18 Week Pregnancy Bump Update

Collage18 weeks 6.jpgHere is my 18 week pregnancy update! I know it’s been a while since I have updated you guys, but being pregnant causes you to be extremely tired most of the time! I am glad to continue sharing this exciting journey.

Size of baby: Sweet Potato, 5.6 to 6.7 inches long, weighing about 6.7 ounces
How far along?  18 weeks!
Total weight gain/measurements: about 12 pounds
Maternity clothes: Yes, but I can mix and match my maternity bottoms with tops that I already have! I have also invested in a few maxi dresses both maternity and non maternity! However, I totally reccommend visiting the maternity store sooner than later. A lot of people shy away from it because they don’t think its necessary, but I think it is worth it! You don’t have to go crazy, but give yourself options!
Nursery: We are still unpacking, no nursery yet.
Stretch marks: Thankfully no, but I know my tummy is stretching because I can feel it itch from time to time!
Sleep: It has been a struggle to get comfortable, but I found that using a pillow beneath my tummy helps a lot. Also, running to the bathroom in the middle of the night has become a regular occurrence. I am hoping to get a pregnancy pillow very soon!
Best moment this week: Finally, my husband, David, felt the baby move. I began feeling small movements at about 13 weeks which was amazing. However, over the last few weeks I have begun to feel the baby moving more and more! This week it has been moving a whole lot! For the first time he was able to feel it moving last night! We both just laughed it was beautiful!
Miss anything? Not having back pain and sleeping through the night.
Movement: Yes, especially this week. It began as feeling like a flutter at about 14 weeks. It kind of felt like a few feathers floating in a petal moving around. Now it feels like actual punching, twisting, and moving. 
Food cravings: Been craving Mexican food since the first month. Then shy-ed away from it month 2 and 3.
Anything making you queasy or sick? Looking at raw red meat before it is cooked grosses me out, and the thought of shrimp also grosses me out!
Gender: Don’t know yet, I’m leaning towards girl.
Labour signs: Nope, not yet.
Symptoms: I am very tired all the time, and sore most of the time as well. My back aches a lot, all the way down to my tailbone ): I am a lot happier these days. I hadn’t been able to cook up until about last week, 17 weeks. I am enjoying food more. I have been having cramping at night for the last week, and an itchy tummy sometimes. Also, I have been having a sore navel for the past month in general. The normal running to the restroom often. I get hungry very quickly, and try to eat small frequent meals throughout the day. I have breakfast every morning now. My bump is also getting bigger making it to where I cannot fit any of my pre-pregnancy bottoms.
Belly button in or out? It’s out! Been out for a few weeks now!
Wedding rings on or off? On, but I did gain a little wait in my fingers, because one of my rings that couldn’t fit my ring finger on my right hand now fits!
Happy or moody most of the time: Mostly happy, haven’t been moody lately!
Looking forward to: My pregnancy pillow!
Stay tuned for a new video coming soon!

Kendra Chooses to Stay With Hank Baskett After He Cheated- Should You Stay Married After Infidelity?

Screen Shot 2014-12-10 at 12.46.09 PMKendra Baskett has been thrust into the spotlight since her time in the Playboy Mansion. The reality star and model starred in the E! reality television series Girls Next Door. This series documented her life as one of Hugh Hefner’s girlfriends. She now headlines her own reality series Kendra on Top. With all of this time in the lime light Kendra has shared intimate moments of her life with a broad audience. Her husband Hank, of six years, allegedly cheated on her with a transexual model, Ava London. Hank was very remorseful and went into a deep depression surrounding the time of his affair, he shares with US Weekly. “For the past two years, I’ve gone through a serious struggle with depression, and during that time I lost the ability to open up toScreen Shot 2014-12-10 at 12.49.50 PM my best friend, Kendra,” Hank told Us Weekly. “I had trouble thinking of the right thing to say the right way, especially in a situation like this, where it’s your word against someone else’s.” When the story about her perfect marriage, looking to be in shambles, broke Kendra found it difficult to deal with all of the pressure of media. However, she handled it gracefully. During, her exclusive interview with Access Hollywood Kendra defended her marriage. Then, in a later interview with Giuliana Rancic, Kendra stated: “I cannot shut this man down. I’m willing to spend the rest of my life trying to figure this out rather than spend one night single.” Whether or not you agree with Kendra’s decision, you must believe that it took a lot of strength for her to stand up against the media’s chastising of her decision to stay with Hank. Do you agree with Kendra’s decision, vote below? My Opinion: I feel that Kendra made this decision based on what was best for her. It’s easy to point fingers and say what she should do, but its her marriage and her life. Unless, you can live it for her, let her make her own decision and don’t ridicule her for it! We can all take time to judge what Hank has done, and most would tell her to leave him. However, we do not have all the facts, and we are not in their relationship. If their love is strong enough to survive, then let it go on! But Kendra, if these patterns with Hank continue get-out-of-dodge!

First French Kiss Advice

Anna writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I have a boyfriend, and we have already kissed.  But now i think we will French Kiss. I really want to but don’t know how. I am really nervous and scared.

Please write me back if you can.
Big fan of yours. Love Anna
Hi Anna,
Thanks so much for your question. You made a very important statement, that you really want to. I want to make sure that, that is absolutely true because you should not be forced or encouraged into doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Screen Shot 2014-11-07 at 10.58.53 AMNow, I am not a kissing expert, haha. However, what I can tell you is that this is something that you learn in the moment. Just follow his lead, go with the flow. You will quickly learn.
Most importantly take it slow. There is nothing attractive about a forceful tongue, when force is not wanted or needed. So, don’t rush it just let it happen slowly. You will get the hang of it.
Remember, to protect yourself. His hands should stay around your waist, not above or below. If he tries any funny business. Politely move his hands back to where they should be. He will get the message. If not, there is something wrong with that picture.
Thanks for your support!
I Hope This Helps!
Chauntel
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How to Keep Your Husband’s Attention – Marriage Advice

Screen Shot 2014-11-05 at 12.41.18 PMHello Jewels! This one is for all of my married ladies out there! I hope to be writing to you more often! So send me questions about your woes to askchauntel@gmail.com, or click contact above. So, we women have a lot of responsibility. The twenty first century woman is no less busy than her predecessors. Although, some of her tasks may have been made easier through modern technology, modern society has found a way to pile up the tasks even higher. They require time and energy. Let’s consider, a modern day women has to take care of the home, take care of herself, take care of her children, take care of her husband, and work a job. Now these big responsibilities are filled with many small ones, that shall remain nameless at this point. So how can a modern day women accomplish all of her responsibilities well, while still making her husband feel loved and appreciated and keep her head? Well let’s be honest, it is no easy suit. It really comes down to time management. Ok, so no body is perfect but spending some time planning and prioritizing your man’s needs into your life is essential. True, it is not that he doesn’t matter, even though he may begin to feel a little unappreciated at times. In fact it is quite the contrary. With the added responsibility of children and a job the husband can sometimes suffer a little bit of lost of our time. Screen Shot 2014-11-05 at 12.53.11 PMIt is therefore, essential that we as women plan our time accordingly and keep time with him as a constant priority. Now, don’t stress yourself out in the process, just make a conscious effort to plan time with him. It may not work out perfectly everyday, but you have to give it a go. He will know if you are trying. The last thing that we want, is our man to feel that we could care less about him. So here is some friendly advice to keep his attention and his attraction on you. 1. Exercise – Now, we know beauty doesn’t last forever visually, but let’s help it as much as we can by keeping our body and health up. It will keep your body looking and feeling beautiful. 2. Have Some Me Time – Time to reflect, meditate, pray, relax is very essential to keeping your mind at ease. It will help you to stress out less. This will in turn keep down arguments between you and your spouse and children. It will also keep you from being high strung and naggy. 3. Spend Some Alone Time With Him Often – The two of you have to decide exactly how often is often, but you must have a weekly goal that you should try to reach on time that you spend alone together. 5. Have a Date Night - These should occur weekly. 6. Fulfill His Requests - Well you know what they are! Listen to his concerns and be sure to highlight those areas of you that he finds attractive. 7. Look Your Best - Just because you’re married it doesn’t mean your dead. So wear lingerie for him. Be cute around the house as much as you can! Just take care of yourself. 8. Compliment Him - Let him know how much you love and appreciate him! Compliment him on specific things that he does that you enjoy! Having a Hard time prioritizing and setting that goal? Check Out My Video: How to Set a Goal and Plan for Success Well ladies, I hope this helps! Send questions to askchauntel@gmail.com Tweet/Insta @askchauntel

11 Week Pregnancy Bump Update

Video Still from 10 Week Youtube Video Update

Video Still from 10 Week Youtube Video Update

Here is my 11 week pregnancy update! I wanted to go ahead and get these going! I will update you weekly! Enjoy!

Size of baby: Lime, 1.6 inches long, with a 1:1 Body to Head Ratio, weighing about .25 ounces
How far along?  11 weeks!
Total weight gain/measurements: about 5 pounds
Maternity clothes: Not in this video, but I did make a purchase of my first maternity outfit last week.
Nursery: We are moving this week, no nursery yet.
Stretch marks: No, but I did notice the dark line this week going down the center of my tummy, starting at my navel. It is called the Linea Nigra.
Sleep: It has been a struggle to get comfortable, but I found that using a pillow beneath my tummy helps a lot. Also, running to the bathroom in the middle of the night has become a regular occurrence.
Best moment this week: Finally posting that I was pregnant on my YouTube channel. I have been wanting to share it for a while, but I haven’t felt well enough to film until now. Which, begs for another great moment starting to feel a little less nauseous all the time.
Miss anything? Not feeling guilty to drink a Coke or cup of Coffee. I know I can have it in moderation, but it still makes me feel bad every time.
Movement: Nope, not yet. I cannot feel the baby move. However, I can feel that its there. Especially when I try to twist my body. It always feels weird and uncomfortable.
Food cravings: Not this week. I have mostly had food aversions. Food scares me these days.
Anything making you queasy or sick? Just about everything that has a strong scent. The only thing that doesn’t bother me is sweets! Hahaha.
Gender: Too soon to know, but I’m leaning towards girl.
Labour signs: Nope, not yet.
Symptoms:  I am nauseous all day, although it is getting better. I have food aversions to most strong smelling foods. Any and every strong smell makes me sick. I am very tired all the time, and sore most of the time as well. My back aches a lot, all the way down to my tailbone ): I am also extremely emotional, and occasionally moody. However, I am doing my best to keep my emotions in check. The normal running to the restroom often. I get hungry very quickly, and try to eat small frequent meals throughout the day. My bump is also getting bigger making it harder for me fit into most of my clothes.
Belly button in or out? In, but it looks like it might be reverting slowly, haha.
Wedding rings on or off? On, but I did gain a little wait in my fingers, because one of my rings that couldn’t fit my ring finger on my right hand now fits!
Happy or moody most of the time: Mostly happy, but occasionally moody. We are moving so this causes a little added stress which leads to moody.
Looking forward to: Not feeling sick and all and having more energy.
Watch my 10 week pregnancy vlog below!
 

Nicki Minaj Uses a Bat on Her BF’s Car – How to Hit Your Boyfriend Where It Hurts

Hello Jewels and Gems! It is Celebrity Tuesday!

Screen Shot 2014-11-04 at 1.36.52 PMSo Nicki Minaj busted a move on Safaree Samuels, her longtime now X-“boyfriend’s car”, during an argument this past summer. It is rumored that the conversation got quite loud and heated.

In the heat of the conversation, she chased him out of the house with a bat, trashed his clothes, and destroyed the Benz that he drove.

The cops were called, but why didn’t she get arrested? She owned the Mercedes Benz that she trashed with the bat, and you cannot be punished for destroying your own property. No arrests were made, and he was escorted out of the house and left. They broke up soon after.

Now, I am not encouraging violence, but if you have a bad break up and you need to get some anger out, take a note from Nicki, don’t physically harm the person, find something else to get your frustration out with. And like Nicki, if you decide to destroy the car that they drive, just make sure it is in your name, hahaha.

Good one Nicki! Now, she doesn’t have to worry about him driving around with another chick in the passenger seat of the car that she bought. Oh young love!

Always remember, what goes around comes around so treat the people in your life right. Or else, you will reap what you sow. Sow good seeds lads, sow good seeds. – TAKE THE POLL BELOW

Peace and Love!

Chauntel

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How to Ask a Girl Out – Without Creeping Her Out!

16-year-old Luis from Houston Texas writes:

Hi Chauntel,

I love the show, and you give great advice. Even from both perspectives, but I just kind of need advice.

Every time I talk to girls they seem to be creeped out, like they’ll walk away slowly, give one answer response. When I approach girls I usually give a compliment or talk about the surroundings. For example i was talking to this girl and she was being weird about it. So I asked “why are you walking like I’m creeping you out?” And she said “cause you are” I’ll give them a compliment, and that’s when things go wrong.. Maybe I’m coming off too strong? Any advice to do when I’m this situation again. I want her to feel comfortable. It be amazing if you can help me. Thank you, take care.

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Hi Luis,

Thanks so much for your kind words! I am so glad that you enjoy the show! I decided to go ahead and share your question on my blog here. I also have a few videos that I have created related to this subject. I am not sure if you have seen them, but I will leave them below. Hopefully, you will find them helpful.

So, here is where I think the problem lies. When you approach a girl, small talk is ok, which it seems like you are doing. However, there also seems to be an awkwardness associated with your encounters.

You want to involve her in the conversation, and get her interested in what you are saying. Randomly giving her compliments is making her feel uncomfortable.

So for example the conversation could go something like:

Luis: “Wow isn’t today a beautiful day?”

Girl: “Yea, its really pretty today.”

Luis: “It it is made even more beautiful by your smile. My name is Luis. What is your name?”

(Luis reaches out hand out to shake Sarah’s hand.)

Girl: “Hi Luis, my name is Sarah.”

Luis: “Oh it is so nice to meet you Sarah.”

Sarah: “It’s nice to meet you too Luis.”

Luis: “So what does a beautiful girl like you have planned for this beautiful day?”

Sarah: “Oh thank you. Actually I am here to…….”

Luis: Responds to what Sarah has planning for the day

Screen Shot 2014-11-04 at 10.55.29 AMSo, here you have introduced yourself nicely and given her a compliment. You also have gotten her involved in the conversation without creeping her out. Now this last conversation piece is key.

After you complete your small talk conversation, its time to seal the deal!

Let Sarah know that you have enjoyed your conversation, and you would like to talk to her more later. Then ask her for her phone number so you can “text her later”. If she doesn’t want to give you that ask her for her Facebook or Instagram. If she isn’t interested you will know because she will politely decline.

Not every girl will be interested in you. However, if you keep these things in mind and make her feel apart of the conversation it will help. Don’t drop random compliments it will make her feel uncomfortable.

Also, be careful what you are complimenting her about. Keep it simple, like telling her she is beautiful, or saying something nice about her smile or her eyes. Also, don’t let your eyes wonder all over her body when you are talking to her. Keep it at about eye level. Be calm and relax. If you are nervous, she will probably be able to tell, and it will make her more uncomfortable.

Women like men who are confident within themselves. See yourself as the cool guy. If you want her to believe it, you have to believe it first!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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I’m Pregnant! – 1 – 10 Weeks Pregnant – 1st Trimester Pregnancy

Here is the beginning of my new pregnancy journey! I am so happy to share this special time with you all! I hope that you enjoy. In this video, I share my excitement, challenges, and symptoms.

If you are new to my channel, let me catch you up. I was pregnant this past summer, but we lost the baby due to the genetics of the baby. This normally happens in the first trimester.

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I Am Pregnant! – What to Do at 1-4 Weeks Pregnant -1st Trimester Pregnancy http://youtu.be/Qm3z3cWeeRo

Stay connect with me!

As promised here is the beginning of our vacation to my friend Peaches wedding. We drove there for about 14 hours. We share some of the moments we had on the way. There was a lot of no mans land on this trip, but it was fun to spend time with David! Let me know if you would like to see more videos like this! love ya!

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Help My Husband Is Addicted to Drugs

Lily Ann writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I d0n’t kn0w what do. I need advice. My husband is a drug abuser, and our relationship is not working. However, I love him and so do our children.

We have tried to come to an agreement, but it is useless. How long will I wait for him to be a good man and not always lie? I want to leave him, but its really hurtful. I don’t want to regret anything. I feel like it would be ruining my own family. I am also dealing with verbal abuse from him.

Please help me Chauntel!

Hi Lily Ann,

You are in a very difficult situation, and I am sorry that you have to endure such pain. However, I applaud you for admitting that this is a challenge in your lifScreen Shot 2014-10-30 at 1.20.16 PMe and seeking for a way to face it.

It is essential that your husband receives professional help. However, he has to be ready and willing to seek out this help. Neither you nor anyone else can make him change, it has to be a conscious decision that he wants to make in his life.

It reminds me of the metaphor, you can bring a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink.

So here is my advice to you, seek some spiritual counseling for yourself and for your children. If you are not involved in a church I think now is a great time to introduce yourself and your children to the comfort and support that God brings.

Then, I want you to utilize the resources around you to get your husband the help that he needs and deserves. If he is willing to receive help great, you guys can work towards a positive future. If you are not able to find resources around you. I have a list of Crisis Help Resources here on my website that should be of use to you. Here is the link.

In addition, if he is causing harm to you and your children and is not in the mindset to receive help or make a change you will have to part ways with him. I know that this is a very difficult situation to be in, and no wife wants to leave her husband. However, you have to consider you and your children’s safety and well being.

I hope that he is willing to receive help to break this bad habit and find spiritual peace within himself as well, but it is truly his decision to make.

You can bring him to the water of life, but he has to choose to follow you and take the steps necessary to try to make a better life for you and your children.

If he does not, he will leave you with no choice but to part ways.

I will be praying for you and your family. I hope it works out, and I wish you all the best!

Peace and Love!

Chauntel

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