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Should I Tell My Crush I Like Him on Facebook?
Brooke writes:
Hello Chauntel,
I’m a sophmore in high school and I like this boy who’s a senior. I always see him when he comes from his fourth period class to go to his fifth period class and we walk right past each other to get to our fifth period class. I recently added him on facebook and I was going to send him a msg letting him know that I like him but I rather do it in person.. How should I go up to him and let him know that im interested? I’m just hoping that he’s interested and single too.
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Hi Brooke,
Do not send this to him on Facebook. If he doesn’t like you he could later use this against you. Case in point, let’s just say this guy isn’t the nicest and he decides to show your heartfelt message to his friends, that would be hurtful right?
Good for you that you had the courage to add him on Facebook. Sure, you can send him a message saying hello and beginning a conversation, but not about you liking him. Wouldn’t that be weird? The two of you don’t even know each other yet.
If anything you should talk to him in person. Maybe set up a time to study with him for the class that the two of you have together. Maybe invite him out with friends. If he says no, no skin off your back, and if he says yes, well good for you gal!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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5 Steps to Getting Whiter Teeth
Clarissa writes:
Hi Chauntel,
How do you get white teeth?
Hello Clarissa,
Here are a few easy steps to making your teeth whiter:
1. Brush three times a day
2. Use Hydrogen Peroxide with your tooth paste in the morning
3. Use a Whitening toothpaste (I use Arm and Hammer)
4. Use Baking Soda instead of toothpaste on some days
5. Use over-the-counter whitening stripes
After you have taken all of these steps at home you can go into your dentist and have them give you a tooth whitening. Have fun aiding to your pearly whites (:
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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Should I date a 17 year old guy when I am 13?
13-year-old MJ from California writes:
Dear Chauntel,
There’s this guy that I met but he’s 17 and I’m only 13 he wants to go out but idk if I should because of the age difference. We are always texting 24/7 and he says he doesn’t care about the age difference. I’m not all that new at dating so idk if I should say yes I really do want to he’s really sweet and nice. But also he lives 4 hours away he usually comes on the weekends and we hang out but never alone. When I’m with him I feel like I’m his gf he’s always flirting with me and he’s always saying sweet things..he’s my friends “cousin”..and one of my best friends ….should I date him or not?
Hi MJ,
I understand your hesitation. This guy is too old for you, and it’s not as much the age difference as it is the maturity level.
Older guys can more easily take advantage of you. I am sure that you are mature in many areas, but when it comes to dating I would like to see you gain some more more years before you begin dating a guy that is four years older than you. I am sure that he has had much more experience with girls than you have with guys. He will therefore begin to introduce you to things that you may not be ready to encounter yet.
It would be better to find someone who is your age, and who you are able to grow with. The fact that he lives so far is also going to limit your ability to date. I honestly don’t think this is a good idea. You can be friends, but being anything more than that at this point is not a good idea.
If you are completely for this you need to get permission from your parents, but you will be setting yourself up for heartache. Soon he will be 18 and out of high school, and who knows what will happen then. Just save yourself the heartache on this one and date someone closer to your age.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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29-year-old James writes:
Hello Chauntel,So, a female friend of mine who frequents your youtube videos suggested i look you up on youtube. After some convincing I did just that, and i must say, you have some pretty good advice and you give a sound perspective from a reasonable woman (at least you seem reasonable on your videos, lol)….
…a little about me – Somewhat recently there has been some changes in my life, I ended up getting a divorce and basically starting over with a lot of things in my life. In my mind this is one of the worst things that could have happened because I don’t like divorce but it turned out being for the better especially after the truth reared it’s ugly head about my ex-wife. I wasn’t expecting things to pan out that way but they did and I dealt with it and it made me a better man….
…I took some personal time for a while (about a year and a half), I kinda stayed off the “scene” and i have only dated 2 women since I’ve been single. these were both very, very, VERY short lived relationships as i kinda knew right off the back that I wasn’t feelin it too much. Recently I met this VERY nice woman who’s relationship back ground is extremely similar to mine. She has a lot of qualities that are rare these days and what I’ve been looking for for a long time She is divorced also, and dealt with some unfortunate treatment from her ex as well that she had to overcome. I am really liking what i’m seeing from her so far and we have MANY similar interests and we have a really good vibe together….I don’t want to make something work if it’s just not meant to be BUT from what I can see so far that isn’t going to be an issue. …..for lack of better words, Help me keep this woman… lol
i look forward to your response
Hello James,
I am so glad that things are going well between the two of you. Although, I am not aware of why your past relationship did not work out. I can give you a few general things to consider when looking to make a new relationship last.
I have written 10- Ways to Build a New Successful Relationship. These are for serious relationships.
1. Build a Solid Foundation in Trust
If you take time to build trust in each-other, your relationship will not break or waiver. You should be able to have faith in one another. So that you won’t have to stock each other’s phones, emails, and Facebook accounts.
2. Learn the Value of Compromise
It’s not about you, and it is not about her, it about the “us.” What can “we” do to make both of “us” happy. Sometimes, it is best to let her have her way. I know you are not married to her yet, but think of the saying “Happy Wife, Happy Life.” For you it may be letting her choose where the vacation might be or what color we should paint the bathroom.
It goes both ways for women too. Most of the time, it deals with different topics, though, such as letting you drive the motorcycle even-though it scares her to death. She might choose to let you do it, because she knows you love it, and it will make you happy.
3. Pay Close Attention to Detail and be Compassionate
If she doesn’t want to have sex you should be able to read her body language, and you should not pressure her to do anything to make her feel uncomfortable. Also, you should know when she might need a massage, or when you need to take the spoon from her while she is cooking on the stove, and tell her to have a seat. Maybe slip her a cute little coupon made by you with some cash that says, “Pamper Yourself” Hair, Nails, Be Beautiful!
4. Exercise Active Listening Skills
If she is talking, listen. Don’t just stare at her lips, but actually take time to pay attention to what she is saying. And paraphrase it back to her when she is done so that she knows that she was heard and understood. This provides her with assurance that the two of you are on the same page. Women need a lot of reassurance, it is the emotional part of our being.
5. Learn to Communicate Effectively
Even if you don’t want to talk about it, please do. If you don’t it gets worse. However, it is important to know when it is appropriate to have a particular conversation.
6. Set Boundaries from the Beginning
The two of you should know your roles. Are you a modern couple or are you traditional. Do you guys go dutch or do you always pick up the tab? Or do the two of you switch off? Do you plan to have children or are you done with having them? If you do have children where will you live? How will they be raised? Who is the bread winner of the family? Will she want to work or be a stay at home mom? Are you ok with her staying at home? Are you ok with her working?
Can the two of you have friends of the opposite sex? If so what is appropriate with keeping those relationships alive? What are both of your feelings about this?
7. Take it Slow but Know Your Limits
In every relationship, at least one person wants to make a serious commitment. Is there a timeframe? Do either of you care? Is it even time to go in this direction, maybe its too soon to think so serious?
The two of you need to know each others limits to some degree. It may be something that is expressed and discussed from the beginning, and it may not, but some type of understanding must be established.
8. Be Sure That Both of You are Aware of Each-others Expectations
What are your expectations of her, and what are her expectations of you. Most of these you learn as you go, but some need to be discussed in more detail.
9. Talk About the Non-negotiables and Find a Consensus
As you are beginning to get more serious within your relationships, you must talk about your 5 non-negotiables. For example: children, religion, education, career and location…….etc.
10. Be a Great Active Listener
Listen closely to what she is saying and identify the challenges that she is expressing, and do your best to counteract those challenges.
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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