Bad Break-up Slap at a Restaurant – Relationship Advice

Erica writes:

Greetings Chauntel!

I just wanted to run something by you regarding a recent break-up. I had been dating this guy for the past six months and he decided to drop the bomb in the middle of a dinner date at a restaurant.

I really felt blind-sided and was so upset that he didn’t deliver the news in a more thoughtful, intimate, and sensitive manner. He didn’t give any real reason other than something like “I think it’s best we both move on.” He was also very cold and business like in how he presented it. It almost felt like I was on an exit interview after getting let go by a company. My emotions got the best of me and I really lost control. I gave him a stinging slap across the face that was widely noticed and then walked out. It was in the city so I took a cab home.

While I’m still resentful of how he handled it, I feel like I should do the mature and responsible thing and apologize for the slap. I don’t really feel like calling him so would an apology note via email or regular mail be appropriate?

Hi Erica,

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. However, I am glad that he did not string you along and was honest with you. Sure an nice email or text would do just fine. He wasn’t intimate in his approach, and I don’t see how he would expect you to be so either in this situation. I think a text would be just fine. Just don’t incriminate yourself. Be careful what you write and keep it brief. Remember once it is written and sent it is available for the world to read. It is very noble for you to even want to apologize at this point! I do think it is the right thing to do! Good luck to you! And stay strong, it will be better soon!

I Hope This Helps!


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Free Teen Long Distance Relationship Advice

15-year-old Nancy writes:

Hi Chauntel,

Ijust watched your video on long distance relationships and strict parents and i need advice , so im moving an hour away in the summer but im going to be staying at my aunts house during the week to finish school where im living now. my boyfriend knows , and my parents met his parents and him and i met his parents and stuff ,but my parents consider him as my ” friend ” i think they know were dating but they dont want to accept that cause they dont want me to have a boyfriend at my age , they let me go out with him and stuff but my mom said once we move i can’t talk to him anymore and i really don’t want that to happen because i don’t want to lose him i know we can work things out . Currently , we see each other every weekend , if not every weekend we see each other every other weekend or every two weekends. He’s going to be my partner for my sweet 16, so i know ill be seeing him at the practices definitely . And when we go out , we’ve been going bowling , to the movies , and to eat. But it gets boring after a while . What other things could i do that my parents would allow ? We FaceTime everyday , but my mom doesn’t want me talking to him during the week , i still do but she doesn’t know. I get really upset and he does to because he thinks im gonna break up with him when i move , but im not . I trust him 100% and he trusts me but i get jealous easily and i feel like he’s gonna cheat on me i know he won’t cause he’s loyal very loyal , but i just feel like a girl will attract him because hes transfering to a different school where a lot of girls that like to flirt with other girls boyfriends . i talk to him about how i feel about him finding another girl but he says it will never happen, that he plans on spending the rest of his life with me , i want the same . Please give me advice thank you(:

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Hi Nancy, 

At 15, you must respect your parents wishes. If they do not allow you to see him after you move, you cannot. However, you can try to convince them that you are responsible and show them that your relationship is not hindering you.

You can do this by keeping your grades up in school and staying on the right path. This may allow them to see that being in a relationship is not negatively effecting you.

As far as your relationship with him, you say that you trust him, but I am not sure that you do. You seem unsure about yourself when you question if another girl will attract him.

Now, it is possible that the distance will cause some strain on your relationship, and there may be other girls around him that are interested in him. The same goes for you. However, if you to choose to stay together and stay faithful to each other, you will just have to learn to trust him. 

If he is worthy of your trust, you don’t want to be paranoid and push him away. 

Another thing, you are worried about things out of your control, you just have to role with the punches at this point. See what happens, you cannot predict the future so don’t mole over it.

Just relax and enjoy the ride.

I would like to leave you with a Bible verse. I think you will find comfort in it as I have in the past, and still do today.

Let God light your path. This way he can guide your decisions and be with you through the good times and hard times because hard times will come.

Isaiah 26:3.- NIRV

“Lord, you will give perfect peace
    to those who commit themselves to be faithful to you.
    That’s because they trust in you.”

Be Blessed,


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