Lily Ann writes:
I d0n’t kn0w what do. I need advice. My husband is a drug abuser, and our relationship is not working. However, I love him and so do our children.
We have tried to come to an agreement, but it is useless. How long will I wait for him to be a good man and not always lie? I want to leave him, but its really hurtful. I don’t want to regret anything. I feel like it would be ruining my own family. I am also dealing with verbal abuse from him.
Please help me Chauntel!
Hi Lily Ann,
You are in a very difficult situation, and I am sorry that you have to endure such pain. However, I applaud you for admitting that this is a challenge in your life and seeking for a way to face it.
It is essential that your husband receives professional help. However, he has to be ready and willing to seek out this help. Neither you nor anyone else can make him change, it has to be a conscious decision that he wants to make in his life.
It reminds me of the metaphor, you can bring a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink.
So here is my advice to you, seek some spiritual counseling for yourself and for your children. If you are not involved in a church I think now is a great time to introduce yourself and your children to the comfort and support that God brings.
Then, I want you to utilize the resources around you to get your husband the help that he needs and deserves. If he is willing to receive help great, you guys can work towards a positive future. If you are not able to find resources around you. I have a list of Crisis Help Resources here on my website that should be of use to you. Here is the link.
In addition, if he is causing harm to you and your children and is not in the mindset to receive help or make a change you will have to part ways with him. I know that this is a very difficult situation to be in, and no wife wants to leave her husband. However, you have to consider you and your children’s safety and well being.
I hope that he is willing to receive help to break this bad habit and find spiritual peace within himself as well, but it is truly his decision to make.
You can bring him to the water of life, but he has to choose to follow you and take the steps necessary to try to make a better life for you and your children.
If he does not, he will leave you with no choice but to part ways.
I will be praying for you and your family. I hope it works out, and I wish you all the best!
Peace and Love!
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