Encouragement to a Viewer About My Miscarriage – From Almost a Year Ago

Hey Jewels and Gems!

I received an email this morning that really touched my heart. I decided to share my response to a viewer who shared her miscarriage story with me. She basically thanked me for sharing mines, and expressed her pain of going through this situation.

Feel free to share this with someone who needs it or will be encouraged by it. I am sharing this because I believe  it may help someone else:

Hello Lisa,

I am so glad that you sent your email over. I wish it were under different circumstances, but nonetheless it is nice to meet you!
I am so sorry for your loss. It is very difficult to deal with something like this. I don’t think people really understand the pain associated with a miscarriage until they have actually experienced it.
However, I will say that there are a few people in my life that totally got it, even though it hadn’t happened to them directly. I totally understand what you are going through, and although we may not understand the reason, God knows best.
I am so glad that you have a supportive husband beside you. That makes a world of a difference. Stay encouraged. Don’t jump too early into getting pregnant again. You want your body to heal first. The emotional part will take time, and you will come to peace with it. However, one baby does not replace the last, trust me.
When you are both ready, then try again, and whatever you do, do not blame yourself.
I lost my baby at week 6, and we had shared that I was pregnant with many people. I had even made numerous YouTube videos about it. We had share it with our families, our friends, and church members.
If you choose to hold off sharing this time, as you said you were considering, I understand. However, don’t feel like you have to do that.
Although, people may not understand the depth of your despair, and some individuals will have a way of making you feel like less than a woman, I personally think it is good to share. The reason is for times like these when you end up needing the people around you to give you support. How will they know what you are feeling unless they knew what you were going through?
This is a very personal decision, and one that through prayer I know you will make the best decision for you and your family. I will be praying for you.
I believe the second time around, this time, I still shared my pregnancy with my family at 4 weeks, but we didn’t start sharing it with anyone else until we had an ultrasound with a heartbeat at 7 weeks. We couldn’t be more happy. We were afraid of course. That fear is inevitable, but we also were so excited and we wanted to believe that God was able to pull this one through. Thus far, he has done just that, and we cannot wait to see our little baby. So many people go through this, and some unfortunately go through it numerous times.
The truth is, no matter how far along you are anything can happen. So, I put it in God’s hands. Women at my church prayed over me and my second pregnancy(this one), and that really put my mind at ease. However, there were times that I found myself checking and rechecking that everything was okay when I visited the ladies room. Then, there was a point where I decided, I was going to drive myself crazy unless I put my trust in God. It is a constant struggle. however,  I know he knows best, and then I tell myself why stress about something that you cannot control. Plus, it isn’t helping me or the baby.
I wish you and your family well. I know that God is going to bless you with everything that you need! Stay encouraged.
Lots of Love,
Chauntel
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19 Week Pregnancy Bump Update

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Here is my 19 week pregnancy update! I hope you all are having a Merry Christmas! It is very exciting to think that next year Baby Pillow will be celebrating Christmas with us!

Size of baby: Mango, about 6 inches long, weighing about 8.5 ounces

How far along?  19 weeks!

Total weight gain/measurements: about 17 pounds, 167 pounds
Maternity clothes: Yes, but I can mix and match my maternity bottoms with tops that I already have! I find maternity clothes to be so comfortable and forgiving to the belly as well as the rest of your growing body! I am very excited because David bought me a few maternity dresses for Christmas!
Nursery: We are still unpacking, no nursery yet.
Stretch marks: Thankfully no, but I know my tummy is stretching because I can feel it itch from time to time! I need to get some more cream though, I ran out last week.
Sleep: It has been a little more comfortable to sleep this week since David gave me my early Christmas gift, a pregnancy pillow.
Best moment this week: Finding my pregnancy pillow waiting for me in the bed, left there by my lovely husband, David.
Miss anything? Not having hip pain.
Movement: Yes, I notice the baby especially likes to move a night!
Food cravings: Sweets!
Anything making you queasy or sick? I bought David some sausage for breakfast this week. The seasonings grossed me out.
Gender: Don’t know yet, I’m leaning towards girl.
Labour signs: Nope, not yet.
Symptoms: Same as last week! I am very tired all the time, and sore most of the time as well. My back aches a lot, all the way down to my tailbone ): I am a lot happier these days. I hadn’t been able to cook up until about last week, 17 weeks. I am enjoying food more. I have been having cramping at night for the last week, and an itchy tummy sometimes. Also, I have been having a sore navel for the past month in general. The normal running to the restroom often. I get hungry very quickly, and try to eat small frequent meals throughout the day. I have breakfast every morning now. My bump is also getting bigger making it to where I cannot fit any of my pre-pregnancy bottoms.
Belly button in or out? It’s out! Been out for a few weeks now!
Wedding rings on or off? On, but I did gain a little wait in my fingers, because one of my rings that couldn’t fit my ring finger on my right hand now fits!
Happy or moody most of the time: Mostly happy, haven’t been moody lately!
Looking forward to: Wearing my new maternity clothes and filming haul videos next week!
Watch my 19 Week Pregnancy Bump Update Video!