Confessions of a Mommy Blogger -Mommy Monday

Hello My Beautiful Jewels and Gems!

So this post will be very brief, yet informative.

I have gotten bored with what I have done with this Confessions series. It has been great to share some of my past experiences, but I like sharing the present ones much better.

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To describe the present, I may reach back in the past, but the posts that you will see here going forward will mostly reflect what is going on with me currently.

 

If this makes you sad, let me know, it may give me some motivation to continue where I left off a couple of weeks ago.

Otherwise, I am moving forward with these posts, and I hope that you are as excited about them as I am!

And you will keep seeing my other original content coming your way of course!

Be Blessed!

Chauntel

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KTLA-5 News Internship – Confessions of a Mommy Blogger

So we are back at it again this week with a Confessions post for those of you following this series!

I am very excited to begin sharing what my experience was like as an Intern at KTLA 5 News.

I was in my junior year at Cal State Fullerton, and I had heard numerous times how important it was to intern. I also kept hearing doing multiple internships was helpful.

So, I  attended a the Annual CSUF Career Fair where I met the HR Manager of KTLA 5 News. I had my resume and Cover-letter addressed to KTLA along with a number of other companies that I was interested in interning for.

I knew the key was creating a great relationship, and part of that was addressing the company directly. As a freshman, I began attending the career fair to prepare myself for this day.

I remember being at the career fair and the recruiters from different companies being impressed that I was there so early. I took it as an opportunity to prepare myself for what was to come in my career in coming years. I am a pretty resourceful person, and I like to be as prepared for the future as possible.

4500_1151308588804_4157827_nSo, I stood in line to meet this wonderful woman who welcomed me with a smile. I handed her my resume and cover letter, and she told me about the internships that she had available. She then proceeded to ask me what I was interested in.

I let her know that the entertainment news internship sounded the most appealing to me. We chatted a bit longer, and I went to the next table and had similar conversation.

It wasn’t until about 2 months later, that I heard from KTLA. I had a phone interview that led to an in person interview with the same woman.

She was very kind, and I was very excited. Next week, I will share my reaction to being in a TV station for the first time.

Thanks for tagging along with me, and let me know what you think about this series so far!

xoxo

Chauntel

Becoming a Double Major – Communications Major – Mommy Monday

Happy Monday Mommies!

So last week I shared my psychology internship experience, and how it left me unsure about the future of my career as a clinical psychologist.

So, lets go back to my freshman year because that will give a bit of background on my interest in what become my second major, Communications, Broadcast Journalism.

I will be introducing you to one of my 10 to 15 roommates of my college experience. I will tell you more about the rest later.

So, during my freshman year, I had a couple of international student roommates, from Korea. Today, I will be telling you about the one roommate who was a Communications major.

We took part in normal college roommate conversation, sharing our majors with each other. Of course, I entered Cal State Fullerton as a psychology major.

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My Korean Roommate told me that she was a Communications major. I was intrigued by this. I wanted to know more.

So, I visited the College of Communications department to learn more about the major. I soon found out that there were many concentrations within the communications major. The one that took my interest quickly was Broadcast Journalism.

It seemed like an awesome opportunity for me because it would accomplish my goal of of being on TV, in the entertainment industry.

After this visit to the communications department. I began to look into the process of declaring a second major.

I believe, I declared Communications, Broadcast Journalism as a second major my sophomore year.

This would soon open many doors for me to the likes of internships in places like KTLA 5 News, E Entertainment, and NBCUniversal. I had no idea what was coming next for me, but I was ready to take part in great things!

 

We will continue on a journey next week!

xoxo

Chauntel

Confessions of a Mommy Blogger – The Emotional Scars of Being a Therapist

Happy Monday Jewels and Gems!

Todays walk down memory lane takes us to the moment that I had decided that Clinical Psychology was not for me.

If you are just beginning to read these blogs, be sure to go back and read the other entries under the Confessions category of the blog!

So, as I participated in the my psychology internship, I quickly learned that there are many aspects to the Clinical Psychology profession that just didn’t mesh well with my personality.

My main concern was that the internship was emotionally taxing for me. I found myself having a hard time separating work from home. I was bringing all of those emotions of sadness home with me, even at the intern level. Becoming a therapist, would mean more emotional encounters, and I did not want to be sad all of the time.

Also, when I participated in the intake interviews, I was able to get the feel of a therapy session. I did enjoy helping the families, but their situations and what they were going through also made me sad. It was hard to find joy in what I was doing.

In addition to being sad from the the Intake Interviews and Monitored Visitations, the phone calls and interactions that I had with customers were usually unpleasant.

The frustration that the families felt was understandable, but I didn’t feel that I should be punished for the system and what they were going through. However, I felt attacked most of the time, and I was unable to help them out of there situation.

In addition to my hands on experience at the internship. I was also surrounded with Marriage and Family Therapy(MFT) students who were in their Masters Programs, and I was of course still in my Bachelor’s Program at CSUF. So, being the inquisitive girl that I am, I began asking them questions.

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I also had some heart-to-heart conversations with some of the students who were completing an internship in counseling, while I was completing my undergrad psychology internship.

Many of these interns were struggling financially because I believe they  were working for free, just like me. They also had to pay the bills, so they were also working part time and going to school.

These MFT students soon taught me that getting your MFT is at least a 4-year-program. Not only did you have to complete your masters program, which takes about 2.5 years. You also had to complete a huge number of internship hours, that took most people about 2 years to complete. Most of the students I ran into told me they had to complete something like 3,000 hours of internship. Their internship including giving therapy sessions and shadowing a MFT. They also got feedback from their MFT after playing back some of their therapy sessions.

To me, it made more sense to get my doctorate than it would to get my masters since it is more of an advanced degree, and takes about the same amount of time to complete, 4 to 5

Next week, I will explain how these experience propelled me to the next stage of my career!

Please let me know what you think if you would like to share your thoughts!

Lots of Love

xoxo

Chauntel

 

 

Mommy Monday – My Psychology Internship Experience

Hello My Beautiful Jewels and Gems,

So during my junior year, at Cal State Fullerton. I decided to take my psychology internship class.

It was very important to me to choose an internship that gave me real life experience. I did not wish to only earn the credits for my G.P.A., but I wanted an experience that I could take away to test the theory of becoming a Clinical Psychologist.

Let’s rewind about five years, when I was a freshman in high school, I had taken a course called Freshman Studies that allowed you to explore your future career. During this course we worked on a year long project to research our future career to find out more about it.

At this time, I decided to research being a Counseling Psychologist. I wasn’t sure if I would still want to follow this career path after researching it.

I was pleased that upon completing the course and completing the project, I still wanted to pursue that career. Of course I was planning to pursue a career as a Counseling Psychologist as a back-up plan to my dreams of working in the entertainment industry.

Therefore, I went through the rest of my high school and the beginning of my college career planning on pursuing a career in Counseling/Clinical Psychology.

braidsSo the internship, was a huge test for me because I understood that real life experience was far superior to just studying a career.

So back to my junior year at Cal State Fullerton, I completed my internship at a Counseling and Education center. Which, is now closed to my understanding.

I was a monitor for monitor visitations. I completed Intakes, which were the interviews that lead to a new monitor visitation case beginning in our program.

In addition to doing Intake interviews, I also monitored court ordered visits between parents and their children.

The intake interviews gave me a “patient-therapist” type of experience. The monitoring gave me a “relationship-building” type of experience that occurs between a therapist and their clients.

Also, I answered incoming phone calls and completed outgoing calls to get more monitor visitation cases going in our program. In order for these children to see their parents, we had to complete an Intake interview with both parents. Which meant, they both had to be compliant.

Even though, the court had ordered these visits many of the parents did not follow through. So, if one parent came and completed their interview, but the other did not, then that parent could not see their child.

Many times, this caused parents who were not seeing their children to become very upset. They would coincidentally, call and cuss me out because I was usually the one answering the phones two-days a week.

Also, the company was disorganized and had too many cases. There were even cases where both parents had come in and completed all of their paperwork and the Intake process, but because there were not enough monitors, we could not accommodate them.

Therefore, week-by-week they still could not see their children. These parents would also call and cuss me out, just because I was the one answering the phones.

My position included helping and checking people in at the front desk, answering phone calls, and completing outgoing phone calls to gain new monitor visitation cases. However, my most important job was completing Intakes and monitoring visitations. If you ask me, this was a lot of responsibility for an unpaid intern. Don’t you think?

The way monitored visits worked, was one parent would come 15 minutes earlier than the other because there was usually a restraining order between the parents. When that parent would arrive they would be put into a room, and I would close the door and wait for the second parent with the child to arrive.

Usually, when the visiting parent came in they would pay for the visit. If they were late, the visit was cancelled because we did not want to take a chance on both parents seeing each other.

Once the parent arrived with the child. They would leave the child with me, and I would take the child back to the visiting parent’s room. At this time, I would monitor the visit. Meaning, I would watch and record every interaction between the visiting parent and the child as much as possible. I was also required to write down any conversation they might have.

Once the visit was done, the second parent would arrive and pick up the child. 15-minutes-later the visiting parent was allowed to leave. I then put my notes into the families file and that concluded my day.

Next week I will tell you all about how this experience drove me away from Clinical and Counseling Psychology.

TaTa for Now!

Lots of Love xoxo!

Chauntel

Mommy Monday – Confessions of a Mommy Blogger – What it was like as a Psychology Major

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So being a psychology major was very challenging. The classes usually only had about three exams, and they were heavily weighted.

In addition, the material was very dense. Normally each exam covered about five chapters, and it was a lot of memorization.

Most of the time the test questions were situational. Therefore, not only did you have to know the material, but you also had to be able to apply it. Maybe it would not have been so difficult if I only had one class like this, but many times I had to take about two at a time. That only covered part of my load.

In order to graduate in 5 years, I had to take 5 classes at a time. Usually, I had one or two psychology classes, general education classes, and later communication classes.

Whenever, I told someone that I was a psychology major, they always figured that I was psychoanalyzing them. Which I found completely ridiculous. If you ask other people with psychology degrees they will tell you the same.

Stats never agreed with me, but I challenged myself and took up to advanced statistics before I graduated, because I knew I wanted to go to graduate school.

I expected to take a lot of fun and interested classes as a psychology undergrad, but I found that the required courses were pretty boring most of the time.

I took the classes that I needed to take to qualify for a graduate program so I had to miss out on fun classes like Psychology of Personality and Abnormal Psychology. Instead, I had to take classes like Learning and Memory.

I found it to be very technical and logical. There was a lot of research driven instruction which depending on the topic could be interesting, but I am sorry to say was pretty dry most of the time.

The most difficult part was figuring out which area of psychology that I would further my studies in. Most of my peers had this problem too.

However, I was able to find an area after much research, an internship, and many personal conversations! More on that later.

These would leave me far from what I had originally thought I would do as a “back-up” to my acting and modeling dreams!

Next week, I will share all about my psychology internship, and how that left me at a crossroad of confusion in my undergraduate career! More on that later.

Until Next Weeks My Loves!

xoxo

Chauntel

 

 

 

 

Mommy Monday – How I Found My College Major- Confessions of a Mommy Blogger

Hello My Beautiful Jewels and Gems!

So trying to figure out what you are going to do with the rest of your life when you are 18, is quite daunting.

Let’s be realistic, in our current world, at 18, most of us haven’t had the life experience to know what we want to do for the rest of our lives. I sure didn’t.

So it all began with a thought that became a dream for me. My plan was to become an actress and a high fashion model from the time I was about four years old. I literally saw Mary Kate and Ashely on “Full House” and I thought, I could do that! And there the dream was born!

However, my mom and dad made sure that I knew that college had to come first before any other career choices. So, I did what I had to do. I went to college.
I tried to find a school that I thought was not too far away from LA, because my plan was to go to auditions throughout the week as they came.

The college I selected to attend was California State University Fullerton. It was in Orange County, not to far from LA, and I liked that they had a diverse population on campus. Being from the Inland Empire, I was accustomed to having friends from all different backgrounds! I absolutely loved it! So this was a characteristic that I looked for in a college.

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Downtown Disney shopping with roommates in college!

I decided that if acting and modeling didn’t work out that I would have a “back-up” plan. My back-up plan was to became a Counseling Psychologist. I decided on this for a couple of reasons.

  1. I love to Talk
  2. I love to Help People

I later found out, neither of these reasons would quite get me to the right career. In fact, they were quite broad, and left me in the middle of a huge field of choices with countless decisions.

Here was the problem, I didn’t know which one I wanted to take. However, that story is for another day.

I entered Cal State Fullerton as a psychology major. Little did I know that my perception of what it was like to be a psychologist was skewed by what I saw on TV. Working in the field is nothing like what the shrink on TV makes it look like. I tried it so I know!

Ironically, during the 5 years that I was at Cal State Fullerton I did not go to a single audition.

In theory it sounded good, but in actuality I didn’t have the interest or time between work, school, and extra curricular activities. I had a full plate. To be honest, I really didn’t miss it, but I didn’t know that until later….

Until Next Week Loves!

xoxo

Chauntel

 

 

Mommy Monday – Confessions of a Mommy Blogger – 20 Something Year Olds – Early Life Crisis

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I have been making some very scary decisions lately. The kind of decisions that are life changing. These are the decisions that lead you to self discovery in your twenties. All of us “20 somethings” are faced with important decision after decision. And one does effect the other. So the pressure is on, and it seems non-stop.

What are these decisions I speak of:

  1. Where will I go to college?
  2. When will I go to college?
  3. Where will I work after college?
  4. Should I travel?
  5. Should I study abroad?
  6. Who will I marry?
  7. How will I find the right one?
  8. Do I want to have kids?
  9. How many kids do I want to have?
  10. When should I start having kids?
  11. What do I want to be when I grow up?
  12. How will I become that professional?
  13. Have I made my parents proud?
  14. When should I have the next kid?
  15. When can I buy a house?
  16. Where will I live?
  17. What job should I apply for?
  18. What job should I take?
  19. Who should I be friends with?
  20. Who am I?
  21. What makes me happy?
  22. Do I like my church?
  23. Where can I find a church?
  24. Do I like myself?
  25. When should I work out? And how much?

As I began writing tonight I realized that apparently, I have a lot to say.

I think about these things all the time, and you would have thought that I would have thought to blog about it right?

Well, I didn’t think of this. Which is very ironic because, I have had this blog for about 8 years. Very rarely have I blogged about myself, occasionally maybe. I purposely left myself out. So maybe it is time for a big scary change. Well scary for me anyway.

Now, to be honest, the fear comes from the unknown, the vulnerability of speaking from my heart. However, you know that is were all the good stuff is anyway right? At least that is what I would like to think.

There is no way that all I have to say can go into one entry. So here is what we are doing. We are making this into a new series on the blog. This series will be entitled as you see above: Confessions of a Mommy Blogger. I will be posting every Monday. Sometimes, it will be this series and others I will just blog about my daily life.

Haha, now I know that I am being very evasive, but work with me here. I am dealing with a lot of abstract thoughts. And yes, I have been told countless times, that I am so “deep”. Let’s begin with what inspired this whole idea anyway.

So, I work as a Substitute Teacher, and I subbed at my old high school this week. I ran right into one of my old coaches. Who is apparently not just a tennis coach, but a life coach too.  🙂 To my surprise, when she saw me she very boldly and quickly asked me what I was still doing here subbing.

That lead to a conversation about finding myself. She told me since I want to blog, then it was time that I began blogging about it. She told me that I am not the only one going through this, and I should share it!

Needless to say, I was enlightened and encouraged so Coach Gagnon thank you! We are off to a great start I can feel it!

Until next week Darlings!

xoxo

Chauntel

 

 

#FabLife Talk #Show

Hey Jewels!

So, I am so excited to share some photos and info with you! Last week, I had the opportunity to attend a live taping for the Day Time Talk Show #FabLife! It is a show all about how to live a fabulous life on a dime!

I found the show to be very bright and fun! I like the segments that they do, including but not limited to: Entertainment, Fashion, Food, DIY, etc.

It was very awesome to see, Tisha Campbell Martin appear as a host on the show! I remember watching her as a little girl on Martin! Anyway it was a lot of fun watching her and the other hosts interact!

They had a make-up segment that explained the right colors for your complexion, and I quite enjoyed that. I also enjoyed the fun DIY they did, it was a canvas that lights up.

I went to the show with my sister, and a dear friend who watches Baby Celina for me! I will post photos below! We had front row seats! The show we went for is airing May 3!

Tata for Now!

Chauntel

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Pink Makeup Look Ft. My Inspiration Look #1

Hello My Beautiful Jewels and Gems!

So I wanted to share this video with you! It is from my cousin Chataira! She shares a really beautiful make up look, which she explains is inspired by me! It is a great look and a very touching video! I hope that you enjoy it!

Leave comments below on your thoughts!

Lots of Love!

Chauntel