I have been wanting to do this video for quite some time now! Here are some tips on how to be happy! I hope you enjoy!
Tag: Advice Columns
Agree to Disagree – Relationship Goal- Ask Chauntel
In this video I present a topic that we all come into contact with, agreeing to disagree. Check it out to learn more about how we can salvage relationships and decrease arguments by finding a common ground.
15 Tips on How to Become Popular on Youtube
Kayla writes:
Hi Chauntel,
How do you become popular on YouTube.
Hi Kayla!
Here are some tips on becoming popular on YouTube:
1. Be Consistent
2. Create Good/Interesting Content
3. Make Videos on Topics You are Passionate About
4. Be Yourself
5. Cover Topics People are Searching For/Your Subscribers Want
6. Have Your Own Voice
7. Make Good Thumbnails
8. Have Good Lighting
9. Make a Nice Background
10. Keep Your Personality Bright and Inviting
11. Share Your Videos/Tell People What You Do
12. Use Social Media to Advertise
13. Make Videos that You Would Want to Watch
14. Be Confident
15. Utilize Music that Matches Your Video/Your Voice/Your Style
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
Women are Rejecting Me Sexually – Dating Advice – Ask Chauntel
Donald writes:
Hey Chauntel,
I haven’t been in a relationship for a while (say 3years).
I am into masturbation a lot which makes up for my sexual desires.
I feel like I need a woman to share my life with, but I can’t seem to attract them.
I go out on dates with women, but they seem to not want to sleep with me. Every time we plan to meet up for sex, I was always get excuses for why they couldn’t make it.
Can you help me with how to overcome this problem?
Hi Donald,
As a result of my Christian values I am an advocate of saving sex until marriage.
To answer your question more specifically, a physical relationship develops after an emotional relationship is underway. Therefore, if you are not building a solid emotional connection with the person you are dating, you will find it very difficult to have a physical one.
So here is my advice, instead of focusing so much on the physical aspect of your relationships, you need to focus on building a solid emotional connection. If a woman feels that she is being used for sex she will automatically reject you. I understand that we all have physical needs and desires, but you are approaching this the wrong way. What you need to do is build a relationship with someone that is true and the rest will come in time!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
email questions to askchauntel@gmail.com
How to Prevent Suicidal Thoughts
Hello Jewels and Gems,
A harsh reality is that many people around us are hurting. At times they cannot see a way to overcome their pain and circumstances. It is during these times that we have to be there to show our love and support.
This post is inspired by a viewer who sent me a question recently about wanting to prevent themselves from committing suicide.
To the Person Having Suicidal Thoughts:
You are Loved
It is important for you to know that you are loved. It may seem like everyone and everything around you is going downhill and out of your control, but even during the times that you feel alone just know that you are loved. Even if the people around you do not show you love, God loves you.
You Matter
Remind yourself that you matter. At times we feel unwanted and unneeded because people in our lives have made us feel like we are not important. Don’t let those horrible people define you. If you were not here, someone would miss you. In most cases many will miss you.
You Have a Purpose Exclusive to You
If you didn’t know it, you have a purpose. There are specific gifts and talents that have been given to you that no one can take away. Even if you have been told that you are not good enough, strong enough, smart enough, you have to believe that you are.
Sometimes it takes time to define your purpose in life. However, it is important for you to know that no one can live your purpose for you. You were made by God for a specific reason. Only you can find that, and if you take it upon yourself to take your life you are robbing the world of your gifts and talents.
Life is Worth Living
Even during the hard times, you must remember that your life is truly worth living. There is nothing so bad in life that you should take your on life. There is always another option. You have other choices. There is a way to make your situation and your circumstance better, but you have to allow time and effort to make those changes happen.
Gather Support
Many times when a person is having suicidal thoughts its because they spend too much time alone. Sometimes we rob ourselves of time with others for one reason or another, but we all need someone. You cannot live life alone. You were not born alone, you didn’t live alone(within reason there is always someone near you even if they are a house away), and if you can help it you shouldn’t die alone.
Get Professional Help
If you have someone around you that you can trust talk to that individual, and let them know what is going on with you, this way they can be there to support you. They can also assist you in finding the help that you need and deserve.
It is important for you to find professional help. Therefore, seek out a therapist or psychologist who can support you. They will help you to talk it out and identify the root of your problem so that you can continue moving forward.
Crisis Help Resources
I have some resources available for you here on my website. There are prayer hotlines as well as suicide hotlines that you can utilize if you are in a crisis listed on that page.
To Friends Providing Support
An individual who is having suicidal thoughts really needs your support. They probably won’t want help, but guide them to the help that they need. Make sure that the key players in their lives are aware of what is going on. Check in with them often and make sure that they are okay. Make sure that they know that they are loved and have a place in your life.
Whatever you do, do not turn a blind eye to this situation, and be sure that they are receiving help and talking it through. They may not want to be around people, but insure that they are. Too much time alone can result in more time for them to get deeper into their depression. Realize that this is a real thing, that they can overcome.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
email questions to askchauntel@gmail.com
Zayn Malik Releases Solo Demo and Slams Perrie Edwards Cheating Rumors
Zayn Malik has parted ways with One Direction, and responds to allegations of cheating on Perrie Edwards. Did I mention he has also released his a solo demo! You have to watch this! How do you feel about him leaving One Direction vote on my blog http://www.askchauntel.com
Pressured to Have My First Kiss
16-year-old Victoria writes:
Hi Chauntel,
I haven’t had my first kiss. I’m just the type of person who over thinks and I’m not quite sure how to kiss someone. I know first kisses might be over rated but I just want my to be something I won’t be embarrassed about. Thanks for everything hope you can answer soon.
Xoxo Victoria
Hi Victoria!
I know that everyone makes you feel like you have to have your first kiss by a certain time in order for you to be cool or accepted. However, don’t let the peer pressure get to you. You are not defined by your age when it comes to something as special as your first kiss. When it is time for it to happen it will. However, I do think you are putting a little too much pressure on it. It shouldn’t be treated as a chore! It should be fun and spontaneous. You learn most of it in the moment.
I Hope This Helps!
Here is a video that should help:
My Bestfriend Likes My Boyfriend – Relationship Advice – Ask Chauntel
Chauntel gives advice to CeCe who is struggling with a few love triangles that include her bestfriend! What should Cece do? See what Chauntel recommends and give your advice!
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First French Kiss Advice
Anna writes:
Hi Chauntel,
I have a boyfriend, and we have already kissed. Â But now i think we will French Kiss. I really want to but don’t know how. I am really nervous and scared.
Please write me back if you can.
Big fan of yours. Love Anna
Hi Anna,
Thanks so much for your question. You made a very important statement, that you really want to. I want to make sure that, that is absolutely true because you should not be forced or encouraged into doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Now, I am not a kissing expert, haha. However, what I can tell you is that this is something that you learn in the moment. Just follow his lead, go with the flow. You will quickly learn.Most importantly take it slow. There is nothing attractive about a forceful tongue, when force is not wanted or needed. So, don’t rush it just let it happen slowly. You will get the hang of it.
Remember, to protect yourself. His hands should stay around your waist, not above or below. If he tries any funny business. Politely move his hands back to where they should be. He will get the message. If not, there is something wrong with that picture.
Thanks for your support!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
email questions to askchauntel@gmail.com Tweet/Insta @askchauntel
How to Keep Your Husband’s Attention – Marriage Advice
Hello Jewels! This one is for all of my married ladies out there! I hope to be writing to you more often! So send me questions about your woes to askchauntel@gmail.com, or click contact above. So, we women have a lot of responsibility. The twenty first century woman is no less busy than her predecessors. Although, some of her tasks may have been made easier through modern technology, modern society has found a way to pile up the tasks even higher. They require time and energy. Let’s consider, a modern day women has to take care of the home, take care of herself, take care of her children, take care of her husband, and work a job. Now these big responsibilities are filled with many small ones, that shall remain nameless at this point. So how can a modern day women accomplish all of her responsibilities well, while still making her husband feel loved and appreciated and keep her head? Well let’s be honest, it is no easy suit. It really comes down to time management. Ok, so no body is perfect but spending some time planning and prioritizing your man’s needs into your life is essential. True, it is not that he doesn’t matter, even though he may begin to feel a little unappreciated at times. In fact it is quite the contrary. With the added responsibility of children and a job the husband can sometimes suffer a little bit of lost of our time. 
It is therefore, essential that we as women plan our time accordingly and keep time with him as a constant priority. Now, don’t stress yourself out in the process, just make a conscious effort to plan time with him. It may not work out perfectly everyday, but you have to give it a go. He will know if you are trying. The last thing that we want, is our man to feel that we could care less about him. So here is some friendly advice to keep his attention and his attraction on you. 1. Exercise – Now, we know beauty doesn’t last forever visually, but let’s help it as much as we can by keeping our body and health up. It will keep your body looking and feeling beautiful. 2. Have Some Me Time – Time to reflect, meditate, pray, relax is very essential to keeping your mind at ease. It will help you to stress out less. This will in turn keep down arguments between you and your spouse and children. It will also keep you from being high strung and naggy. 3. Spend Some Alone Time With Him Often – The two of you have to decide exactly how often is often, but you must have a weekly goal that you should try to reach on time that you spend alone together. 5. Have a Date Night – These should occur weekly. 6. Fulfill His Requests – Well you know what they are! Listen to his concerns and be sure to highlight those areas of you that he finds attractive. 7. Look Your Best – Just because you’re married it doesn’t mean your dead. So wear lingerie for him. Be cute around the house as much as you can! Just take care of yourself. 8. Compliment Him – Let him know how much you love and appreciate him! Compliment him on specific things that he does that you enjoy! Having a Hard time prioritizing and setting that goal? Check Out My Video: How to Set a Goal and Plan for Success
Well ladies, I hope this helps! Send questions to askchauntel@gmail.com Tweet/Insta @askchauntel
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