How to Deal With Depression & Teen Bullying

Have you been depressed and looking for a way out? This video will help with that along with other issues that may be getting your spirit down. Even bullying can be overcome! Watch!

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How to let go of Depression – Ask Chauntel with Reporter Elizabeth Espinosa

How to stop cutting yourself? – Life Advice for Girls – Ask Chauntel

 

 

How to Resist Temptation and Be Strong in God – Ask Chauntel

Have you ever come across a temptation that was so strong that you could not find a way out. How do you overcome these spiritual challenges? What does God tell us about this? Let’s take it straight to the scripture! Watch!

My Boyfriend is a Jew, and I am a Christian – Relationship Advice – Ask Chauntel

15-year-old Summer from England writes:

Hello Chauntel!

I have a boyfriend who lives maybe 30 minutes away by train. We meet on a online chat room, and the same week we agreed to meet.
We have meet 3 times since. He’s 16 nearly 17. We have only known each other 5 weeks.
He asked me out on the second time we meet, and i said yes. I can’t tell my parents because they are really strong Christians and he is Jewish, they wont let me have a boyfriend, let alone a Jewish one. I don’t want to tell them just in case they don’t let me see him.
He has told all his friends and family that we are dating, but saying we meet at a party not online because he’s embarrassed of where we meet.
We Skype nearly everyday and i really really like him What should i do?!
Love from
Summer
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Hello Summer,
When it comes to religion, it gets really gummy. I understand your dilemma. However, keeping him a secret is not the answer.
If you were of a marrying age my advice would be different(mostly run far away, This won’t work out., I wouldn’t touch this with a ten foot poll!), but since you are  so young this is how I would approach your situation.
Go to you parents and tell them that you are interested in dating someone. Let them meet him. Try to stray away from conversations about religion. Don’t lie to you parents. If they ask then you must be honest, but if they don’t ask then don’t bring it up. Here is the thing, sneaking around, having secret train rides is dishonest and not safe. Also, you will loose their trust, and this for you will be unbearable.
They will trust you much more if you let them know that you met someone. If after you have to told them the truth, they still ban you from talking to him because of your differing religions you must respect their wishes.
As children of God, we must obey our parents. It is written, Ephesians 6:1, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.”
Also, I wouldn’t make too big a deal out of this. It would be unwise to get into a deeply rooted relationship with him because eventually you will have to part ways.
The Bible informs us that to be together we must be equally yoked. What does that mean?
It means you have to be of the same mind. Meaning amongst other things, same religion, same values. There is a scripture in Amos, that says (Amos 3:3) “How can two walk together unless they touch and agree.” Now it doesn’t mean literraly touch. This verse in symbolic. Meaning on the same level spiritually.
I know that this can be annoying as well as  seem unfair. I have been in your situation. I was a little older, but it was the same type of thing. I was dating a guy who was of a different denomination that me. I am deeply rooted in mine. We couldn’t agree, and fought a lot. I thought to myself, how can I be with a guy who doesn’t believe the same things as I do. What will my children believe? It was then that I decided it would not be a good idea to become too deeply involved with him. I dated him casually until I met the next guy. The end goal was to find a man that I could eventually marry. Which I did, and he is a catch :)!
Now, the religion title itself is not what matters. The belief system is what matters. As long as you go into your relationship with this understanding then I think you will be ok. But I recommend that you let your parents know that you are dating someone. Again, SNEAKING AROUND BEHIND THEIR BACKS IS NO THE ANSWER.
I Hope That Helps!
Chauntel
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Why Did God Make Me Black? – Ask Chauntel

Chauntel responds to a question from a viewer who gets personal about her struggle with being a young black women in a white world in West Virginia. How should she deal with the racism? Chauntel shares her own story and gives insights into what it must feel like to be a black girl in a white world. Watch! askchauntel@gmail.com http://www.askchauntel.com

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Video: Does Religion Matter in Dating? – Ask Chauntel – Advice Column

Have you ever dated someone who does not uphold the same values and beliefs as you? Can this type of relationship work? Should you consider dating this individual? Watch!
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Radio Archive: Should You Risk Your Friendship for a Relationship?

radio micAs promised in last night’s Radio Show here is the information for Beauty Blogger

Bernadette Ortega from <a href=”http://beautydette.com/”>http://beautydette.com/</a&gt;

and Wellness Coach Marlene Perez <a href=”http://wellnesswithmarlene.wordpress.com/”>http://wellnesswithmarlene.wordpress.com/ </a&gt;

We had so much fun on the radio show last night. The topic was:

The ladies and I really got into the topic at times sharing our personal experiences and giving introspective into the topic. Listen and call next week with questions and comments at (646) 715-3900 ext 10988. The link to the radio show is http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askchauntel

Here is the show:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askchauntel/2013/09/20/dating-and-relationship-advice-from-ask-chauntel

I Don’t Feel Pretty at All

Mia The Lost Girl writes:

Dear Chauntel,

I’m in a phase where I don’t think I’m pretty at all, like I’m crap even though how much I wash my face and groom myself, buy fancy clothes etc. If people ask me they said I’m fine. I don’t know why, please help. Thanks.

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Hello Mia The Lost Girl,

Well one thing that you must know is the clothes don’t make the girl. It is the girl who makes the clothes. So, with that being said, no amount of make up or shopping  can replace a genuine love that you have to find within yourself.

All of the material things aside. I want you to take a moment of appreciation for life. Remember, tomorrow is not promised. You have to live each day as if it was your last. Embrace every fabric of your being and know that you were placed on this earth for a reason. God has a true purpose for your life. If it was not so, you would not be here.

Now, once you have accepted that for what it is you can begin to move forward. Stop trying to use things to make you feel better. Now they don’t say a diamond is a girls best friend for nothing. When we have pretty things we automatically feel pretty, but if that’s all you have it’s for not.

So here is what I want you to do. Strip away all of these things that you think you need to feel pretty. Stand infront of the mirror, and select something about yourself that you are proud of. Focus on that and appreciate. Then, I want you to focus on reversing this negative self talk that you have.

Stop telling yourself how much you don’like you and begin telling yourself over and over that you love you. Everyday, I want you to write down at least 2 things that make you special and unique. If you have to repeat one day that’s ok. More will come. After a months time, I want you to look in the mirror again and see how many beautiful things you like about yourself.

Continue to do this as long as you need to. You my friend are beautiful, and it doesn’t matter how much I or anyone else says it. If you don’t accept it, you will never hear it. So, it is time for you to start making changes. Make your life great. If you don’t then who will?

You are the only one who can change your destiny. Nobody ever said it was easy to be beautiful right? You can do it. I would love to hear how you are doing too!

I Hope This Helps!

Chauntel

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