Unfortunately, we lost our baby. After 6 weeks of pregnancy our baby is in heaven. In this video I tell our story and try to offer some hope on how I have been overcoming the sadness as well as the physical and mental pain that comes alongs with a pain that goes deep. Please keep us in your prayers! May God bless all of you who are dealing with this. Know that you are not alone, and that it is not your fault. We must not blame God, but we must thank him for the life that he has given us and believe in hope for the future.
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How to Dress For A First Date
Lala writes Hi Chauntel, I am wondering if you can help me with this. I am considered the “emo” girl I don’t mind that but labels are for soup cans. I am going on my first date soon and I would like some help with the look. 
Hi Lala,
Yes, people are always going to place a label on you no matter who you are or what you do. They will always find something bad to say. They did the same thing to Jesus when he was here on earth. Meaning, they called him names, and falsely labeled him. They also bullied and chastised him. You are his child. Although, we are all children of God some of us are lost. Those people who are talking about you and making you feel this way are those lost children. Because we are children of God you we will be taunted; However, we can overcome this through Jesus. He explains it in John 15:20-21. Here is the scripture:
“Do you remember what I told you? ‘A slave is not greater than the master.’ Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you. And if they had listened to me, they would listen to you. They will do all this to you because of me, for they have rejected the one who sent me.”
Therefore, we must stay strong and continue to believe in who we truly are. As far as your date, I want you to have fun and stop worrying about these people and focus on what makes you, you. This is your day and you should dress in what makes you feel nice. He has to learn to accept you just as you are. Of course you should always put your best foot forward, but if you start trying to select things to make him like you, that don’t represent who you are, he is going to like some “off” version of you. To stay in the relationship you will then have to continue to play that character. Sounds exhausting right? Don’t do it! Be you!
When you go on a date you should dress in what makes you feel pretty. There is no true rhyme or reason to this.
However, choosing feminine clothing is always a good idea, but do it in your own way. Most of all, have fun. Remember he is a guy he doesn’t care what you wear as long as it isn’t too pinned or propped.
Stay away from extremes. Keep it simple and appealing to the eye as well as comfortable to you. If you wear something you are not comfortable in it will show. He will surely notice that. Don’t let your clothes define you, you have to define your clothes!
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I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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Also, I am not sure if you have seen this yet, but here is a video that I did on a related topic:
How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Have an Instagram
Hey Jewels and Gems!
I this question comes from a youtube viewer named Jessica Roberts! I screen-shot her question below.
Hi Jessica!
The best way to convince your mom or dad to let you have an Instagram is to show them that you are responsible. Many times your parents may have a hard time with allowing you to use social media accounts because they are afraid that you are not mature enough to handle the responsibility.
The truth is that owning social media really has become apart of what we do and who we are socially, but it also forces you to mature very quickly. What you post on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, etc…. can effect you for the rest of your life.
I know that, that sounds a little over-kill, but it is so true. It is called your online footprint. Once it is posted it is available for all to see and even if you delete it, it may have already been screen-shot or recorded. So at 11 or 12 years old that is a lot of responsibility in your hands. This is most likely why your parents are choosing to be so selective with allowing you to have an Instagram account.
Having an Instagram account is not necessarily a bad thing, but if you are not responsible with what you post it can be.
So with all that being said, the best thing to do in your situation is show yourself to be responsible and trustworthy. And ask your parents at the appropriate time. It may take a few times, and it may not happen as soon as you would like but in due time they should let up.
Be patient and don’t try to sneak behind their backs to do it. If you do and they find out you will be in a much worse situation.
At this point that is all you can do. When you do finally get an Instagram account be wise with what you post. You don’t want to post something that can come back to bite you later if you know what I mean! 🙂
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
Should I Stay in My Long Distance Relationship
7th Grade Alyson writes:
Hey Chauntel,
I watch your videos and you give great advice. I was wondering if you could give me some advice right here. My boyfriend is moving away, and he is my best friend. It’s really hard to focus knowing that he’s leaving. I need some advice about what I should do, and if we should make it work or something. Then, we’ve talked about kissing. Well sort of… Our friends have talked about it, and agrees he should. But I really don’t know what to do. When should we do it, where? I really need to know what to do. I’m going Into 7th grade, and that’s pretty much the age everybody else has. So yeah if you could email me back, and please give me advice. That would mean the world for you to respond. Thanks 🙂
Hi Alyson,
First of all, thanks so much for your kind words, they really mean a lot. So I know this is a very hard time for you. There’s no getting around the fact that it will be very difficult.
However, I want you to know that you can absolutely get through this. It will be hard, but you have the strength within you to overcome the pain. It will hurt, and you will miss him because he has had a significant impact on your life. Even though it may seem like your world is crashing down in time it will get better.
If you want to kiss him, then by all means kiss him. However, don’t do it because you feel pressed to meet a quota. Just because “everyone else has done it or will do it by 7th grade” that is no reason for you to do it. Here is a quote I love to live by: “Why try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out!”
You have nothing to prove to anyone else. I want you to be happy with yourself. So, if you want to kiss him, on your own terms then great, do it, but whatever you do, don’t use this moment to meet a quota to please “everybody else”. When it comes down to it, this is your big moment. Your real experience. I didn’t have mines until I was ready and you shouldn’t either. Your first kiss should be special.
Here was my response to another viewer a while back about where to have a first kiss. It also applies here:
“The best place, is more about the best time. Where you are is not as important as how you feel.
However, any outdoor setting or couch setting would be nice. Steer clear from bedrooms though because they could lead to unwanted occurrences.
Romantic settings are of course the beach or anywhere near water. A drive in movie in the car is always cute. Holding hands in the park on a starry night is another great idea. Exotic places, near a fireplace, or even under the doorstep could also work.”
And – your last question was should you try to stay together and work it out. Here is my advice about that, ultimately you two have to make that decision. However, what I will tell you is that you are very young it long distance relationships are hard. They are not impossible, but they only work if you live close enough where you will be able to see each other at somewhat often.
They can also be very risky in the long run. You don’t have to cut ties with him, but at this point choosing to be friends who hang out from time to time may be an option you might want to consider. Unless you are in a very serious relationship I think it would be easier for you to take a break at this point. You can always revisit the relationship later. If it is meant to be it will be. I know this isn’t really the news you wanted, but just know that everything will be ok in time. I have two videos that I will leave you with.
Love You Lots!
Chauntel
Telling My Husband I Was Pregnant – 5 Week Pregnacy Vlog
Here is my 5 week pregnancy vlog! I share my current symptoms as well as some useful items that I have been utilizing lately to help with my pregnancy! Please share your tips and stories I would love to hear them!
Bath and Body Works Haul – Shower Gels – Lotion – Candles
I am sharing some smell good products that I bought this week at Bath and Body works. They are having their annual sale so I thought I would stop by and see what I could find! The scents mentioned here are absolutely amazing! Let me know if you pick any of them up!
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Father’s Day Gift Ides
If you are having a hard time finding your dad a gift this video will be helpful for you! So many times we forget about our fathers and they don’t ask for much! We can we do to show our love? Watch!
Ps. Yes, I know it’s Wednesday and you are getting a video! I had to make a special exception for Father’s Day! Share it with your friends!
I Am Pregnant! – What to Do at 1-4 Weeks Pregnant -1st Trimester Pregnancy
I am so excited to share with you all that I am pregnant. I will be uploading these updates on Fridays. If you are pregnant and in you 1st Trimester I share some useful tips for you to follow! Watch!
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How to Get Over a Break-up – Ask Chauntel
Dealing with a break-up or know someone who is? Chauntel has some great tips on dealing with and overcoming your break-up. You don’t have to go through this alone, there are people around you who care about you and want to help! These basic tips will get you out of your depression and on track to moving on and growing within yourself! Watch!
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First Kiss Kissing Tips
13-year-old Cody writes:
Hi Chauntel,
I think my girlfriend is going to kiss me, so how should I do it?
Hi Cody,
Kissing should happen in a fluid motion. It shouldn’t be rushed, and it very well shouldn’t make either of you feel pressured.
So, here are the basics:
1. Your hands should go around her waist, but not below the belt. Remember to always be respectful!
2. Her hands will naturally go above your shoulders around your neck.
3. Make eye contact. and see if she is on the same page and ready to go in for the kiss. If and when you see that she is, you can slowly go in for it. This will give you enough time to assess if she will meet you in the middle, or turn away instead.
Then you simply go in and naturally find her lips. After you lips meet, close your eyes. Otherwise it is a little weird.
And that is it! Great job you have had your first kiss!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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