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Is He Too Busy For Me? – Relationship Advice – Ask Chauntel

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Hi Chauntel,

We talked everyday over Facebook for like 2 in a half months. For a few weeks he’s now too busy. He has work, school, boxing. I’m understanding about it to a certain extent. I’m a Scorpio so I told him I demand attention before we got involved. Which is true! That’s my nature, I told him how I felt and he feels strongly about me too so he says. He just said that everything else comes first. So in my head this is how I perceive our situation.
3 months ago.Him: Hey, your really pretty. So I’m going to give you all my time, I’m going to have long conversations. I’m going to compliment you and give you millions of you cute nicknames without coming across as an ***. You’ll like me cause I’ll reply back multiple times in a day and we’ll have fun conversations.
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Me: AwwwHim: I’m mainly doing this cause nothing’s going on in my life. When something happens I’ll slowly stop telling you things. And because we were never official and this is a long distance thing we can just be friends. But I still like you! It’s just something grabbed my attention more than you’re doing now. So just be happy that we’re talking there’s no rush.Me: Okay, so I was just the latest toy on the shelf. You have new ones that you like better but don’t want to throw me away due to sentimental value, however you’re going to leave me on here to rot?This is how I perceive everything. He’s an amazing guy, the best I’ve ever encountered but he doesn’t even reply back in the same day, sometimes 2 days. He says I’m being obsessive which I can be and was being lately do to the fact I feel like he’s ignoring me. He says he’s not, that he’s just busy.

I don’t know what to do. I feel like we’re in a relationship without being in a relationship. I want to end it but then I don’t because he is so amazing. I just feel like if your life was so busy and you knew how I felt/was (I was very straight forward in the beginning) why would you even continue to speak to me. I know he has a life, I don’t want all his time. I just want to know his life because there is still so much we don’t know about each other. Also I don’t want to just give up when things don’t work, life isn’t about taking the easy route. But I’m considering moving on, without telling him. Like keeping my options open, talking to other guys, finding myself. Just having fun, cause he’s obviously too busy with his life. What should I do?

Hey Love,

Well….The guy is busy and that is a good thing. That means he has a passion about something. Give him time. Don’t pressure him too much. The point is that he is including you and that matters.

It may not be all you want, but as long as he is giving you time and making you feel appreciated that is all you can ask  for.

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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I Have Liked Her Forever….What Now?

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22-year-old Jethro from New Jersey writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I have this young Lady in my church who I am interested in. She has been going to my church since 2009. I remember telling her I liked her in that same year and her not knowing how to respond because she barely knew me. This was all of course four years ago.  I am interested in I like her for more than her beauty. I genuinely feel and see a radiant beauty from her I like her and what to be more than friends what do you think I should do.

Hi Jethro,

It looks like it is time for you to act on your emotions. If you don’t she might get scooped up by someone else. Since you go to the same church, I am sure that you have interacted a bit. The next step is to approach her, and let her know that you are interested in getting to know her a little better. Go for it dude! What are you waiting for? However, be prepared that if she is not interested in you, you have to accept that and take it as an opportunity to move on.

Here are a couple of videos that I have made on similar topics below!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

Dating Tips for Shy/Quite Boys

How to Approach a Girl

Video: How to let go of her? – Relationship Advice – Ask Chauntel

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Chauntel explains what he must do to get over her. How does he stop thinking and longing for her? Watch! Askchauntel@gmail.com

Ask Chauntel Diary Entry

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There is something that I thought about today that really inspired me.

I realized its ok to be me completely, 100% me. It’s ok that I have interests in so many diverse things. It’s ok that when I tell people that I want to be a Talk Show Host they look at me like I have described an impossible task that could never be achieved.

It’s ok that I wear my heart on my sleeve, and my expressions are so bright that I leave them out for the world to see.

I realized that I cannot put myself in a box. My personality just cannot fit, and I cannot do anything about that.

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Relationships after Divorce – To Jump or Not to Jump. Hmmmm

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Relationships after Divorce – To Jump or Not to Jump. Hmmmm.

She Left Me and I am Depressed – Ask Chauntel

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20-year-old Derrel writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I am so depressed and disappointed. I cannot do anything. She left me for no reason. She was my first love. The problem is I loved her more than anyone else, more than myself.

I can never forget her, I beg her many times, but she keeps ignoring me. She speaks very rudely. What do I do now? I always cry and I can’t stop my tears. I said I will be waiting for you until the end of time. Please tell me what I do now? I want her back, and I will do anything for her. I love her so much, so please tell me what to do so that she will come back to me.

Hi Derrel,

I am so sorry that this has happened to you. These things happen to the best of us. Loosing your first love can be a very difficult position to be in. And the pain that you feel inside cuts deep.

However, if she doesn’t want to continue your relationship you have to accept that, and continue to move forward. How, do you do that????? You have to allow time to pass, and do your best to busy yourself with things that will busy your mind.

It’s easy to fall so deep that we forget about ourselves. Don’t do that. It is not healthy, and you will always end up being so hurt. You have to guard you heart. That doesn’t mean that you should have the walls up so high that no one is able to come in, but what it does mean is you have to absolutely be more cautious about giving you heart away so quickly and so deeply without knowing how the other person feels.

You have to let her go, like a bird. Let her fly away. If and when she comes back you can decide if you want to be with her, but right now you have a lot of growing to do. You have to let her go so that you can grow yourself. You have to learn to love you before you completely give your heart away to someone new.

It may seem near impossible to let this one go, but you have complete control of your situation, and I know that you have the power to make a change in your life.

How do you make this change? Accept that it is over between the two of you, and continue to move forward with your life the best you can. It may hurt a lot right now, but as time passes you can slowly let this thing go, but you have to be willing to let go to move forward

Check this video out. It should help!

Lots of Love!

Chauntel

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Video: NSSI – I Cut Myself – Ask Chauntel (CLICK TEXT)

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Chauntel explains Non Suicidal Self Injury and expresses what a girl should do if she continues having the urge to hurt herself physically because of her feelings! Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com

Migrating Old Blog

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Hello All!

I will be migrating my old blog over. Be patient with me (:

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Thanks,

Chauntel

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How to be a Smart Guy but Still Attract Girls

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Hi Phil,

Hi Chauntel,
Eye, I am a nerd. How can I stay a brainy guy and attract women without dumbing myself down?

Hey Phil,

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Be yourself, but don’t make her feel that you are arrogant. Meet her at her level, and make her feel wonderful and beautiful. Don’t spend too much time talking about yourself. Make her feel appreciated, and let her know that you are interested in her by asking her questions concerning who she is.

This will take some of the attention off of you, and make you more appealing to her. Never, dumb yourself down for any woman. You are who you are, and if she cannot accept that, then she is not the right one for you.

Brains are attractive, but arrogance is not.

You dig?

Chauntel
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5 Tips on What do you text a Boy/Girl you just met?

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by Ambro

21-year-old CJ writes:

I’ve been texting this girl for about a week now and the past couple nights she ends up saying she’s goin to bed text me tomorrow and I simply reply goodnight : )


And then she replies with goodnight 😉 I want to keep it interesting when should I text her and how do I keep her interest? Lol thank you so much it feels good to talk to someone about it without people knowing I have a little crush.

Hi CJ!

This is such a cute question. Texting is really just another form of communicating with her.

Before I address your question, about texting specifically, let me say that. You need to find out what extraneous factors are causing her to text good night, not replying to the rest of your messages. Are you texting her too much? Is she too busy to text? Are you texting her at bad times where she is not available to reply back? Is she uncomfortable with the conversations? Or is she simply more of a phone person, and not a “texter”?

Think of it as a way to send her a quick thoughtful note. For example, sending a “Thinking of You” can be very sweet.

Some people enjoy texting more than others, and you can use texting as a way to begin to get to know someone. However, I would definetly not use it as a replacement for talking on the phone, or face-to-face.

With all that said, when you first begin texting someone I think there are a couple of things to consider.

First off,don’t be paranoid. People get so caught up in what to text that they begin over rationalizing what they should say. You should think about what you are typing, just as you should think before you speak, but you should not do it to the point where you begin to have anxiety…haha…

Second,have fun with it. It should be a flirty conversation that leaves both of you laughing and smiling. However, don’t be inappropriate in your flirting where you make her feel uncomfortable. Find ways to make her laugh, mostly at you, or something not someone. You can joke about cute things about her, but be careful with this because you just met her so you are not sure about her insecurities.

Third, talk about her! What is she doing? How is her day? What would she like to do? Where would she like to go? You can reminisce on when you met, where you met, why you were there, and how awesome it was that you met.

Fourth, talk about you doing things together. This will give you an idea of what she enjoys and will put her in the mindset of wanting to see you again.

Fifth,you have to flirt. If you flirt with her through text messages, and she flirts back you know that you are still peaking her interest. If she seems distant it probably means that you are going about this wrong, or it means she is just not that into you.

I Hope This Helps!

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