.
Best moment this week: Finally posting that I was pregnant on my YouTube channel. I have been wanting to share it for a while, but I haven’t felt well enough to film until now. Which, begs for another great moment starting to feel a little less nauseous all the time.
Miss anything? Not feeling guilty to drink a Coke or cup of Coffee. I know I can have it in moderation, but it still makes me feel bad every time.
Movement: Nope, not yet. I cannot feel the baby move. However, I can feel that its there. Especially when I try to twist my body. It always feels weird and uncomfortable.
Food cravings: Not this week. I have mostly had food aversions. Food scares me these days.
Anything making you queasy or sick? Just about everything that has a strong scent. The only thing that doesn’t bother me is sweets! Hahaha.
Gender: Too soon to know, but I’m leaning towards girl.
Labour signs: Nope, not yet.
Symptoms: I am nauseous all day, although it is getting better. I have food aversions to most strong smelling foods. Any and every strong smell makes me sick. I am very tired all the time, and sore most of the time as well. My back aches a lot, all the way down to my tailbone ): I am also extremely emotional, and occasionally moody. However, I am doing my best to keep my emotions in check. The normal running to the restroom often. I get hungry very quickly, and try to eat small frequent meals throughout the day. My bump is also getting bigger making it harder for me fit into most of my clothes.
Belly button in or out? In, but it looks like it might be reverting slowly, haha.
Wedding rings on or off? On, but I did gain a little wait in my fingers, because one of my rings that couldn’t fit my ring finger on my right hand now fits!
Happy or moody most of the time: Mostly happy, but occasionally moody. We are moving so this causes a little added stress which leads to moody.
Looking forward to: Not feeling sick and all and having more energy.
Watch my 10 week pregnancy vlog below!
Does Size Matter?
Go Eww writes:
Hey Chauntel,
You give great advice and your point of view is different in a good way , at least to me it is. My question is very different I’m sure but w/e.
I’ve been seeing this beautiful girl she’s black and I’m half black myself, and our chemistry is perfect,everyone seems to think I’m really good looking and she tells me all the time.
I know she wants to get in bed with me for a fact the only reason it hasn’t happened yet is because I’m 6.5 inches long and I really wanted your opinion on this.
Like am I enough to leave her pleased, like i said very,but could you please write back to me, and understand I don’t mean to rude or gross at all.
I need to get rid of these nervous butterflies, I appreciate it thanks.
Hi Go Eww,
Here is my opinion, if you have watched enough of my videos you would know that although, I do my best to take a unbiased stance, my advice is given from my perspective.
Thanks for your email, and for your kind words.
Here is my opinion, if you have watched enough of my videos you would know that although, I do my best to take a unbiased stance, my advice is given from my perspective.With that in mind, you should also know that I am Christian. I believe that sex should be saved for marriage.
Moreover, to answer your question specifically, if you go into a physical relationship with her before there are real feelings there, it will be more of a physical expectation that she will have for you.
Meaning, if she considers your size too small for her it will be more of an issue if you go into a physical relationship too soon. If time passes, and you build feelings for each other your specific physical attributes will be less of a focus. Now, don’t get me wrong they will still have an impact, but it won’t be the only thing she has to base her decision on, on whether or not she wants to continue a relationship together.
Therefore, I recommend you wait to have sex, take it slow. If she really cares for you, she will accept you just the way God made you, just for who you are.
There is no need to be nervous, if its meant to be it will be. If she is not attracted to you it won’t work anyway. So, be confident in what you have and give the best version of yourself. That is all you can do.
If she doesn’t accept, well then on to the next! There will be another woman out there who will love every part of you and not want to change anything! You dig?
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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Advice to Gabrielle Union – How to Marry a Man with Children – Celebrity Tuesdays
Adding to the tradition of expanding my blog topics. I will be writing love and life advice to celebrities on Tuesdays. Feel free to apply this advice to your life, love and relationships! BTW this was my husbands idea, and I have to hand it to him, he is awesome! Shout out to DavD Beats!
Here was my first post in this category that I wrote to Kim and Kanye when they were married. The title of this post was: Advice to Kim Kardashian & Kayne West on How to Survive Year 1 of Marriage, CLICK TO READ
So here it goes!
Two beautiful and talented people tied the not last month, actress Gabrielle Union, 41, and Miami Heat player Dwyane Wade, 32. They celebrated their nuptials in Miami, Florida. It was a family affair which they shared with Dwyane’s adorable boys.
When you first get married there is a transition period where you get to know the good, the bad, and the ugly. There are expectations and realities that are not present in a dating relationship that you begin to learn and witness once you get married. The first year of marriage can be considered difficult because it is a transition period. Both parties are learning their new roles, while simultaneously still attempting to keep a sense of self.
This becomes even more difficult when children are added to the equation because not only are you dealing with the transition into becoming a husband or a wife, but you also have to make a transition to be mommy and daddy. Doing this simultaneously can prove to be difficult. It forces you to take on twice as many responsibilities, and it can put a strain on your relationship. Therefore, it is essential that you handle it with care and stay flexible!
Having children in your life is a true blessing from God! As much of a blessing as they are, it takes hard work to be a parent. If you choose to marry into a family with children, you not only marry your spouse but you also marry their children. You should be prepared to be a parent and treat them fairly. You have to become self-less and learn that you have to show them love. You must also realize that this is going to be a slow growing process. There will be times where you will get along and other times where you will not see eye-to-eye. However, you must note that this is a full time job that you cannot choose to quit. You have to hang in there and build up the relationship.
If you are the spouse who is bringing the children into the new marriage, choose wisely. You should never choose to marry anyone who does not love and respect your children. If you do you will regret it and the marriage will be sour.
When considering time together with your spouse you must know that their time will be split between you and their children, and you should be happy with the fact that they love and want to take care of their children. If they don’t take care of their children what makes you think that they will take care of you?
With this in mind it is also important that both spouses set time aside for just the two of you. It is important that you have that bonding time, especially when you first get married. You must consider time with both your spouse and their children, who will now be called YOUR children. Many marriages struggle as a result of a difference of opinions on how to spend money and how to raise children.
As a result having children can add stress to a relationship, so it is absolutely essential that the bride and groom discuss their expectations long before the choose to get married. This way there are not any huge surprises, and with God’s help the rest can be communicated through! Always keep him at the center of your relationship, and the head of your children’s lives, and everything will work out just fine! In fact, you will find yourself to be a happy and healthy family!
Congrats to Gabrielle and Dwayne and all of you other newly married couples with children! We are rooting for ya!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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Keeping Your Marriage Happy – Marriage Mondays
Hey Jewels & Gems!
I have decided to expand my horizons a bit! Here is a new series on my blog! It may spill over into my YouTube channel who knows! It is entitled Marriage Mondays! I did write one a while back, to try it out! You guys seemed to like it so lets get it going! Even if you are not married some of these posts may still help with those of you in relationships!
Click: First Marriage Mondays Post
So here it goes!
The little things matter! In love and marriage, it is important to always remember that your spouse may not always outwardly express what they may be feeling, but it is your job to stay in tune with not only their needs but also their wants!
Not only does this make them feel special, but it also makes them feel needed and wanted. Sometimes we find ourselves so wrapped up in our own worlds that we forget to stop and assess what’s going on around us.
It is during these times, that the ones closest to us, might find themselves needing us the most. So, we have to, as they say “take time to smell the roses”. Slow down and connect with your spouse, so that you can attend to what they need.
Did you know that 93% of communication happens nonverbally. There was a study done by Dr. Albert Mehrabian, author of Silent Messages. He found that only 7% of communication happens through words and 38% is expressed through vocal elements. More the 55% is communicated through nonverbal elements such as facial expressions, gestures, posture, and related body language.
Next to God, your spouse has to be the second top priority in your life, more than work or other activities. If they are not happy, it will begin to effect each of you individually; then it will begin to effect your marriage.
So pay close attention to both their verbal and nonverbal cues. If you only listen to the words that you hear and ignore what you see, you are truly missing out on 93% of the bigger picture. Give it a try this week, be attentive to your spouses wants as well as their needs and see just how much you make them smile! Attention to nonverbal cues is essential to keeping a happy marriage!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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Should I Stay in My Long Distance Relationship
7th Grade Alyson writes:
Hey Chauntel,
I watch your videos and you give great advice. I was wondering if you could give me some advice right here. My boyfriend is moving away, and he is my best friend. It’s really hard to focus knowing that he’s leaving. I need some advice about what I should do, and if we should make it work or something. Then, we’ve talked about kissing. Well sort of… Our friends have talked about it, and agrees he should. But I really don’t know what to do. When should we do it, where? I really need to know what to do. I’m going Into 7th grade, and that’s pretty much the age everybody else has. So yeah if you could email me back, and please give me advice. That would mean the world for you to respond. Thanks 🙂
Hi Alyson,
First of all, thanks so much for your kind words, they really mean a lot. So I know this is a very hard time for you. There’s no getting around the fact that it will be very difficult.
However, I want you to know that you can absolutely get through this. It will be hard, but you have the strength within you to overcome the pain. It will hurt, and you will miss him because he has had a significant impact on your life. Even though it may seem like your world is crashing down in time it will get better.
If you want to kiss him, then by all means kiss him. However, don’t do it because you feel pressed to meet a quota. Just because “everyone else has done it or will do it by 7th grade” that is no reason for you to do it. Here is a quote I love to live by: “Why try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out!”
You have nothing to prove to anyone else. I want you to be happy with yourself. So, if you want to kiss him, on your own terms then great, do it, but whatever you do, don’t use this moment to meet a quota to please “everybody else”. When it comes down to it, this is your big moment. Your real experience. I didn’t have mines until I was ready and you shouldn’t either. Your first kiss should be special.
Here was my response to another viewer a while back about where to have a first kiss. It also applies here:
“The best place, is more about the best time. Where you are is not as important as how you feel.
However, any outdoor setting or couch setting would be nice. Steer clear from bedrooms though because they could lead to unwanted occurrences.
Romantic settings are of course the beach or anywhere near water. A drive in movie in the car is always cute. Holding hands in the park on a starry night is another great idea. Exotic places, near a fireplace, or even under the doorstep could also work.”
And – your last question was should you try to stay together and work it out. Here is my advice about that, ultimately you two have to make that decision. However, what I will tell you is that you are very young it long distance relationships are hard. They are not impossible, but they only work if you live close enough where you will be able to see each other at somewhat often.
They can also be very risky in the long run. You don’t have to cut ties with him, but at this point choosing to be friends who hang out from time to time may be an option you might want to consider. Unless you are in a very serious relationship I think it would be easier for you to take a break at this point. You can always revisit the relationship later. If it is meant to be it will be. I know this isn’t really the news you wanted, but just know that everything will be ok in time. I have two videos that I will leave you with.
Love You Lots!
Chauntel
Father’s Day Gift Ides
If you are having a hard time finding your dad a gift this video will be helpful for you! So many times we forget about our fathers and they don’t ask for much! We can we do to show our love? Watch!
Ps. Yes, I know it’s Wednesday and you are getting a video! I had to make a special exception for Father’s Day! Share it with your friends!
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