Erica writes:

Greetings Chauntel!

I just wanted to run something by you regarding a recent break-up. I had been dating this guy for the past six months and he decided to drop the bomb in the middle of a dinner date at a restaurant.

I really felt blind-sided and was so upset that he didn’t deliver the news in a more thoughtful, intimate, and sensitive manner. He didn’t give any real reason other than something like “I think it’s best we both move on.” He was also very cold and business like in how he presented it. It almost felt like I was on an exit interview after getting let go by a company. My emotions got the best of me and I really lost control. I gave him a stinging slap across the face that was widely noticed and then walked out. It was in the city so I took a cab home.

While I’m still resentful of how he handled it, I feel like I should do the mature and responsible thing and apologize for the slap. I don’t really feel like calling him so would an apology note via email or regular mail be appropriate?

Hi Erica,

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. However, I am glad that he did not string you along and was honest with you. Sure an nice email or text would do just fine. He wasn’t intimate in his approach, and I don’t see how he would expect you to be so either in this situation. I think a text would be just fine. Just don’t incriminate yourself. Be careful what you write and keep it brief. Remember once it is written and sent it is available for the world to read. It is very noble for you to even want to apologize at this point! I do think it is the right thing to do! Good luck to you! And stay strong, it will be better soon!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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