15-year-old Nancy writes:
Ijust watched your video on long distance relationships and strict parents and i need advice , so im moving an hour away in the summer but im going to be staying at my aunts house during the week to finish school where im living now. my boyfriend knows , and my parents met his parents and him and i met his parents and stuff ,but my parents consider him as my ” friend ” i think they know were dating but they dont want to accept that cause they dont want me to have a boyfriend at my age , they let me go out with him and stuff but my mom said once we move i can’t talk to him anymore and i really don’t want that to happen because i don’t want to lose him i know we can work things out . Currently , we see each other every weekend , if not every weekend we see each other every other weekend or every two weekends. He’s going to be my partner for my sweet 16, so i know ill be seeing him at the practices definitely . And when we go out , we’ve been going bowling , to the movies , and to eat. But it gets boring after a while . What other things could i do that my parents would allow ? We FaceTime everyday , but my mom doesn’t want me talking to him during the week , i still do but she doesn’t know. I get really upset and he does to because he thinks im gonna break up with him when i move , but im not . I trust him 100% and he trusts me but i get jealous easily and i feel like he’s gonna cheat on me i know he won’t cause he’s loyal very loyal , but i just feel like a girl will attract him because hes transfering to a different school where a lot of girls that like to flirt with other girls boyfriends . i talk to him about how i feel about him finding another girl but he says it will never happen, that he plans on spending the rest of his life with me , i want the same . Please give me advice thank you(:
At 15, you must respect your parents wishes. If they do not allow you to see him after you move, you cannot. However, you can try to convince them that you are responsible and show them that your relationship is not hindering you.
You can do this by keeping your grades up in school and staying on the right path. This may allow them to see that being in a relationship is not negatively effecting you.
As far as your relationship with him, you say that you trust him, but I am not sure that you do. You seem unsure about yourself when you question if another girl will attract him.
Now, it is possible that the distance will cause some strain on your relationship, and there may be other girls around him that are interested in him. The same goes for you. However, if you to choose to stay together and stay faithful to each other, you will just have to learn to trust him.
If he is worthy of your trust, you don’t want to be paranoid and push him away.
Another thing, you are worried about things out of your control, you just have to role with the punches at this point. See what happens, you cannot predict the future so don’t mole over it.
Just relax and enjoy the ride.
I would like to leave you with a Bible verse. I think you will find comfort in it as I have in the past, and still do today.
Let God light your path. This way he can guide your decisions and be with you through the good times and hard times because hard times will come.
Isaiah 26:3.- NIRV
“Lord, you will give perfect peace
to those who commit themselves to be faithful to you.
That’s because they trust in you.”
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